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A Life Lesson
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05-02-16 07:27 PM
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For those who did not know, I was gone. I said so here:

Well.... That was a lot shorter than I had expected. Anyways, I have returned and am feeling uneasy, but I'll explain why later. While I was gone, I learned three important things in life; time management, trust, and assertiveness.

I learned that it is vital to manage your time. Whether it be with work or friends, managing your time can make things oh so much smoother in your life. Last week, I took an assessment exam and two benchmarks on Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday. Now, prior to those days, I studied and had to re-learn a few concepts, which was fine-- I figured that as much. When the test days arrived, I would have my parents drive me down to the facility or college and pick me up when I was done. The assessment took about four hours, and the two benchmarks took between four to six hours, according to my mom. Whenever I came back from testing, I would sleep for four hours and wake up. However, because I devoted most of my time to studying, sleeping and-- dare I say it on this site-- goofing around. I hardly got most of my regular homework done. For those who don't know, I am homeschooled/onlineschooled and on top of that I am taking six classes-- eight if you're counting P.E. and Community Service. Usually, I would take only four, but I am graduating a grade earlier. Anyways, I didn't do most of my homework and just goofed off like an idiot. Later on, I had to pay the price for my decision; my laptop and phone were taken from me until I was ahead of all of my classes.

You might be wondering, "When is she going to tell us why she's uneasy?" and don't worry, that time is now. Which brings us to our second agenda of this post; trust. I lost my parents trust in being an irresponsible child of their's and for not asking for help when needed. I hurt their feelings because they specifically told me to ask for help when I am falling behind, but I didn't. I thought I could handle it on my own, but I only goofed off even more. They were not aggravated, but more so disappointed in me. Thing is, I was doing so well in the beginning and middle of the semester, that they were proud I didn't need any help. Made some new friends, got excellent grades and knew my teachers very well, until I chose to plummet downward. Which comes to our next part of this post.

I learned something rather interesting in my Health class. It talked about different communicators; passive, aggressive, and assertive. Judging myself, based off what it taught, I am a passive communicator. What that means I:
- am very quiet and reclusive
- do not express how I feel or think (hide how I truly feel about something, majority of the time)
- let people push me around without complaining
- have bad refusal skills

Most passive communicators-- based off of myself and some of the people I know-- communicate through small gestures, expressions, and what we produce/create. For example, I communicate through my drawings or the small gestures I make, being; laughing only out of consideration, bouncing/shaking my legs, or pinching the end of my shirt. Those are only a few, by the way, there are many more. It is very hard for me to say the two-lettered-word that most parents have no problem saying. Reason for this is because I don't like hurting people's feelings and I tend to say it quite a lot when I have the initiative. So, I end up saying "sorry" or "I apologize" a lot of the times (just look at my drawing thread or one of my daily text message chats with friends). If someone needs me to do them a favor, I say yes. If someone wants to talk to me, I say yes. If someone asks me to draw them, I say yes. I say yes to almost everything, and that is not good. That makes me a doormat; something I tried to strive not to be. Because I goofed off-- including with people, I ended up getting my phone and laptop taken. I'm not saying that it was their fault-- I still probably would have gotten my things taken-- what I am saying is that it is mine. I was not assertive and did not let my friends know I needed to focus. I brushed my homework off like it was nothing, and I payed the price. I am aware of my reputation on here with a few people, and let me tell you that this just got added to that bad rep.

I hope that through all of what I said, you, whoever is reading this, does
not do the same thing as I did. Do not follow my example; prioritize your time and things you need to do. Tell your friends that you can talk some other time, because in the real world, work does not wait for anybody. You'll get lucky if it does, but most of the time-- no, it does not. Same thing applies to homework.

I'm not going to make a shorter version of this, because I have over twenty notifications and two private messages from people I do not know (hopefully, it's not about this or the other thread and if it is, please let it be sugarcoated. I already had three separate talks with my parents, I would appreciate it if I didn't get a fourth... or fifth).

Anyways, I'll see you guys around, hopefully, don't count on it.

Alrighty, then. See ya!
-- KK
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that is good that you have learned to manage your time. That will help you in the long run. My advice would just be to work hard, study hard and in time you will get your parents trusts back. Don't give up. Maybe you could set certain minutes a day that you are going to study and do homework. When I was in school that is what I did and it worked for me. Now, granted everybody is different but keep trying and don't give up. Also Philipians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me 

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Wow, that was really mature of you to change things in your schedule around like that. I actually admire your dedication to your schoolwork, and that respect to your parents. You made a great choice here. Remember, your school and real life come first. Your buddies are fine waiting for you to finish up.
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That's very good that you made time for your school work, I respect you for that so good job ^^
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You're very insightful, ma'am. I tip my hat to you. My word of advice. Life is not fair; you got to take what you need when you can get it. Thanks for your story, and keep up the good work.
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