Does the promiscuity of modern society bother you?

Explain.

Personally, if I'm understanding the question right, I don't know if I truly believe that the "promiscuity" of modern society is all that different from the "promiscuity" of classical society...

People may evolve, and so does society, but promiscuity has always been a part of the human experience, and this goes way way back.

It doesn't bother me, because it doesn't affect me. I am not, myself, promiscuous, and as I do not target promiscuous women, the only time I even hear of such things is when people bring it up in a chat. Live and let live.

legacyme3 : The question itself is to get a complete perspective on the subject. Is promiscuity really any different? How? Does it bother or affect you in anyway?


I think it's yet another one of those things that's been the same throughout history and people just "think" it's worse now. The only truth to that might be that we are living less isolated lives, we live in larger towns/cities and can travel and communicate more, so we have access to more partners in a lifetime. But the basic human nature has always been the same.

If sex is something that casual, I think it's lost it's value. But hey, we already put unnaturally large amounts of sugar in all our food to the point it's unhealthy. Why not do something similar with sex?

But that's humanity for you. Instead of seeking to be wise, and elevated beings. We'd much rather make jokes about, and actually do perverted things, have sex with anyone, ect, just to satisfy our desires immediately here and now.

I believe that sex is much more precious between two individuals, and of the opposite gender at that. It's the way our bodies are built. Our brains, and the chemistry involving them are fed best when we partake in the sexual constructs in nature by which it is meant to handle.

I swear, half the world finds a five day work week with sex every night and on the weekends, the best life ever. No art, no beauty, nothing real to live for, and certainly bringing a child into the world would be a terrible act of inconsideration for that new human life.

Two guys could have sex with the same woman, in the same bed at the same time if they wanted too. How much do people want to push the envelope in experimentation. If it feels good do it?

Based on how the human brain works, and affectionately molds to one partner naturally over time, ect, I'd have to say no. I do not like people doing this, but people do things I don't like anyways. Yes, I believe they're headed for a world of hurt, but I can't stop them, so why even be upset or worried about what other's are up too.

I do wish it wasn't accepted though. Leggy's right though on how old it is. Virtually every form of sexual "perversion" was practiced on a wide scale in one culture or another at some point in time. Even some of our favorite Greek "Heroes" in philosophy were pedophiles, which just so happens to be frowned upon in American culture. It's funny how easily people can be shocked by one thing, but have little idea just how subjective their own viewpoints are. Half of them couldn't debate their way out of a wet paper bag when defending their points, and they're just pawns in a crowd acting like anybody else.

Sword legion : Oh my you're very smart sire, could you explain in more detail how everyone else's opinion is wrong and how most people are dumb?


Does it bother me? Not exactly. But I do wish it was toned down. I don't care what people do, that's their own problem and I don't judge, yet let's take music as an example. Pop songs have always been promiscuous (or at the least, in the last century or so) Yet I think these days pop artists are becoming even more promiscuous. Not even all artists, just the few most popular ones. Like them or not, Justin Beiber, Nicki Minaj, Drake, Ariana Grande, etc... Are very talented, yet most of their music videos are very promiscuous and even some of their songs are over the top with promiscuity.

But, to be fair, promiscuity has always been a thing. Take ancient Greece for example. Most statues from that era are made to be very promiscuous. Even their gods were super rape-y.

Middle ages, also very promiscuous. Just in a different way.

All in all, I myself wish promiscuity in general was toned down a bit. Or rather, the brag and talk about it. But promiscuity isn't a thing that poped up just recently, it's always been there. The only thing that has really changed is people's opinions and the way to transmit said promiscuity.

Sex is easy to come by and means nothing. There's hardly anyone left that really wants to be with one person. The overwhelming opinion is that you have to have sex before you graduate high school. And for what? For nothing; it's all a bunch of garbage. People are not toys and should not be treated as such.

Yet, there's still this part of me that wants to be surrounded by beautiful naked women...

While I admit to looking at things of a perverted nature, it bothers me how nonchalent people are in regards to performing real-life sexual-acts. To fantasize is one thing, to indulge is another. We may all be animals, but we have evolved enough to question ourselves. Time and again society has decided that casual sex is wrong on one level or other: it increases chance of spreading sexual infections and diseases, slowly removes the thrill of sex and reduces it to naught more than a 'need', and brings ones self-worth into question among other things. I agree with
Sword legion :
on that point. The more partners you have sex with, the less it will mean. I also feel that way about masturbation. And eating certain foods. Playing video games.... The more you do something the less exciting it becomes. The less you can derive from it. In my opinion, sex should mean something more than "I'm horny and have not ejaculated in a few days and would like to use something other than my hand." It should be a bonding expeirence of the closest kind. It should bring the two (note how I specified two and did not leave the number of partners in the act ambiguos) together in a way nothing else could.

Does it bother me that, no matter what I watch, no matter what I play, and no matter where I go on the internet that I encounter double entendres, crude jokes, and outright sexually explicit things? To be honest, yea. But it bothers me in the same way that I cannot escape jokes about a shut-in, the 'debates' on Planned Parenthood and other assorted things that have saturated the North American internet. I've become desensitized to it hearing about it.

It bothers me, yes. But it's how every civilazation was when you look back in history. So I don't view it as this sudden drop in morality. I really wish we got this crap out of every tv show and movie ever made though. And most music being made is an "I desire intercourse with you, female" song.
Casual sex is another thing I despise. Name one instance where it didn't end with one or both people being an emotional wreck. Seriously, I haven't seen a single time in which it has been a long term benefit. Believe it or not, some people wait for the real thing. You know, an actual meaningful relationship, marriage, then that other junk that I seriously think society is overhyping.
It is inescapable, but I really don't like it. I try not to judge others, but...Holy crap everyone, is sex literally the only thing you guys ever think about?  If so, that's just sad...

Who does it bother? ISIS?

WHATEVER happens between consenting adults which does NOT endanger someone's life or property is their business alone. I insist on the latter part, because if children are involved and the parents become negligent it IS a concern.

They need loving parents to take care of them. But if the parents "play on the side" without neglecting their children, then what is the problem?

janus :

The problem is that we devalue commitment and promises. If those were never made, then we devalue what it means to be a family.

Txgangsta : I get that. But who am I to judge people who do not hurt others? Not everyone seems to be made for long-term relationship; some even seem to be happy in open relationships. I do not understand the concept - live with someone but "fool" around - but again who am I to judge?

janus : I think they are hurting others. The people that did make those commitments are discouraged by other's promiscuity to be promiscuous themselves. I think that people that sleep and "don't hurt others" actually help spouses to cheat. So the people harmed by promiscuity are the people cheated on.

Txgangsta : If one is looking for monogamy but gets to a partner that does not believe in it, then that partner is simply the wrong one. I admit never have dated (love at first sight), but if he had been fooling left and right our relationship would not have lasted.

janus :

I'm actually claiming something much, much stronger than that. I'm saying that strangers living in polyamorus relationships cause couples that are monogamous to be tempted to not be monogamous. All they have to do is have knowledge that some people sleep around. Otherwise it would be a foreign concept and never even come to mind.

Txgangsta : if the people in monogamous relationships are authentically committed to each other, then the presence of "other" kinds of relationships is irrelevant. One does not wake up one day and want to fool around because are doing it. This argument (no offense intended if that is what you believe) sounds like "our marriage will be worthless if gays can marry." 

Marriage, like relationship, is an INDIVIDUAL commitment, NOT a societal one. People commit in them because they have an obvious interest in doing so. Ditto for promiscuous people; they do it because they obviously find satisfaction in it.

janus :

But people are greatly influenced by their society. It's an individual commitment, but if you have no choice but to hang around with dogs with fleas, you're gunna get fleas too. Yes, it is the responsibility of the couple to stay true to the commitments given, but it is easier for the couple to stay true without the society around them being promiscuous. So the promiscuous do harm, regardless of who has the responsibility.

I agree with Leggy (wow...its been a weird few months ).
Much like him, I am not promiscuous myself and don't attract and am not attracted to that type of person.
I say let them live their lives as they want to. There's nothing wrong with it as long as they aren't affecting someone else's life.

It bothers me when people cheat and break up a strong bond over promiscuity. I think sex has become so 
"expected" that many grow up thinking it is okay to just sleep with anyone regardless of whether he or she is married or dating someone. As a society, I think we are making more propaganda about it in television, social media than before. This also has a lot to do with values. If you were raised with values chances are you won't go around ruining relationships and hurting other people. I also do think that sex has become just that sex and not something as valuable and cherished as to save for marriage and share with only one person. I just hope that people are more careful about it and future generations stay responsible.

Txgangsta : I think this is faulty reasoning. People see murder in the news all day long; how many will actually turn out to be killers also? I am gay, living happily (and married) to another man. And (whatever) knows that promiscuity is almost a given in "our" community. And yet we decided to commit to each other and, should be fool around, we tell each other. It happened a few times but he does not seem to make it a habit - MAYBE once or twice during my 5-month internships of the previous years.

Vanelan I third (!!) that. DO what you will as long as you do not endanger someone else's life or property.

jlove92 : I guess it varies from person to person. According to my sociology class, females would have a harder time to deal with promiscuity. They are mainly looking for stability to help their offsprings, whereas males mostly want to "leave" a little of themselves as much as possible. This is crude biology, I know, but it can be seen in gay couples. From what I heard lesbians respond more harshly to infidelity than gays.