Love is a very powerful thing. It inspires us to care for another person, embodies our greatest desires, and allows us to achieve the
seemingly impossible. It moves our soul, and opens us up to things. I speak of this because it seems interesting, and can be interpreted in many different ways. I’d like to get to know you better, and I believe this would help me especially. Say something about yourself. Let your emotions flow. It gives me such joy to write this, and I hope you experience similar feelings when reading this.


How affectionate are you in your everyday life? Is your kindness shown through simple, polite gestures or is it shown through friendly banter with another? Thanks for your responses. I'm eager to see what you could say.

My affection is probably VERY HIGH, basically for the most part whenever I have something, I make sure that others get a part of it before I use it for myself, even if it helps me, and I'm always helping people with whatever thru need, whether its something that actually needs to be done, or just support.

I try to help people whenever I can. Even strangers. Things like opening doors, telling them if they dropped something, or letting them go before me in line. Stuff like that. With friends, if I'm heading over to their house, I'll buy some drinks or snacks for everyone. If I'm eating food, I'll always ask people if they want some. I try to be a good person.

This one time, I bought some kettle corn, and the guy working there accidentally handed me $50 back in change. I noticed it as I was leaving, and was like, "Woah! That's not right." So, I returned and told him about it, then he gave me the correct change and thanked me.

There was this time at Taco Bell (I feel like there should be a thread about being nice and doing honest things that most people wouldn't do. XD), and I just wanted a drink, so they girl working there said I could have it for free. All my friends were like, "Dude, take it." I told her I was physically unable to accept that for free, and paid for it. XD  It could have been a trap, like, I take it, then get busted for stealing, but I think she was just being lazy and didn't want to open the register for just a drink. XD

Really Again?: Some places are known to do that if you're only getting one small thing, or depending on the time of day. Maybe this person was just being nice too? Instead of being lazy.

Very high, even if i hate your guts i will be polite, treat you fairly and help you if you need help. Treat others how you wanna be treated,right?

I'm not very affectionate at all unless I'm really comfortable with someone. My wife and kids get lots of affection from me but beyond them it's pretty rare. I don't like to hug people I don't know very well. I dislike even shaking hands if I don't have to. I just like my personal space and when people get too close I get uncomfortable.

With the right person/people though I'm very affectionate.

I am very affectionate, I laugh, joke, compliment, etc. I'm pretty much the most affectionate guy I know so that's a plus.

As far as showing my love to Honey, I believe I show it a lot. I love to hug, kiss and cuddle whenever I can. Since I recently got a job and I am out of the house most of the day (and he has meetings in the evening), I take every opportunity I get. I admit I tend to be insensitive at times, but overall you can see how much I love him.

When it comes to others... I do not know why but I do not feel much proximity to my immediate family. I am physically far away from them and we have not seen each other in over 18 months. And yet I do not feel like I am missing anything, except maybe for my nephew whom I will not see grow up. It seems that an occasional phone call is all that it takes.

I'm only affectionate towards people who I know I can trust because I tend to come off as shy towards others but really all I'm doing is carefully evaluating who they are as an individual. So I'm not very affectionate towards strangers compared to people I already know however if someone goes out of their way to help others I will acknowledge them for it and compliment them.

I'm affectionate towards my friends and family.

I've learned to be more affection because of my niece, but it's something I've always struggled with. I can easily do it in a joking manner, but to be serious about it is something that I'm still working on. The only person I really say "I love you" to is my niece.

I'm affectionate.  My wife gets bothered by it sometimes because she often wants to be left alone.  I really like physical contact and I'll just snuggle right in there no matter where we are.  It's the one sticky point of my relationship with her because I'd like to be touched more, whether it's incidental contact, like ankles brushing at the dinner table or whatever, or she scratches my back while I'm reading in bed.  I think physical contact is the best and most efficient way to show affection and it's important to me.  

I also smile a lot, engage people, encourage them to talk and share their stories and that's affection to me as well.

It terms of how I treat people in general, I'm extremely nice to anyone who hasn't done me wrong intentionally. If someone goes out of their way to hurt me or something, then I'm game for "an eye for an eye" all day. There have been times I was actually too nice. One instance being I had a friend get upset over something I didn't actually do (but someone else said I did), and got punched in the face over it. Instead of beating them up, I simply slammed them into the ground and held them down til they gave up. Looking back at how things are now, I should've knocked his teeth out lol.

Considering romantic relationships, I would say I'm probably more distant than most. I don't like letting people get too close emotionally anyway, and was never a "touchy feely" type person to begin with. I'm trying to work on it, as it is often misinterpreted as me not caring at all. I couldn't count the number of times I've broken someone's heart unintentionally because they couldn't tell the difference between me not caring or thinking I actually liked them. I tend to be nicer to girls so I guess that causes confusion? Maybe I'm just an indifferent a-hole, but as far as I'm concerned, it's their own fault for assuming I felt a certain way. All of that aside, if I really love someone, I go out of my way to show it. Sometimes with words, sometimes with certain actions or gifts. But that happens few and far between, as I don't find myself falling for people very often.

You seem quite lucky. Your politeness intrigues me. Were you always this nice or did it happen because of any particular experience or situation?

Probably, I'm the most affectionate person, in the world.

I never really associated affection with selflessness, honestly.

It's more like apathy that fuels my desire to be selfless. I don't care about myself, I'm a cold and cruel person who has trouble seeing the world in a happy or desirable way. So, I want to help people who actually can--not because I feel like I want to, but just because I feel like I should.

In reality, who knows if I truly care for the people I assist. But that doesn't change the fact that I'd do anything for any of them, any time and any day. Maybe I should be more selfish, or maybe my selflessness is already enough selfishness.

In reality, why do we do anything? Is it because of instinct? Or because we 'feel' something. I, myself, am a person who is emotionally detached, forcing myself to not care about what's going on. Yet, somehow, I wind up helping people and they always say 'thanks for caring', when I'm not exactly sure that's why I did it in the first place.

And what is the definition of 'caring' anyways? Is it just something like 'to worry about someone's well being out of selflessness' or something like that? Because if so, I guess in that context I'm only have 'caring' because I do worry. Since there's only so many chances at life and since I'm there, there might be something I can do to help make sure they can meet their goals.

So, I'd say you'd have to decide for yourself. Am I secretly just a sociopath who's hobby is helping people and listening, or am I a genuinely good person who is always thinking about his friends and family because he loves them?

I'm not very affectionate towards my family members. I'm not a big fan of hugging or kissing or most physical contact in real life. So physically, I'm not very affectionate at all. Verbally, I guess it depends. I definitely am not showing my affection for my family members very much, because to be honest, I don't want to. They've done too much to me for me to show my love for them. I guess you could say I'm affectionate (verbally) towards my closest irl friends and my closest online friends as well. I like to tease and joke around with them, in a nice way, and sometimes, I take it too far . When I do take it too far, I apologize if I immediately know I have, and apologize later if I find out later that they were hurt by what I said. 

I've been described by many as being a particularly cold person, but I can't really confirm, nor deny, because I haven't a frame of reference. Generally speaking, I rarely ever speak to anyone I don't know in person, and if I do, it's almost always because I was spoken to first and didn't want to be rude. I just don't have the gift of gab. Almost all of my friend are online because it's just easier to converse without being in person.

As far as love and affection goes, I don't know if I've ever experienced it before. I do my absolute best to be polite in speech and conduct such as addressing people as sir or ma'am and holding doors open for people, but... it's impersonal. I'm polite with strangers because they're just that. I don't care much for hugs, and I really don't feel any passion for any particular person or group pf people. I think the closest thing I can relate to is the feeling of an obligation to protect friends and family with my life. Almost like I'm a personal bodyguard by instinct. When someone hugs me, I endure it, but am reluctant to participate. When my parents say "I love you", it doesn't really mean much to me. When I respond, it feels hollow. But when there's a potential or perceived threat, I immediately confront it without thought or hesitation.

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moss I summoned you as I want you to read this. btw this is formerly oldschoolboyz, fidos. HAHA YEAH...remember those google issues I told you about. Now I am this...LOL.


Anyway, to respond to this thread I have to admit while I am affectionate I also have to admit that I may be more subtle in my approach to whom I am giving affection to...whether it be a friend and/or family member. I find that it isn't necessarily the whole needing a physical aspect...such as a hug or like that smooch on the cheek your mom might give you. Its just a matter of giving someone your time of day. Like moss for example...hahaha...there is just some times when I want to hang with my bro and give him a bit of time of my day...even though its only online...and get him an occasional videogame sometime so he can practice saving lives...btw moss how is Skyrim and ff13 going??? LOL...anyway, that's about all I can say really...just mostly spending time with a cool friend and/or family member.

You probably have lots of decency, dependability and inner courage. If you didn't truly mind, you most likely wouldn't really help others at all. You've got a hidden heart of gold. It truly doesn't matter why you choose to help others so much; maybe it's your gut feeling. I believe you are a genuinely heartfelt person who likes helping others; you just have a different viewpoint on things. You cannot be a sociopath because, from what I've seen, you don't fit the requirements. You don't show signs of superficial behavior, irrationality, unreliability, untruthfulness, a lack of remorse, poor judgement, egocentricity, incapacity for love, loss of insight, and unresponsiveness. You're a good person, you just need to believe in yourself a bit.