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I feel a bit uncomfortable here. Help?

 

12-22-13 01:30 AM
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Sorry for the new thread.?
Vizzed wouldn't let me continue my last one.?

I successfully got my crush's number on MY last day of class by being friendly and polite, and going up to her to say that I have to say bye now (early)
because I wasn't gonna be there next class.

And then when I was curious about syncing contacts with my Facebook, she came up and I sent her a friend request.
I have called her a couple of times (not consecutively, on separate days) since then
No pick ups or call backs (I left her a message with my call back #)
Tried texting once too.
No luck there either.

Her Facebook posts are ancient too.

On Facebook, I tried asking a mutual friend of ours about what happened to my crush.
Don't worry. I didn't say she was my crush. I asked with her name.
No response from her friend either!!!

I'm peed off because Facebook says her friend ''read'' the message
but never responded to me!!!

I mentioned this on Yahoo Answers too
and someone said that my crush's friend could have known something about this situation/what's happening to my crush
that she felt like she didn't want to tell me about
or that my crush could be having issues right now

Sadly, I think that what was said on Yahoo Answers makes sense here.

I also think that it was rude for her friend to not reply to me.
I feel pretty uncomfortable right now, especially after seeing what was said on Yahoo Answers.

And sadly, I'm not sure if I'll see OR her friend in person again because we go to a HUGE city college. 

What can I do here?
What do you think of this, honestly?
Help?
Sorry for the new thread.?
Vizzed wouldn't let me continue my last one.?

I successfully got my crush's number on MY last day of class by being friendly and polite, and going up to her to say that I have to say bye now (early)
because I wasn't gonna be there next class.

And then when I was curious about syncing contacts with my Facebook, she came up and I sent her a friend request.
I have called her a couple of times (not consecutively, on separate days) since then
No pick ups or call backs (I left her a message with my call back #)
Tried texting once too.
No luck there either.

Her Facebook posts are ancient too.

On Facebook, I tried asking a mutual friend of ours about what happened to my crush.
Don't worry. I didn't say she was my crush. I asked with her name.
No response from her friend either!!!

I'm peed off because Facebook says her friend ''read'' the message
but never responded to me!!!

I mentioned this on Yahoo Answers too
and someone said that my crush's friend could have known something about this situation/what's happening to my crush
that she felt like she didn't want to tell me about
or that my crush could be having issues right now

Sadly, I think that what was said on Yahoo Answers makes sense here.

I also think that it was rude for her friend to not reply to me.
I feel pretty uncomfortable right now, especially after seeing what was said on Yahoo Answers.

And sadly, I'm not sure if I'll see OR her friend in person again because we go to a HUGE city college. 

What can I do here?
What do you think of this, honestly?
Help?
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(edited by xxeliza321xx on 12-22-13 01:31 AM)    

12-22-13 07:46 AM
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If something is happening, it's between you and your crush.  If the friend won't get involved, that's fine.  It's not really any of her business.  If something is wrong with your crush, it's not the friend's responsibility or right to tell you anything.

I think you don't have a chance and she's not interested.  Somewhere along the line it went negative and if she's not responding, she's not going to respond.

What can you do?  Not much.  You can't make other people have feelings and you can't force relationships.  The sniff test suggests it's over and you should probably forget this girl, mourn the loss, and move on with your life.  I don't see any scenario where this works out well.  The best-case scenario is that it's the holiday season and she's super busy with family and doing things.  But she'd at least say, "Hey, listen, I'm busy, we'll talk after the New Year."

She didn't.  That means it's over.  Forget her, don't try to contact her any more, and call it a day.

Unlucky.  I'm sorry it didn't work out for you.
If something is happening, it's between you and your crush.  If the friend won't get involved, that's fine.  It's not really any of her business.  If something is wrong with your crush, it's not the friend's responsibility or right to tell you anything.

I think you don't have a chance and she's not interested.  Somewhere along the line it went negative and if she's not responding, she's not going to respond.

What can you do?  Not much.  You can't make other people have feelings and you can't force relationships.  The sniff test suggests it's over and you should probably forget this girl, mourn the loss, and move on with your life.  I don't see any scenario where this works out well.  The best-case scenario is that it's the holiday season and she's super busy with family and doing things.  But she'd at least say, "Hey, listen, I'm busy, we'll talk after the New Year."

She didn't.  That means it's over.  Forget her, don't try to contact her any more, and call it a day.

Unlucky.  I'm sorry it didn't work out for you.
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12-22-13 09:40 AM
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Well, she seemed pretty enthusiastic about staying in touch with me and giving me her number on that last day of lab class....
I mean, she was all like "Omg yea! It was nice to meet you too! Lets stay in touch! Here's my number!!! And WHY is this your last day??"
And she seemed pretty happy around me and happy about my company
Nothing bad ever happened between us
so I don't understand why there would be something between us that her friend wouldn't know about.....
And if anything, its kinda the opposite to me....
Nothing happening between us....lol....
Well, she seemed pretty enthusiastic about staying in touch with me and giving me her number on that last day of lab class....
I mean, she was all like "Omg yea! It was nice to meet you too! Lets stay in touch! Here's my number!!! And WHY is this your last day??"
And she seemed pretty happy around me and happy about my company
Nothing bad ever happened between us
so I don't understand why there would be something between us that her friend wouldn't know about.....
And if anything, its kinda the opposite to me....
Nothing happening between us....lol....
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12-27-13 01:44 PM
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i don't know how to say this so i'll just say it. i think you messed up and messed up bad i've been following your post but never replyed
at the moment to me you seem like a stalker 
and to desperate, although im sure you would make a great partner for her is that she probably doesn't feel the way about you or she can't see it and the whole point of reaching out to someone is understanding how they see you.

for example you see this girl, she see's you , you do all this research on her you feel like you know her so much.

but from her point of view and mines . when i see someone i of course notice them and continue on my day you'll just be 1,000 of faces i've seen in 1 day and the way your approaching this is making you look awfully bad.

but dont worry the only way to salvage this is to leave and message and tell her how you feel GL!
i don't know how to say this so i'll just say it. i think you messed up and messed up bad i've been following your post but never replyed
at the moment to me you seem like a stalker 
and to desperate, although im sure you would make a great partner for her is that she probably doesn't feel the way about you or she can't see it and the whole point of reaching out to someone is understanding how they see you.

for example you see this girl, she see's you , you do all this research on her you feel like you know her so much.

but from her point of view and mines . when i see someone i of course notice them and continue on my day you'll just be 1,000 of faces i've seen in 1 day and the way your approaching this is making you look awfully bad.

but dont worry the only way to salvage this is to leave and message and tell her how you feel GL!
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I think it sounds like you're obsessing just a bit too much over this crush. Believe me, I know the feeling, but there're a few things to consider with your post. First off, people can legitimately not have truly seen your fb message. Facebook marks it as 'seen' the second the message area was clicked on. I've had friends say they never saw it or clicked and forgot. But that's a minor detail.

How close were you with these people overall? Her friend could not be in the mood to discuss something with you or, as warmaker said, they could both be busy with the holidays. Just wait it out a couple weeks (max) and see if you get a response from either of them. To my experience, my friends always message me back eventually. People really can be that busy or simply forget until prompted later.

As for the relationship you're seeking, it sounds like one of those somewhat half-genuine attempts to keep in touch. I'm at a rather large college campus myself, and you might think you'll never see them by chance again, but once you've recognized someone and if any of your future classes are around the same place, you'll run into them again eventually. But anyways, I've experienced similar 'interest' from people (crushes or just regular attempted friends) to stay in touch but you've really got to make a good connection with someone during the semester for it to mean anything. If they didn't seemingly become your best friend in class, chances are that they'll easily and willingly forget about you. To my experience, people in college are quite friendly. You can talk to anyone all day. But at the end of the day, they have their friends. You're not one of them at the moment. It takes quite an impression for them to want to make a connection with you.

Anyways, wait it out and see if either of them respond. You've done your share. Count it as a loss if they don't reply. If you really have the need to try and pursue it, I'd say wait until the end of the first week or so of the next semester and text them asking how their week back was. If you still don't hear anything from them then the loss is official. They don't want to reply.

Go make some better connections next semester! Good luck and take care!
I think it sounds like you're obsessing just a bit too much over this crush. Believe me, I know the feeling, but there're a few things to consider with your post. First off, people can legitimately not have truly seen your fb message. Facebook marks it as 'seen' the second the message area was clicked on. I've had friends say they never saw it or clicked and forgot. But that's a minor detail.

How close were you with these people overall? Her friend could not be in the mood to discuss something with you or, as warmaker said, they could both be busy with the holidays. Just wait it out a couple weeks (max) and see if you get a response from either of them. To my experience, my friends always message me back eventually. People really can be that busy or simply forget until prompted later.

As for the relationship you're seeking, it sounds like one of those somewhat half-genuine attempts to keep in touch. I'm at a rather large college campus myself, and you might think you'll never see them by chance again, but once you've recognized someone and if any of your future classes are around the same place, you'll run into them again eventually. But anyways, I've experienced similar 'interest' from people (crushes or just regular attempted friends) to stay in touch but you've really got to make a good connection with someone during the semester for it to mean anything. If they didn't seemingly become your best friend in class, chances are that they'll easily and willingly forget about you. To my experience, people in college are quite friendly. You can talk to anyone all day. But at the end of the day, they have their friends. You're not one of them at the moment. It takes quite an impression for them to want to make a connection with you.

Anyways, wait it out and see if either of them respond. You've done your share. Count it as a loss if they don't reply. If you really have the need to try and pursue it, I'd say wait until the end of the first week or so of the next semester and text them asking how their week back was. If you still don't hear anything from them then the loss is official. They don't want to reply.

Go make some better connections next semester! Good luck and take care!
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Thanks for the advice guys! I will!
Thanks for the advice guys! I will!
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