I'm very sorry to hear that you're going through this. Death is not an easy thing to go through, at all. Just try to remember the good times you've had with him and try to keep in mind he has at least lived a full life. Despite his passing in real life, he'll always be with you, one way or another. If you need anyone to talk to, we're always here.

Death is very hard to take in. When my two grandfather's passed away, both from doctor errors, within about 9 months or so of each other. It was hard. It was one of those things I chose not to deal with, and have since settled with just recently. I don't really know what to say, to be honest, other than just cry, and let it out. It will eventually be easier, but you will never completely be over it. 

Singelli :  
play4fun :  
mrfe :  
pray75 :  

This seems like your guy's kind of thing... not mine. A little help here, please? 

thing1:
Sludgehead:

Very true what both of you have said... I have many regrets that are with me about my relationship with him. I broke his one authentic (made of real snake skin) sanshin when I was younger. I never learned Okinawan language, I tried Japanese in high school but I failed within a couple months of taking Japanese 1 so I had to drop the class. I didn't learn how to play the sanshin because at the age I was at I was not fully immersed in my musical passion as much as I am now. I never imagined that My grandpa would not be able to pass these things down to me... even sing traditional Okinawan music... but He would  have the stroke... I don't remember when the stroke happened... I just knew that he wouldn't be able to pass anything down to me now...I have been using music to cry it out... I hope I get to see him before he passes.

camkunimura : Death is a funny thing... I've dealt with death before, I know it hurts. Trust me I know, But let's think about this for a minute, This is your Grand-father, One of the father figures in your life, Not only has this man have an influence on developing who you are, He's help develop one of your parents, He's made an impact in this world an I'm sure he understands it. I don't believe in any god, If you or anyone else does I won't stop you and I'll even support your belief even if I don't share it. I know this is hard on you but this man has influenced you and should've made a impact on who you are and I believe that he will live on in your memories.

There is a saying that goes something like this. "The day someone dies isn't when their heart stops beating. It's when people forget who they are." As long as you remember your grand-father I think part of him will still be there, Maybe he's not going to be here anymore... But he'll still be here.

If it weren't for my beliefs on death I don't think I would truly be sane anymore... Sure, I'm only fifteen, I'm in experienced.. But I'm not completely stupid, I don't have that teenage sense of immortality, I broke my hip on a bike accident and almost crushed my skull because I refused to wear a helmet... I almost lost my life that day and I've never looked at a human life the same way, Maybe it's ruined who I am. Or maybe... Just maybe it helped me grow up. A life will only mean as much as you let it.

Don't forget, If you ever need someone to lean on I'm sure a good portion of Vizzed will be willing to offer you their shoulder. And if they don't.. I will. You should never hold back a tear, It's the same as hiding in fear. Like I've said several times already, I know... it hurts more than any physical pain I can imagine... But it'll only get worse if dwell on it, Never look back. Never look forward. What has happened to you has shaped who you have become, If you dwell on the past you'll get stuck and will never move forward, If you look to the future you'll become paranoid and frightened. Only the present matters during the present.

Camkunimura... You've helped me through something before. I'm hoping I can do the same here, Enjoy your time... You only get so much so make sure you appreciate what you have while you have it. I have faith in you understanding what I mean. It's not going to be easy, But you'll pull through... I know you will, Otherwise what you said to me will have no meaning, I can't give up on you and you can't just give up on me. You've shown me your strength... I know you'll use it.

Just remember, Make sure you say good bye. Not everyone gets that chance, Make sure you say good-bye on good terms. Good luck.

P.S. I'll summon them for you since your summon isn't working.
thing1 : You should think of me more often, I think you don't completely realize who I really am.
Sludgehead : I don't have much to say except that your thought rings true.

I know it’s sad that you hear that a love one in your family is going to die, I went through the same situation in 2004 (my grandfather) and 2007 (my great aunt).

This is hard to handle, but it's for the best. He's probably in a better place now. When you are typing this, he is probably wishing he were to be with you. You will need some closure sooner or later. It cannnot be in mind your whole life. If it is, it'll stop you from doing things he probably intended you to do...

camkunimura : First please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this time. I know what it’s like to go through the things that you are describing. I have lost family and friends during the course of my life and even if you try to prepare yourself for things, it isn’t an easy thing to deal with.

I lost my grandfather several years ago. He was the last grandparent that I had around, we lived together, we were very close. There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t think of him especially during times when I am alone in the house or, when I’m covering a Boxing card. (I’m a writer) It was one of the things that we bonded over so whenever there was a fight card I would go into his room which is right next to mine and tell him what time it was on and such. After he left us it was a very difficult thing for me to adjust to especially during the first couple of cards I covered after he passed. I must have gone in his room at least twenty times out of habit. Even though it’s been almost seven years. It feels like it hasn’t been that long. I really miss him.

I also know what it feels like to lose someone suddenly. When I was a teenager I lost one of my cousins in a car accident. He was nineteen, had just graduated high school, he was going to college. He literally had the world in his hands. I took his passing hard particularly because I wasn’t doing the right things by myself at the time and one of the last times I had talked to him he was trying to get me to straighten up. For a long time I would say to myself why did this happen? Etc.

What didn’t make me feel much better was I couldn’t fly home (We live in different states) for the funeral. I had just started a job a few weeks before his accident and was told by the company I was working for that if I went home that I would lose my job because cousins weren’t considered immediate family under their “Death policy.”

I still feel bad about not being able to go to his service but I felt like my hands were tied at the time. I really wanted to be there for him but I needed the job. Looking back on everything I wish I would have fought the company I was working for. Hopefully their policy has changed in the years since I haven’t been with the company. It's something that years later I still haven't forgiven myself for and probably never will.  I feel like I did him wrong. 

The only thing you can really do is to be there for your grandfather and remember the good times that you have shared with him. It is hard but in time it can be easier to deal with. It may not seem like it right now but it’s a process. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

God bless you.

As most people have said: don't be afraid to grieve. Death is terrible, some people say it's a normal healthy part of life... I disagree, it sucks. But it's going to happen, and you just have to cry about it, feel terrible.

When the time comes, after it's all said and done, you can look to the future and keep movie ahead.

I must offer my condolences. Just remember: He'll lawyers be with you. Whether in your memories or your hert, he's there.

camkunimura : I still feel sorry for the loss. Again, like I said...he must be blessed up there. It's time you get your closure, my friend! It'll make you feel a lot better.

camkunimura :  Thank you and your welcome. I agree with you that if there
is a silver lining to look for when it comes to things like this; it could be
that it may indeed be intended to make us stronger.  The one thing that I can say that has been
kind of a blessing to a degree since we lost my grandfather is that things have
seemed like a rollercoaster since due to the everyday stresses that life throws
at you.

As I said I write about Boxing as my vocation.  The one thing about covering the sport that
is sometimes overlooked and underappreciated is that the sport does not have a
season and operates year round.  If there
are fifty-two weeks in a calendar year, odds are I will be covering something
forty-eight out of those fifty-two weeks if not more so it does keep me busy
and always preparing for something. As I said even though all this time has
passed I still think about him everyday and miss him dearly.


He was extremely supportive of my work despite the struggles
I have had to deal with due to the profession and how difficult it is to make a
living.  He would always be the first one
to read my material after it was first released and would even ask me what I
was going to write after a particular fight had taken place.

 We were and will always be very close. The
best thing I can do is to do everything I can to make it to the top of my
field.  He always use to tell me even
though I am not on a top level in my field that he believed that I belonged in
newspapers and such.

He was very supportive even in the worst of times. If I were
to make it to the highest level in my field I believe it would be just as much
for him and all the others who have supported me as it would be for me.  I hope I can fulfill that
accomplishment.  

My great uncle was on his deathbed from cancer and that sucked but I was ok with it when he did pass on but I am never really bothered by death I just accept it for what it is and try to move on.   

i hate to say these but man up i knew that its hard but crying wont let him come back  everyone well die that is the life there some people die young and some die old we cant stop that |:  just saying and if have to cry every time some die that well make me weak  so crying well never help   

meme the rose2 : But meme, crying is not about helping the person who's dead, but about dealing with it personally. Do you think it's reasonable to cry some when someone you love dies? Or do you think it makes you weak no matter what?

I've only had two family members I really knew die in my life, and I wasn't very close to either. My great-uncle, and my great-grandmother. They both died when I was very young, and I don't remember either of them very well. However, it seems like my grandfather may be in danger. He's developed prostate cancer, and, though that has gone through very effective treatment, he has other problems. Recently he passed out for no apparent reason and cracked several ribs. The point is, I know how you feel. How scary it is. I know how much it sucks to know that, RIGHT FREAKING NOW, there's a family member that could die any week, any day. Just remember a few things: that you'll always carry him in your heart (Cliché, I know. Doesn't make it less true.), that your family feels the same way - you don't have to deal with it alone, and that death is natural. It's scary to think you'll die someday, and even worse to think that so will everyone you love, but it's just how life has to end. Ashes to ashes, dust to dust. In the end, it's the legacy and memories left behind that matters more than the fact that they're gone.

I'm sorry to hear about what your going through. We all loose loved ones but even though the physical body dies, but their soul, spirit, essence or whatever you decide to call it does live on. You'll see them again; I don't want to sound like I'm super religious but that's what I firmly believe in.