Crazy Li : I am sure that they would absolutely loathe me, then. I don't wear pink, but everything about me screams metrosexual. Most people automatically assume that I am some sort of criminal because of my appearance, but that is part of the reason why I choose that very style. People are too often to judge based on physical appearance, so anyone who would avoid me simply because of my attire are too shallow for me, anyway. I talk to everyone, regardless of how they may appear, because I don't want to be the one missing out on the opportunity. I happen to be an awesome and very caring person. I would rather be myself any day, than to be emotionally disabled simply because it's 'taboo' for a man to show feelings.

I think this says it all:

GuardianZack : People who don't bend to the pressure of society or worry about what people think is "normal" or "correct" interest me a lot actually. I agree that worrying about that is shallow. What really counts about a person is the quality of their character... and if they're the type to ignore social norms, I figure they have a more interesting character than Joe Smoe anyway.

I tend to approach those sorts more often because I wanna learn more about them. I'm not exactly what you'd call "normal" myself so maybe that's why? I'm definitely the least "girly" girl I know.

Fun fact: when I was in the 5-10 year old range, I used to keep my hair really short and people assumed I was a boy. I ended up just rolling with it even though it probably caused me to get hit and otherwise knocked around more than if people saw me as a girl. I wouldn't have it any other way, though. Why get treated differently because of gender?

Crazy Li : I agree with that, also. Even in this time period, people still see men as the strongest of the sexes and women the weakest. Men are supposed to work, while women take care of the home. Men are supposed to take the women out on dates, pay for everything, and give them allowances to spend. Personally, I think this is a load of garbage. If a female approaches me first and makes an effort to show she is my equal, then that is a huge bonus with me. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a woman taking a man out on a date, or him being a home-maker. Also, and I know there are many people who disagree with me, but I will not be physically assaulted by a woman, and let her get away with it simply because she is female. I am very passive, and I avoid violence at all costs, but if I get into a verbal argument with someone who takes it physical, I will defend myself. A woman can hit a man because they are tough, but a man can't hit a woman because she is weak? If you want to be equal, I treat you as equal, regardless of race or gender with no exceptions. If you're a woman that is tough enough to swing a fist at me, then you are also tough enough to get one swung back at you. It is unfair for a person to request equality, but then expect you to treat them special when it is convenient for them; that is a double-edged sword. The same goes with disabled people. I can't tell you how many times I have met someone in a wheelchair that requests they be treated just as capable as everyone else, that when it comes time to wait in line, they think they deserve to be treated differently and to cut in front. Some may say that I am harsh, but fair is fair. If you are handicapped and wish to be treated as though you are, that is fine, but don't expect everyone to treat you differently only when it is convenient for you.

I am starting to stray from the topic, but you get my point, anyway.

No.  I don't usually get into a relationship.  If I were to get in a relationship it would not be with someone my folks disapprove of.  I don't particularly go for that kind of women.

My parents never really approved of any relationship I was in, even though there were only two of them.  However, it was sort of a split opinion.  My mother disliked my first boyfriend, while my father liked him.  And my mother likes my husband (sort of), while my father does not (the feeling is mutual from my husband's side).  It made dating a very awkward and unsavory experience for me.

I think that parents do it out of concern however. They mainly look for the flaws in their children's dates because they want their children to have the best.

I honestly don't understand parents sometimes. My Mom is wonderful about any relationships I have and that I am truly thankful for. But people, like my Father... for instance, he tries to control any and everything us kids do. Of course we're all adults now and he still thinks it's okay to tell us who we can date and who we can't date. I can understand in a sense if you're underage and your parent is doing it for the sake of wanting you to grow up first, but when you're an adult? Come on. If you don't trust your kids that much, well maybe you should have raised them better. Sorry, just controlling people really upset me!

yes unfortunately i have. My parents just about disapproved all of the girls that i been with that they seen. My mom on the other hand she likes most of the girls i dated. My mom is so cool

Seeing all these posts makes me wonder if any parents approve of their children's relationships.  LOL I know there's got to be some out there, but sometimes I wonder if the children just THINK their parents disapprove...

Singelli : It's likely a mixture of both. Some parents are just being cautious and sending the wrong signals... others make it VERY clear they do not approve and out-right say as much. Many parents are overprotective, but not all are.

I have friend who dated really good guys and their parents liked the guy and was okay with it. Though often times, once the guy got the parents' approval, the girl lost interest in him. Weird, huh?

Singelli : I only have one parent that will disapprove of certain things. But I never care what he thinks because I would never listen to him to begin with. I don'y respect someone who tells me I'm doing something wrong and then they go out and do ten times worse. When all I did that was wrong in "their" eyes was date someone of another race. No, that doesn't get past me. I won't allow someone that has no morals tell me I'm doing something wrong.

There are a good majority of parents that don't actually disapprove, it's like Crazy Li said, they are just over protective. That's not the same as disapproving. It's more worry about the welfare of their child rather than disapproving someone they're dating.

Crazy Li : About your friend who lost interest, that's just kind of sad.  I've seen or heard of a few girls like that, and I can't help but wonder where their maturity has gone.  Don't they realize that if they base their relationships at either trying to please or displease their parents, they're only going to end up miserable themselves?  Trying to 'punish' (for lack of a better word) your parents will only end up in a punishment for yourself.  LOL

Singelli : I totally agree. It's a dumb way of thinking that shows a lack of maturity as well as self-respect. If you only do stuff to spite your parents, you can't find happiness.

My immediate family and most of my extended family accepts me, so I doubt I'll have an issue in that sense. It's possible that they may dislike a relationship if the person I am dating is more on the rebellious side. I'm fine with that, but my parents don't like not getting their way.

I can't say that my parents either approved or disapproved of my only two relationships. I can say that they absolutely adored my now-best friend, then-boyfriend, Mogenar. They'd chat with him all the time. My stepdad and him would joke around. He got along with my little brother well enough, tolerated my siblings better than any person that I expect would. The only downfall was that he was trapped in Singapore because of his dad's job for the majority of the time that we were dating, and because of it combined with the stress, we wound up breaking up.

My parents don't behave like they like my current boyfriend but they make all sorts of effort to help him out, anyhow. I can definitely say, though, that they liked Mogenar more than DigitalRelic. Can't really figure out why though.

Ktanaqui : Its just because your their daughter and they want to protect you from someone who doesn't treat you right (not saying Mogenar doesn't treat you right). Parents tend to do this more often when they have daughters then sons who are dating.
So its only natural for parents to be catious when their daughter is dating someone rathen then if their son is dating someone.

I've never had a relationship to speak of so it would be hard for them to disapprove lol. However, I did fall for two people and I eventually told them about it and they were not against it, on the contrary, they were for it. Most people that get to know me tend to really like me (as a person I mean lol) and my Mom really trusts me with my friends. Should I enter a relationship, I would think that she would be supportive of us. My family is generally very open and kind so unless the person was like very suspicious or something, they would not be against it.

Oh definitely but I think that most people have though, I kind of think it relates to an inner rebellion we all go through the phase whether we are aware of it or not. That is just a belief I have anyway.

I'm not going into detail about this, but yes I've had a relationship that my family didn't approve of. After almost 2 years that relationship ended, my current relationship is one my family approves of as far as I know. And even if they don't approve of it, then it doesn't matter... It's my choice who I want to be with and no one will stand in my way of loving who I want. 

Hasn't happened to me, but my best mate in High School was of Asian heritage and started dating a European girl.  His family flipped.  There were huge fights - it ruined his year.  He failed too many subjects and couldn't get in to Uni.  He broke up with the girl (big mistake) and has never really got over her.  Worse than that, his sister dated a European guy and there were no problems!  Crazy.