So I had this ''friend'' since the beginning of last year. I'm not too close to her, but we've talked before. She sat next to me in math class last year (assigned seats). And at the beginning of the year, I helped her with her textbook by telling her she left it there when she left class one day. She thanked me.
She accepted me on Facebook and we've chatted there for a bit too. And we've chatted on BlackBerry Mobile (BBM) when that was around....And she signed my yearbook and seemed friendly when we were on the same gym team in gym class too....She didn't mind me on her first Instagram (she has a new one), assuming so because she never did anything about me ''following'' her on there....
But last night, I was going through my crush's followers and saw that this ''friend'' of mine made a new Instagram. I requested this ''friend'', but got rejected last night....her profile was private.
Today, I went back to this ''friend'''s page to re-request her (in case she accidentally rejected me last night) and she was public....I added her, but then she blocked me....I know because I causally brought this ''friend'' up to someone else in a conversation and this someone else said that my ''friend'' is still active & that she's private again...
Maybe someone's gossiping about me? This ''friend'' has no reason to just go off on me like this....! What do you think happened here? My Instagram avatar is a real, clear photo of me & I have my first name under my Instagram name, which should appear when I add people on there....
I can't talk to her anymore on Facebook or in person either because we both deleted our Facebooks a long time ago & I'm a graduating senior & she's a junior. 

xxeliza321xx : This is quite a problem that you have, did you talk with her frequently since last year? If not, if she doesn't really need you, then she isn't really your friend, just forget about her and move on.
I know it's tough that you're a Senior and about to graduate. But if you're planning of going to college, you'll make new friends, if you ain't going, well, I'm not really sure on that.

No, I didn't talk to her frequently last year,  but I think she's good friends with my crush and I don't want her spreading gossip to my crush & turn my crush against me....And yea I'm going to college this fall. 

Maybe she just pretends to like you just to be nice (I should know this because I do this all the time) maybe she just adds her best friends to her Facebook.

Well no because we used to be Facebook friends and talk occasionally, but now she has an Instagram account with like 400 something followers....can she really be so close to that many people? i don't think so.

xxeliza321: Yea I agree with you. It is almost impossible for someone to know 400 people in person. But that is a pretty strange case you have going on here. I recommend that you confront her in person and just ask her. If she lies to you, then you know that she isn't your true friend. If she is gossiping behind your back, then she isn't your true friend. That is just what I would do. If this works, please let me know!

You say you can not talk in person?
Try the phone.
If you two are as close as you say then there should be some form of communication.
Aside form that?
Everyone has phases where they need to be alone or just away from a particular friend. Sounds Strange. But that is the way people sometimes grow up.

One odd thing I noticed about your reference to a person sending you flowers.
You referred to the person as "Crush" instead of a formal designation like boy friend or girl friend or whatever. One would think that a gesture of flowers would be a signal of some manner.

Either of you Afraid to take the next step? Or was there something else to the whole thing there?

You do not have to answer those questions here. But it might help if you go over the details there. As you Provided, but I do not know enough about you, your "Crush", or your friend to even graze an assumption on the matter.

You could Try talking with your other friends about it.
(Though I strongly believe that that practice sometimes gets in the way of sane thinking.)
(I once had a date go wrong after a girl went to the bathroom and had a chat with .... perfect strangers. When she came back everything I did or said angered her.) Nothing wrong with getting extra info just remember to think for yourself from time to time.
Good Luck.

Good Luck To All.
I'm done. Stick a fork in me.
Peace.

A lesson that should be quickly learned in life is this;

Just because you had friendly interactions with a person in passing a few times a year or so ago does not mean that you are "friends" with that person.

Maybe they don't think they know you well enough to share certain things with you, which would seem reasonable.

Don't try to think too deep into it though, you can't control who likes you, just be yourself and enjoy life. If someone doesn't want to be your friend, don't waste your time trying to make them.

It seems to me you have 2 choices.

1. Just talk to her and explain everything honestly and fully. Don't simply ask "why did you block me". Just say that you valued her friendship, and would like to know why she doesn't feel the same.

2. Forget about it and move on.


I prefer the 1st. Have a well thought out conversation with her; a simple as that.

Thanks guys. I think I will just try to put her in the past and move on.  Because no, I don't have her phone number or the guts to ask her about iton the last day of school....lol....

It's good that you have come to a decision on it. There are many instances where time dissolves the things that once were. She maybe did not think you two were close enough to stay connected, so possibly cut it off. But that's alright, if that is her choice she may do that. Don't ever let something like that drag you down, it's not worth losing time to it when you could be making other friends in greater numbers, like on here =). One thing is for certain, change is the world and sometimes we must adapt with it for the better. I hope you make many more friends in college =D.

I am with jordan on this one, you might be close to someone or you might now them and they might be friendly towards you, it doesn't automatically mean that they like you and they want to start a friendship or anything. Don't take it so hard, if she was your true friend she wouldn't be gossiping behind your back and she wouldn't be secretive over things like this. Best thing to do is just get over her and ignore her. If she is a good friend then she will talk and communicate with you, most importantly, don't let it ruin your life, there are so many other worse things in life that will get you upset, this is nothing. Just move on and enjoy your life, don't let this bother you.

Thanks guys!
Well, hopefully she didn't gossip about me behind my back!
Because we have LOTS of mutual friends
and I think my crush is one of the closer ones to her....

So that's it then, it's official... your moving on?

Give us an update on how things went, and if you followed through. I'm interested in what's going on.

Yea I think its just best for me to move on because like I said,
I don't think I have the guts to talk to her lol
but ok I will update if anything happens.

And there is somewhere in the world an orphan dying of starvation...

But heck yeah, you have a real problem here!

Brigand : It may not be a world issue, but there are some problems smaller than that, and it isn't wrong to talk about them. In fact, that's what cafe corner is for. Might I remind everyone that this forum is also were we are to show the most respect to one and other and each others feelings.

Light Knight :

If you say so.

xxeliza321xx : Maybe you said something nasty to your friend, and he had enough of you being mean to him.Or maybe he just did not want you as a friend in a mean way and just decided to block you.Those are the only things I can think of that your friend would block you for.

Lol guys
@dennyjr22: She lol. I never said anything mean to her though