mr.keys : What is it that they want because maybe it will shed some light on my situation.

I've had two friends claim to be in love with me, I had to reject them both. I've also rejected people who ask me out, or who've ask to be my boyfriend after a few dates.

But I only have one ex-boyfriend, and he is the one who dumped me. It was rough for me at the time, because it wasn't a mutual decision. We're still friends, though.

Zeldisaster : Well most of the time it was the other person who did the breaking up and not me. There were a few though that I decided to back out of. I was always nice about things or at least I tried to be but sometimes though things don’t go so well and no matter how gentle you might be it doesn’t end well and feelings end up getting hurt and so too does any friendship you may want to have.

Unfortunately for me all of my romantic relationships occurred when I was a teenager and I will freely admit that I wasn’t thinking things through at the time and thus wasn’t making the most rational decisions and probably said or did things that I would take back in a heartbeat now if I could.

Still though I would end up being the one who was dumped more often than not. To be honest I never really kept count of how many times or what really led to the breakups I just knew that it was over pretty much with the exception of my last real relationship where I did everything I could to keep it together. Looking back on things now that was one relationship I should have never gotten into let alone fought to save. I can honestly say that if I could have a do over with a relationship that is one that I wouldn’t want one.

As far as rejecting or being rejected well, I have been on both sides of that equation. As far as me rejecting people, I admit that because of what I’ve been through in life that I have my share of trust issues and simply am not as quick to trust and latch onto someone as I once was. I look at this as signs of maturity and learning from past mistakes. As for being rejected there were a couple of times where I put my cards on the table with someone and for whatever reason it never went anywhere or they just weren’t interested. As time has gone on I have learned to accept that and realize that it’s not productive or good to worry about why someone may have chose to go with a different person other than me. The only thing I can do is move forward and work on things that I see as problems within myself and look to improve.

In either circumstance whether you’re breaking up with someone or rejecting someone I do feel that it’s always better to be gentle and try to be as nice as possible about it even under circumstances where it may not always be easy.

So that girl I was talking about earlier in the thread?
I dumped her. Actually it was back in July. We'd gotten back together but I later found out she'd been playing me and going out with some other guy behind my back, keeping a close eye on to whom she admitted what. When if finally leaked I gave her an opportunity to change and start over again but she never did, so I ended it.

I'm never the one to break up with someone, I've loved every girlfriend I've ever had (which is few.)


But I've never broken up with them, never. I love people too much and get attached to them.


Anyway, I currently have a girlfriend and love her much, I hope nothing happens to us!

In the real thing, I always feel upset for a while after someone breaks up with me, but shortly realize there is simply nothing I can do to stop it.. so yeah, I've been dumped, but I'm never the one to do the dumping.