I like 2 girls right now. One I've asked out but she said no because all she would do is hurt me. The other lives on the other side of America and I'm not good with long distance relationships. I really like both of them but I don't know what to do. Help please?

Well If one girl you ask said no, because she would hurt you. Would you like a girl who would just hurt you and make you feel less about yourself. If another girl lives on the other side of America and likes you back, but you don't believe in long distance relationship. Would you feel bad if the person you like can only talk to you through phone, IM, or text. I would say its something for you to decide liking a girl who will just hurt you or liking a girl who you may not see for a while. Liking someone can change. You will meet someone you like someday who will like you back and you would know that that's the person for you.

Thank you very much.

Well I don't know really  know, I myself am in love with two girls right now, I do not know whom to choose, I love both. Well what I can say is that time will do it's work, sometimes you don't really have the choice.

What I suggest is this, the first one u mentioned, you can't really do anything because she said NO...
.For the second one, there is still hope you can be friends with her maybe one day in the near future you could be near her.(i.e..due to shifting house, or u do not know school organizing something.,).

I would pick neither because if you go out with a girl you hate, that is just messed up.  I have had that before and lemme tell you, I broke up with the girl because I hate to be hated and used.  The girl with long distance is another bad thing because you can never trust a girl long distance unless you have known them in real life for about a year.  I have done this long distance relationship once and it wasn't pretty.  I have been getting a lot of lies and a lot of cheating from that girl.  Find someone that you have known for so long and that lives around you in real life.  One day, you will find the one and be with her in real life.

I have to second warmaker on this one. If you are not willing to give the long distance thing a try and the other girl already turned you down, then time to go check out the other fish in the sea.

Marcmoney : I have seen relationships work where they didn't "know the girl for a year" before hand. I have also seen a lot fail... almost all because the guy was the one to cheat or lie. Don't let your one bad experience taint any future ones for you, or lead you to give biased counsel. It is tempting, I know, but it does work for some people.

When I saw the problems of the two girls I immediately knew it wasn't gonna work out in your favor. Say "bye" to the long-distance girl. Especially when you're only 14. You'll almost never get a chance to see her again until you're probably out of high school (or even later) or you sometimes visit the area she's in. As for the other girl I can think of two things- either she really is a b****, or she's not interested and is saying that to reject you nicely. What is this girl like, anyway? Is she the type to go from guy to guy not wanting to be in a relationship or does she have an attitude? If the latter, and you really want to be with her, then act like a bit of a jerk to her sometimes. You always hear about a lot of women/girl going for the a**h*** type. It's because they sense a heapful of confidence in that person. Some guys with a lot of confidence will act like an a**h*** because they think they're better than most people.

So go that route if you want, but at 14 you may want to wait until you get back to school in a few weeks to find another one there. At 15 or 16 most girls begin to really blossom out. So someone who didn't look the best last school year or year before just may catch your eye this year.

The first girl said 'no' to you and that she would just hurt you, the second one is too far away from you and you're not comfortable with long distance relationships. Just find a new girl to like pal.

Thank all of you I'm taking all your advice into consideration.

Dude I would say don't deal with either of them because,1 long distance relationships suck, and 2 that other girl might be telling the truth. I would just go out and look for another girl, there are tons of them out there.

I gotta agree with warmaker and Elara. I was going to ask for more details first that could shed some light on the whole long distance thing. But I decided to check your profile, and saw you are 14 years old. That means that there is no way for you to save up money and relocate to be with the long distance girl. Definitely don't do that one. Since you are so young, you will pretty much never see her, and if you truly care for the other, that is nothing but a world of hurt. I'm an expert on this one because I started dating a girl the weekend after our last day of high school. I stayed at the college in my hometown, and she went to one 5 hours away. We saw each other once a month, two at the most. We talked as often as we could, but it started to be the most painful thing I ever went through. Though I am glad we kept the relationship going because we eventually found a different college to go to, and we have now been together for over 5 years, and engaged for next July. I bring this up to let you know that the long distance thing CAN work if it is the right person. But if you aren't sure this is the girl you will marry (given that you are so young, I assume that is not what is on your mind), it only leads to hurt. 

For the other girl, don't push it. If you are friends with her, pushing the option will just make her want to be around you less. If you really like her, than she is worth being patient for. But I do have to be honest. When a friend says something on the lines of 'I don't want to be in a relationship because I will end up hurting you', that is usually a way of saying they don't see you the same way. They see you as a friend. But that isn't ALWAYS the case. Good luck, man.

I'm going to put this simple and fast, chances are if you like the second one then you don't really like the 1st one.
hope that helps.

Why not have the long distance relationship, then find someone else who is near you? You can always cut off the long distant one, and it's not like she's really going to know what's going on with you.

tRIUNE : I get what you are saying, but it just seems kind of disrespectful to the other one. That is just using someone until something better comes your way, and then just casting them aside. If she tried to be serious about the relationship despite the distance, it would be kind of mean to indulge that knowing you have no problem casting it aside in a moments notice just because she doesn't know what is going on. If it were a situation where you made a mutual agreement with the other where both can follow what you suggested, it would be a different story.

rcarter2 : oh, that makes sense; I've never had a long distant relationship so what I suggested is how I've looked at them. But yeah, in that perspective it would go against what you put into it.

edit: but how do you know she's not doing the same as what I said?

tRIUNE : lol. That question is half the reason why long distance relationships rarely work. If you are serious about the relationship, that is where trust comes in. So make sure that it is with someone you are comfortable putting that much trust in. Otherwise, that is why I suggested having that mutual agreement.

Thank you all I have gotten over both of them so I don't need anymore advice but feel free to use this post chain to get advice of your own. Again, thank you all.