I know this is like my millionth crush question/thread, but I need help! I feel like crap right now because even though my crush seemed receptive to me in person the other day, this is how she treats me, electronically:

1) She gave me a fake number at first (I know it was fake because when I tried to call it at first, I didn't get anywhere), but I'm mostly sure she just made a typo and that it was an honest mistake because I found her real one in my school's database that I help run because I work at my school. The ''fake'' she gave me and the ''real'' one that was there were VERY similar to one another, with the exception of the very last digit. I asked her for her number and she typed it into my phone as we were leaving school one night. Also, she seemed like she was in a rush at the time.

2) She did not respond to my first and only text (which I'm not sure if warrants a response or not, actually, but SOME responded to it on Facebook, a lot of others just ''liked'' it) Here it is:

''When you go from turning on the AC one day to having to wear socks and a sweater with pj's the next because it's so effing cold in your room...what's with this planet?''

3) She hasn't responded to my friend request on Facebook and it has been a few days....and when I asked her ''By the way, do you have Facebook, Instagram, or anything?'' she only said she had Facebook. I found her Instagram through importing contacts.

4) She did not follow me back on Instagram, but under my ''Activity'' area, it shows that she ''liked'' other people's photos since I've followed her....

I don't know....I feel weird now....I'm beginning to think she's not into me, but people almost always say I'm too harsh on myself when it comes to these things & my friends have said that maybe she did not know how to respond to that text, maybe she only follows back those she knows well & I should wait until I see her again on Monday and see how things go....but yeah, I feel weird and I don't know anymore.....

Your thoughts, honestly?
Even if you don't think she's into me, please say so!
I at least want others to hear me out!!!

I find myself in similar situations to what you're describing, but I over think my position and that's my real downfall. Relationships that take place in some way over the Internet are really hard to gauge, as you really don't know what the other person is up to if they seem to be unresponsive. I would suggest not making any rash decisions without asking her directly next time you see her physically.

I do however sympathize with you, being in a position of not knowing can bring on intense feelings of anxiety. Best not to stress about what is out of your control.

Obsolete386 : Yeah, I agree. But, I'm just like #sorrynotsorry right now. I don't even know why....

She doesn't like you. Get over it. Use common sense. Stop making these threads. Thank you.

Sword legion : Thanks

xxeliza321xx :

You're welcome. I hope things get better for you.

She's nice to you in person because she doesn't want conflict and she's not about to pick a fight with you but she's given you a wrong number and is unresponsive with the technology because she has absolutely no interest in continuing a relationship with you, romantic or platonic or otherwise.

Sorry.

I'm not sure what else she has to do to show she's not into you but she's giving you wrong information, like her number, she's not responding to texts once you have the right number, she's lying about having Instagram and other social media, and she's not participating with anything you're either (a) posting or (b) sending, like invites.

Let's face it: You have zero hope whatsoever to make a strong friend out of this person. I won't pretend like you have a chance because there's no sense in pursuing any more contact. Consider it done and over. The girl does.

Ghostbear1111 : Exactly. That's why I don't want anything to do with her anymore and why I deleted her, unfollowed her, etc.. What she does to me I do to her.

I would say do not go after her. She is not into you and if you continue to chase after her,you will just hurt yourself. Ghost is correct.

As someone who has seen you made these "million crush threads" etc. I do think one thing is very clear here.

You are focusing wayyyyy too much on finding a partner. You should never feel like you are forcing it. Anyone truly into you is going to make time for you, without you having to ask, her/him, or any of us.

It's tough to tell you what you should do, because the more I see you post about things like this, the more I have to question your mental health (no, that's not meant as an insult, or anything of the sort. I suffer from depression, which is a mental illness, myself).

If you truly want nothing more than to find someone who you can date, I'd suggest something along the lines of tinder or a similar matchmaking program that is quick, easy to use, and has a multitude of users (just never pay for anything).

But, if your aim is love, it's not something you can force like this. Love happens organically. When it happens you probably won't need to make a thread, wondering if Girl A or Girl C is blowing you off, and what you can do differently. Be yourself. If you have to change too much about yourself to be appealing to someone else, then they aren't worth it.

One last thing to consider is your actions with these people in person. We only see you online. We have no idea how you interact with others, just as you have no idea how others interact with me, in real life. This makes the internet, in all honesty, a terrible place to be seeking anything more than generic advice.

legacyme3 :   Good one, legs. Your words are perfect for this situation. Thank you for posting. I have tried to find the right words for this but I could not.

 I think Eliza knows by now that everything you're saying is pure logic. That last paragraph of yours really hit that nail on the head. I'll stop offering Eliza advice now because as much as she goes on and on about her situation, I'll never know every detail. Anyone online who isn't on the ground attending to her as a friend at NYU is hardly suitable to help out in a significant way.

 Sorry Eliza. Put more stock in what the friends whom you live among say. They ought to be better guides than us.

 Don't spend much time looking for answers online. While there are many answers to be had on the internet, the right ones will be right next door.

 Thanks again, legs. You knew just what to say.

 Ciao Eliza.

 P3

Thanks guys. I've read every post in detail. Overall, yeah, I don't want anything to do with her anymore. I mean, why would I wanna spend more time around someone who's just gonna be rude to me like this?

Other people in this thread have already given you great advice, and I would normally just go along with what they say. However, there is one thing that I won't go along with this time and that is to ask you to stop making your threads. After all, why would you feel a need to create your threads if you already understood why you probably shouldn't/don't need to? I think a better way to solve these issues (for you and for everyone else here as well), is to make sure you realize that you shouldn't believe the words of everyone you meet online for something as important as relationship issues. On Vizzed, you're relatively lucky because most of the people that talk to you/post in your threads have no intentions of harming you or giving you bad advice. However, the fact that you decided to delete your love interest, unfollow her, etc. only after receiving advice from the people on Vizzed tells us that you're actually still NOT using your own judgment and that you're still relying on "everyone's opinion" here. When you said, "I mean, why would I wanna spend more time around someone who's just gonna be rude to me like this?" it sounded like you're probably trying to justify to yourself that you were the one who made the decision to let her go. If you keep letting this happen and keep relying on the people of Vizzed to make your decisions for you, you're going to have a hard time with growing in the relationships department and you'll never be able to recognize for yourself who is incompatible with you and who is actually a very good match. In fact, when the universe decides to send you the perfect match for you, you might even accidentally turn her away because the people on Vizzed that have never even met her immediately vetoed her based on how you described her, and as usual, you allowed our opinions to override your own. It would be a shame if you have actually been losing your chances at love just because you didn't realize that some relationships have a rocky start and just kept giving up on them at the suggestion of the people on Vizzed.

To you, I say... Use your own judgment and have more confidence in yourself.

Now, if you're up to it, may I suggest that you try something a bit radical/different that might actually sound super counter-intuitive to you? (You've mentioned in other threads that you use a lot of online platforms.) This is something you can try for every single relationship in your life, not just romantic ones, and it's very simple...

Talk to them in person, especially when you go to confess/tell them your true feelings.

Don't hide behind any text messages, Facebook posts, Instagram messages, or anything like that which leaves room for more errors. Make sure the person you're interested in is right there in front of you so you can see their reactions for yourself, so there is no mistake as to what it is they're truly feeling for you, if anything at all. Do your best to try to figure out what they're saying, based on their body language and the cues/vibes they're giving off, even while you listen to what it is that's coming out of their mouth. What they don't say is just as important as what they do say after all. Sometimes, they'll change their tone of voice, start to smile strangely (it won't look natural and you'll know what it means if you've seen it enough times), or they'll start talking more quickly to try to end the conversation more quickly. If they keep avoiding eye contact and your gaze, there's a possibility that they're not entirely comfortable with talking to you, and depending on what you do, they may or may not ever warm up to you. Billions of personalities exist in this world, so don't be discouraged if you can't find one that warms up to you immediately. That just means you haven't met enough people yet to find one that's compatible with you. Even if you do meet one that's compatible with you though, take care that you don't destroy the potential relationship even before it begins. Most people, due to social conditioning, will tend to follow what they think are the standard/accepted rules for everything (including love) so if your society tends to support the view that people shouldn't confess after only the very first meeting, you'll be scaring away anyone that follows that convention. So far, it sounds like most of the people that have caught your eye do follow that convention, so there's a chance you could have been scaring them away that way without realizing it.

Now next time, before you make a thread about something like this, please think about what I just said and carefully consider how you could potentially be opening yourself up to the possibility of losing your perfect match. Your faith in us is flattering, but our judgments could never be a substitute for your own good judgment.

Good luck with finding your match and I hope you'll at least consider trying out some of these ideas for your next relationship.

well, just a general help, what is the physcology of girls all about.?