I was never worried about my love life. If I were to meet a guy, great! If not, it wasn't a huge concern. Luckily I did end up meeting someone, so all is great

thing1 : Buddy, I don't know you at all and I hope I don't sound like a jerk but, if you're age is honest, go with it. If you're 21 and single don't let it get you down. You have ultimate freedom right now.  You can go anywhere, do anything. And no one to tell you not to. You have your whole life to find the perfect person. Just don't be dumb and get a disease or knock up the wrong girl while you're looking. The world is your oyster my friend. Love life. Live life. You never know what tomorrow may bring. Good luck to you.

Ferdinand : I hope I am honestly 21. XD 

thing1 : I'm going to have to ask to see your ID in that case. Seriously though, I think I had just got done reading someone's post about reliving their childhood on Vizzed and their profile said they were 11 years old. Like....ok.

All the time. I have been in love with many girls before only to find out that they already had boyfriends in the end. Tragic.

I used to be rather unlucky in love. Then I stopped trying, and it became easier.

When you aren't worried about finding someone to love, you find more people to love, if that makes any sense. And if you are lucky, some of those people will love you back too. But it's not worth obsessing over.

Anyways, on the topic of tests and whatever, I've taken the test, and have gotten varied results over the years. I think right now I'm an INTJ?

danielbelitch : whats this personality test and can you link me to it please?

"Love is just a chemical reaction that forces animals to breed. Rise above it. Dedicate yourself to science."

And no, I don't think I am. Or really, don't think anyone is. Unless you're 50+ and never found someone, I think you are exaggerating. You're still young. The thing is society puts way too much pressure on having a significant other, which gets that mentality that "Oh no I need to find someone to love".

Honestly, it's quite easy to find love. You might think otherwise since you went for someone you liked and they didn't like you. That's attraction, not love.

Just find someone who is compatible with you, shares your interests, beliefs, philosophy, and just generally likes you and you like them, and bam. You'll make it work.

It takes time? Maybe, but everything does. Don't worry about it.

And don't go looking for love in places it just won't happen. Don't try to flirt with every other person. Don't try and be in a relationship just to be in a relationship. Love these days has grown a bit stale, or rather it always was. When you find love, both of you will find it. Don't obsesses over it, and most of all don't worry about it.

But hey, this is coming from a 16 year old's thoughts, so there's that.

maguc : hey, I am twice your age and this is pretty much what I believe . Indeed, love "just happens"; if you look to hard for it, you end up being a "pathetic heterosexual" (no attack intended on anyone here) like a friend of mine. He always seemed to look to hard for love and go hurt more than once - at one point he even moved in with her but she was a control freak. He finally met someone through his job and looks MUCH happier.

linklink : If you're referring to the online test from which I posted my results, you can find the link in a post from marescanog 
http://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test
If you're referring to the one I personally took in my high school class, there is no link and I cannot recall the book that was used. But it was the MMPI : Minnesota Multiphasic Personality Inventory which was used in that book. 

I only read the first post...so here is my honest, blunt, truthful answer. Nothing will be held back.

First, I will victimize you because you already labelled yourself a victim of being unlucky in love. So now that you accepted the fact that you are a victim, know that victims tends to be victomized. Prey will always be prey. What you need to do is to stop being a victim. It is quite unfair to ask for help or advce if you are being vague so I will answer accordingly. 

The question is, why are you so unlucky in love? That friend that got a bf, how is she different from you, what did she do right this time? There are so many reasons. One of the main reasons is physical attractiveness.  Are people here too nice to speak about this? Good, I will let the world know one obvious fact, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. With that said, most people date people in accodance of what they want somene to look. And about 98% of us are this shallow. So are you fat, ugly, too skinny, hairy, etc? Girls are always talking about being "natural" and bs like that but it is all a lie. If that was such a big deal then the make up industry wouldn't make billions every year the globe over. Same with health food and the dieting sector. Truth is, hardly anyone wants a unattractive fat/skinnyass partner. So if this is you, change it. Yes I am being blunt, mean even but it is the truth that many people do not want to say.

Another reason might be your personality. Look up how much a girl speaks a day vs a guy on average and ask yourself, are you so desperate you don't stfu? Or maybe you are just annoying, bossy, whatever else. Remember, our friends mirror ourselves. They may not find you unnattractive or annoying but maybe it is because you are all so alike, you don't think this way of each other. Also, are you guys ever out and about? You can't really expect to find people if all you do is binge on The Walking Dead and reread 400 chapters of One Piece the following week all by yourself under your covers. 

There is good news, and one is that you are ONLY 23!! I am 25 and I will only get old once I stop being young. So you have hella time. Time to fix things. As a woman, you hold a lot of the cards. Hell if I get to choose, I'd be a girl too. Free drinks? Check. Free rides? Check. Hitting a guy and getting away with it? Check (well sometimes). For the most part if you are what guys would rate 7 or higher, you do not need help. If you aren't you need to learn to sell but not oversell yourself. That is what every guy does when he is hitting up a girl. Smooth talk, hidden gestures, leading, etc. He is being a salesman. You never trust a salesman remember but you do end up trusting the ones who can have you sold on that sharpass cutco knife or awesome Kirby vacuum. Yes there are too many guys out there that just want to have sex and then forget about you but there are easy ways to weed those guys out. Such as by not putting out and see if he returns or just move slower. Good guys...it is bs that people say they finish last but good guys sre more patient and understanding. The best people are folks who tell you what you do not want to hear. Those are good friends and bf material. 

All in all, you need to put out not more, but the right effort. I may seem like I am asking you to join the flock of sheeple and start listening to trashy radio music but I am not. All I am saying is it is too easy to say forever alone and be done with it and wait for it to happen. Hell no. I make s*** happen. If my gf left me I will be sad but after a few thiusand rejections I will land another. Fix your s***, make mistakes and then learn from them, and then go make a man cry. You will do me proud. 

While I think life is against me for various reasons, I don't think love is one of them.

The main reason to think so is that I've never really tried to go for it. Nothing will happen if you simply sit back and watch, and that's why I think my love life still has to write its first page. And still, I keep not trying to go for it.

Many people say I should try to go for it. However, deep inside myself I don't want to try. I have my own plans for life, and finding a partner wouldn't suit them. Does that make me egotistical? Probably. But hey, my life has never been amusing, so I have my full right to enjoy it while I can.

I don't think there would be any girl that wanted to share her life with me, simply because I myself wouldn't share my life with me. I really look forward to follow and accomplish my dreams for the first time in my life, and while falling in love can be seen as another of my dreams being accomplished, it's the only dream that doesn't depend entirely on me.

Maybe I'll try to go for it once I settle down. These last years have been full of ups and downs due to my disease, and now that it seems I've achieved stability, it's time to set my future, go find a job and finish studying. Only after doing this I can probably think of having a special someone to share my life with.

I can't say I've ever felt that life was outright against me finding love growing up. I bet that you could fall in love with a few different people if you let it happen, it just takes time and incubation of feelings.

I haven't had much of a chance, but at the same time, I'm only just now starting to get ready. If I'm going to get a wife, I feel I would need a steady job and a means to provide for her. If she works we can provide for each other. And I hope that I'm the one with a larger paying salary just so I don't feel inferior XP I don't always know what's around the corner for me, but I just keep going. Trying to do the best I can. I don't feel cursed, very lucky regarding love actually. If for one reason, just how easy it is to make girls blush over me and get compliments in public when I have no intention of starting a relationship whatsoever. I've been complimented on a lot of different things, and that's nice since it always helps. So no, I don't feel cursed about it, I feel pretty good actually. It's just making money so that I can support a family that I'm worried about.

I dont think unlucky, but i have made some poor choices. I feel sometimes like i am destined to be alone (i mean, most my age are married with kids). But i am optimistic - or i try to be haha. It will happen one day.

I would like to think I'm not cursed, but at the same time it's not entirely out of the realm of possibility. It probably doesn't help that excluding the very first serious girlfriend, I would always end up hooking up with someone before we actually became an item. That's not to say I'd start a relationship with everyone who'd sleep with me. I would always really take my time with someone before I'd officially be in a relationship and wouldn't say no to going at it. I'm sure having a lot of trust issues pushed some of them away. Some we just weren't right for each other. But pretty much every girl I've been with has cheated on me so maybe I am cursed. I've found it's easier to just switch the emotions off than deal with being let down time and again.

I don't believe in such a thing in fact I believe that if I wait long enough then I will either find the right soulmate or something much more than that. Whenever I say wait I don't literally mean it like that though because things like this just won't come to you out of nowhere you have to keep doing what you do best and that's being you. Curses are silly blessings are not I'm just gonna assume that only time will tell.

I would say so. I've been able to settle things down a bit lately but up until now I must have been one of the unluckiest thanks to what I have gone through lol.

I do. I have no luck flirting or effectively establishing bonds with anyone, especially women. The only people I can bond with are those who know my true personality, such as my family and my online friends. On Deviantart, my affectionate and straightforward nature led me to easily gain a small group of friends, namely women. In reality, I can't create bonds with women easily due to my timidness and withdrawal. We need alone time, otherwise I might creep them out. Thanks for listening to me.