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Originally posted by geeogree
osses my mind once in a while. Life is simpler without children. You have more freedom to do what you want when you want.... but life without kids would probably be boring.
I'm not married, nor do I have children, but let me put it this way: life without children would be like life without family. You can live without, but there will always be something missing.
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osses my mind once in a while. Life is simpler without children. You have more freedom to do what you want when you want.... but life without kids would probably be boring.
I'm not married, nor do I have children, but let me put it this way: life without children would be like life without family. You can live without, but there will always be something missing.
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Originally posted by Rasenganfan2
Originally posted by geeogree
osses my mind once in a while. Life is simpler without children. You have more freedom to do what you want when you want.... but life without kids would probably be boring.
I'm not married, nor do I have children, but let me put it this way: life without children would be like life without family. You can live without, but there will always be something missing.


I agree with you completely... I was just pointing out that you give up some things when you have children and freedom to do what you want when you want is one of those that goes first. You lose a LOT of freedom. Everything you do now has to be planned around feeding the baby and naps and diaper changes and what not. Before you could pick up and leave in 5 minutes and now it takes 15 minutes to leave almost no matter what.

Originally posted by tr33l3x
Im married, and ive been married 3 years now.... Its kinda hard especially for me bcause my wife has been going through college while ive been in california and in the military. You wanna talk about HARD, try being married to a woman in college 1300 miles away. I think i have been through more problems with her than couples twice our age, yet were still together and i get out in 18 days.... Hopefully this turns things around otherwise im done..... any advice?


my advice would be to "date" her again. Do things that you would do when you were dating. Go walk in the park, go see movies together, go out to dinner. Find as much time to reconnect as possible.

And I will bring it up regardless of whether or not anything has happened, but have you been faithful and do you suspect she has been unfaithful? If you suspect it even slightly then I think that needs to be addressed.... but that's a personal thing for you to decide. But I personally am of the opinion that cheating is a deal breaker in marriage so if it were to happen to me I would probably be gone.
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Originally posted by geeogree
osses my mind once in a while. Life is simpler without children. You have more freedom to do what you want when you want.... but life without kids would probably be boring.
I'm not married, nor do I have children, but let me put it this way: life without children would be like life without family. You can live without, but there will always be something missing.


I agree with you completely... I was just pointing out that you give up some things when you have children and freedom to do what you want when you want is one of those that goes first. You lose a LOT of freedom. Everything you do now has to be planned around feeding the baby and naps and diaper changes and what not. Before you could pick up and leave in 5 minutes and now it takes 15 minutes to leave almost no matter what.

Originally posted by tr33l3x
Im married, and ive been married 3 years now.... Its kinda hard especially for me bcause my wife has been going through college while ive been in california and in the military. You wanna talk about HARD, try being married to a woman in college 1300 miles away. I think i have been through more problems with her than couples twice our age, yet were still together and i get out in 18 days.... Hopefully this turns things around otherwise im done..... any advice?


my advice would be to "date" her again. Do things that you would do when you were dating. Go walk in the park, go see movies together, go out to dinner. Find as much time to reconnect as possible.

And I will bring it up regardless of whether or not anything has happened, but have you been faithful and do you suspect she has been unfaithful? If you suspect it even slightly then I think that needs to be addressed.... but that's a personal thing for you to decide. But I personally am of the opinion that cheating is a deal breaker in marriage so if it were to happen to me I would probably be gone.
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A lot of guys seem to fear marriage like the plague, what convinced you otherwise (you're epiphany moment, if you will)?

A lot of guys seem to fear marriage like the plague, what convinced you otherwise (you're epiphany moment, if you will)?

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I'm not really sure why guys fear marriage. I didn't fear it. I think a lot of kids either have had parents with bad marriages or watch too much TV which portrays marriage in a bad light a lot of the time. We also are getting told that we must be done school, have a career and a house before we should bother getting married. Well, what's the point in getting all that out of the way before getting married? That's part of the journey. The tough times of getting through school is part of what strengthens a marriage in my opinion. As long as both parties work for it.

I personally am very happy in my marriage and have been married for 5+ years. It's not easy. There are good times and bad.

Actually, let's be honest. I think there are some guys who fear that they won't have sex ever again once they get married. Well, how many single guys are having sex right now?
I'm not really sure why guys fear marriage. I didn't fear it. I think a lot of kids either have had parents with bad marriages or watch too much TV which portrays marriage in a bad light a lot of the time. We also are getting told that we must be done school, have a career and a house before we should bother getting married. Well, what's the point in getting all that out of the way before getting married? That's part of the journey. The tough times of getting through school is part of what strengthens a marriage in my opinion. As long as both parties work for it.

I personally am very happy in my marriage and have been married for 5+ years. It's not easy. There are good times and bad.

Actually, let's be honest. I think there are some guys who fear that they won't have sex ever again once they get married. Well, how many single guys are having sex right now?
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how was your first time having s**?

Now for the real question: Who are you married to and whats her name?
how was your first time having s**?

Now for the real question: Who are you married to and whats her name?
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Mario: it was pretty bad actually. I think sex is something that gets better with experience. At least that's how it was for me

My wife's name is Julie. And that's about all you get to know about her
Mario: it was pretty bad actually. I think sex is something that gets better with experience. At least that's how it was for me

My wife's name is Julie. And that's about all you get to know about her
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What was the defining moment in which you wanted to marry your wife? Did you want to marry her the minute you met her or did it grow over time?

What reasons did it take to make you say, I want this to be my wife
What was the defining moment in which you wanted to marry your wife? Did you want to marry her the minute you met her or did it grow over time?

What reasons did it take to make you say, I want this to be my wife
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I don't think there was a defining moment that made up my mind. I had 0 interest in her when I first met her actually. She was the one that pursued me at first.

It was over time for me. The more I got to know her the more I realized what an amazing person she is. She is hard working, smart, well educated, fun, interesting person and the more time I spent around her learning these things the more and more I realized I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her.
I don't think there was a defining moment that made up my mind. I had 0 interest in her when I first met her actually. She was the one that pursued me at first.

It was over time for me. The more I got to know her the more I realized what an amazing person she is. She is hard working, smart, well educated, fun, interesting person and the more time I spent around her learning these things the more and more I realized I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her.
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Honestly.... being around the same person every day. It's hard to go to bed and get up and be around the same person over and over. It helps that you really like this person.... but you can only be around them so often before something about them will get on your nerves. The key is to look at these individual things and realize that they don't make or break the relationship and that there are more good things than bad.
Honestly.... being around the same person every day. It's hard to go to bed and get up and be around the same person over and over. It helps that you really like this person.... but you can only be around them so often before something about them will get on your nerves. The key is to look at these individual things and realize that they don't make or break the relationship and that there are more good things than bad.
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Originally posted by geeogree


my advice would be to "date" her again. Do things that you would do when you were dating. Go walk in the park, go see movies together, go out to dinner. Find as much time to reconnect as possible.

And I will bring it up regardless of whether or not anything has happened, but have you been faithful and do you suspect she has been unfaithful? If you suspect it even slightly then I think that needs to be addressed.... but that's a personal thing for you to decide. But I personally am of the opinion that cheating is a deal breaker in marriage so if it were to happen to me I would probably be gone.


yes i know she is faithful, the fact still remains that we are in our mid 20's trying to have a thriving marriage.... but now that im going home soon i feel that this will all be a thing we look back on and laugh about when were older.

We shall see though i suppose
Originally posted by geeogree


my advice would be to "date" her again. Do things that you would do when you were dating. Go walk in the park, go see movies together, go out to dinner. Find as much time to reconnect as possible.

And I will bring it up regardless of whether or not anything has happened, but have you been faithful and do you suspect she has been unfaithful? If you suspect it even slightly then I think that needs to be addressed.... but that's a personal thing for you to decide. But I personally am of the opinion that cheating is a deal breaker in marriage so if it were to happen to me I would probably be gone.


yes i know she is faithful, the fact still remains that we are in our mid 20's trying to have a thriving marriage.... but now that im going home soon i feel that this will all be a thing we look back on and laugh about when were older.

We shall see though i suppose
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your age only matters as much as you let it.

My wife was 20 and I was 21 when we got married and we've been married for 5 and a half years. So don't let your age stop you from having a successful marriage. I find it funny that there are all these recomendations for how/when to get married yet people are getting divorced all the time still.... so what does anyone else really know?
your age only matters as much as you let it.

My wife was 20 and I was 21 when we got married and we've been married for 5 and a half years. So don't let your age stop you from having a successful marriage. I find it funny that there are all these recomendations for how/when to get married yet people are getting divorced all the time still.... so what does anyone else really know?
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Thats true, and i know ill be a great father/husband when im back home its just a struggle having an intimate relationship with someone you see 2-3 times a year.....
I think it says worlds about our strength and dedication towards one another despite all the obstacles that have been thrown our way
Thats true, and i know ill be a great father/husband when im back home its just a struggle having an intimate relationship with someone you see 2-3 times a year.....
I think it says worlds about our strength and dedication towards one another despite all the obstacles that have been thrown our way
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What is the hardest part about being a dad?
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I guess I'll take this since out of the 2 of us I'm the one with a kid out of the womb ...

The toughest thing right now is patience. I forget that she's still only 1 and that she doesn't understand what I'm saying all the time. She just isn't old enough to comprehend what I'm trying to ask her to do. Most of the time I'm just trying to protect her from something which makes it even more frustrating when she still does what I don't want her to do .
I guess I'll take this since out of the 2 of us I'm the one with a kid out of the womb ...

The toughest thing right now is patience. I forget that she's still only 1 and that she doesn't understand what I'm saying all the time. She just isn't old enough to comprehend what I'm trying to ask her to do. Most of the time I'm just trying to protect her from something which makes it even more frustrating when she still does what I don't want her to do .
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Originally posted by Gameplay01
How would you feel If you found out your wife was cheating on you?


I would be devastated. Not sure what else you were looking for . How would anyone feel if they were being cheated on? It would be one of the worst feelings ever. Instead of trying to salvage the relationship and work on whatever problems there might be your spouse goes and has a realtionship with someone else. Infuriating....
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How would you feel If you found out your wife was cheating on you?


I would be devastated. Not sure what else you were looking for . How would anyone feel if they were being cheated on? It would be one of the worst feelings ever. Instead of trying to salvage the relationship and work on whatever problems there might be your spouse goes and has a realtionship with someone else. Infuriating....
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I think that is more tradition than anything.... it doesn't always happen though. That wasn't totally the case with my wedding. I think my parents and her parents split it (there are 3 sets of parents involved in total). They all provided in their own ways. I think it also depends on the age at which you get married. I wouldn't pay for my 30+ year old daughter to get married. I might get something for her as a treat, but I wouldn't do the whole thing. She should be able to afford it by then.
I think that is more tradition than anything.... it doesn't always happen though. That wasn't totally the case with my wedding. I think my parents and her parents split it (there are 3 sets of parents involved in total). They all provided in their own ways. I think it also depends on the age at which you get married. I wouldn't pay for my 30+ year old daughter to get married. I might get something for her as a treat, but I wouldn't do the whole thing. She should be able to afford it by then.
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How old will your daughter be before you let her date?


Or should I say IF you let her date?
How old will your daughter be before you let her date?


Or should I say IF you let her date?
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