Good day vizzed members I am in a tough situation I like this girl in my music class but I tried telling her at lunch today but the words don't come out I'm thinking of writing her a letter and handing it to her but I'm not sure if that's a good idea and every day I don't tell her I feel more sick to my stomach what should I do  

sonic23 :

Giving out a letter sounds such a sweet gesture to me! Well, ofcource it could totally backfire if she doesn't return to your affections but nothing ventured, nothing gained, eh? And if she does not even consider it a very sweet gesture, then you know she was definitely not the one for you.

Good luck!

There really is no wrong way to say it, as long as you mean what you're saying. It isn't easy, but you won't regret telling her, even if she doesn't feel the same. It's better than always wondering what she would have said. You can do it, man!

Eirinn : I want to tell her but the words don't come out I'm kind of a cowered I could not even call her name I just froze 

Well in that case, perhaps the letter would be a possible solution. I don't know much about the topic, other than you definitely need to tell her, if you want to. I think a girl worth your time and affection would like the letter idea, or at least not look at it negatively.

Eirinn : well your right about me writing a letter but I might write a song for her would this be the best idea http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z7SIvsaoXyI

I always just told them how I feel  sometimes its hard I know  but ive always felt letter weren't personal enough but a song could be good to (that I'm not sure of). 

Oh, I love that song. I love that show. lol

Well, it would be better if I knew whether you meant that you wanted to give her those lyrics, or write your own, like that song (and/or scene from the episode it was on). Since I don't know, I can't say as easily. I have done that before (written my own) and it does usually touch someone's heart when you write something like that for them. It says a lot about how you feel when you can really put your feelings into lyrics like that. I must say, I think it's sweet.

Unfortunately, the filter is about to kick in and stop us from posting here without another person or two replying first.

If you don't want to directly confront her then a  letter would be a good idea I think. It still shows that you care enough. Some people are more confident so they can actually talk to the girl they like, while others feel more comfortable with a more indirect approach. I think a letter would be your best shot, make sure it is well thought through and neat.

Anything that shows you put effort and you care is good, texting is the worst way to ask, it isn't good for anything in relationships, breaking up, asking out, so avoid texting. If you want to be even more indirect, maybe you could ask one of your friends to talk to one of her friends to see if she likes you! Whatever works. Hope this helps man, good luck! 

Just tell her how you feel. You have got nothing to lose. If she says no, than you don't get her, however if you don't tell her, it would be the same thing, and if she says yes than yay! If you are worried she would tell her friends behind your back like "Oh look, that loser tried to ask me out" or something like that, I don't believe she would. And if she did, she is a bad person and it would be the wrong decision to date her. You could try to get your relationship with her a bit higher and better. Like people have said, a letter is a good decision, if you are too nervous to ask her out in person.

Good for you that you like a girl.  Too bad you can't yet do anything about it.

Try this instead:  Don't come out with your feelings in a note or a song.  Talking is much more personal and girls like it more.  It's harder because it is personal.  

Instead of saying, "I like you," try something easier like, "Hi."  You can even upgrade to "What did you do this weekend?"

Don't make a move yet, don't come out touchy-feely and expect to have great success.  She doesn't know you and she may not like you because she doesn't know who you are.  Get to know her, have some conversations, build a bit of a friendship, and go from there.

BEST CASE SCENARIO: You guys talk, you fall in love, you have babies fifteen years from now and you're both happy.

MIDDLING SCENARIO: You talk to her and it turns out she's not as special as you think.  She's not nice, she's not smart, and she doesn't interest you at all.  But you learned how to talk to a girl and it's no longer that much of a challenge.  You'll still get a rush from talking to new girls but you are used to it and it's not a challenge.

BAD SCENARIO: She doesn't talk to you and ignores you or blows you off.  At least you talked to her and tried it.  You didn't invest the time to write a song or write a note and you know the relationship won't go anywhere.

Talk to her first.  Just talk.  Don't profess your love just yet.

Good luck!