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Why is my friend's boyfriend doing this to me?

 

10-26-13 12:28 AM
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So as a bisexual, I used to have a crush on this girl who was in my gym class, but now I'm trying to get over her because I've realized she has a boyfriend and that we go to different schools now. She's a senior at our old high school and I'm a college freshmen now. 

I never told her I liked her. I never "came out" to her. I've never even brought up the subject of LGBT to her. 

We're following each other on Instagram and Tumblr and have had happy conversations with her in high school before I graduated.

But now my problem is is that her boyfriend started "attacking" me on Tumblr last night!!! He started liking a lot of my posts, greeted me anonymously on Tumblr (I KNOW its him), and started followig me. 

My plan of action is to answer him to be polite, disallow anonymous questions on there, but to NOT follow him back because I don't know him personally.

It's just plain obvious that this is her boyfriend. 

I think that her boyfriend's *****'ng around with me, but I don't know WHY....Or maybe he's trying to make my friend jealous or something?

What do you honestly think of this whole thing???

So as a bisexual, I used to have a crush on this girl who was in my gym class, but now I'm trying to get over her because I've realized she has a boyfriend and that we go to different schools now. She's a senior at our old high school and I'm a college freshmen now. 

I never told her I liked her. I never "came out" to her. I've never even brought up the subject of LGBT to her. 

We're following each other on Instagram and Tumblr and have had happy conversations with her in high school before I graduated.

But now my problem is is that her boyfriend started "attacking" me on Tumblr last night!!! He started liking a lot of my posts, greeted me anonymously on Tumblr (I KNOW its him), and started followig me. 

My plan of action is to answer him to be polite, disallow anonymous questions on there, but to NOT follow him back because I don't know him personally.

It's just plain obvious that this is her boyfriend. 

I think that her boyfriend's *****'ng around with me, but I don't know WHY....Or maybe he's trying to make my friend jealous or something?

What do you honestly think of this whole thing???

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xxeliza321xx : So you wanna be mean to him because he is straight and you aren't? he hasn't said anything bad to you or done anything wrong yet so there really is no need to worry unless he does so.   
xxeliza321xx : So you wanna be mean to him because he is straight and you aren't? he hasn't said anything bad to you or done anything wrong yet so there really is no need to worry unless he does so.   
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If you're still friends with her, maybe you should get to know him too. Does he know that you know it's him greeting you? If he doesn't tell you it's him, then he's probably just messing with you. But as long as he's not persistently trying to badger you, I wouldn't worry about it.
If you're still friends with her, maybe you should get to know him too. Does he know that you know it's him greeting you? If he doesn't tell you it's him, then he's probably just messing with you. But as long as he's not persistently trying to badger you, I wouldn't worry about it.
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Well, no, I don't want to REALLY want to seem mean to him because I know who he is and that's just rude, but at the same time, I don't really want to fully talk to him either because I'm finding this a bit peculiar that he's doing this to me. As I just said, I don't actually know him, or what's going on, why he's doing this, or anything....
I mean, what if my "friend" is trying to get her boyfriend on me because she suspects I like her or something??
What if he's doing this because he wants to make my friend jealous by trying to dangle another girl like me in front of her online?
Well, no, I don't want to REALLY want to seem mean to him because I know who he is and that's just rude, but at the same time, I don't really want to fully talk to him either because I'm finding this a bit peculiar that he's doing this to me. As I just said, I don't actually know him, or what's going on, why he's doing this, or anything....
I mean, what if my "friend" is trying to get her boyfriend on me because she suspects I like her or something??
What if he's doing this because he wants to make my friend jealous by trying to dangle another girl like me in front of her online?
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You should keep conversations with her! I understand you perfectly because I have lost a very nice girl (she moved in another high school)!

But he knows you? From where do you know that he is liking your posts and such?
You should keep conversations with her! I understand you perfectly because I have lost a very nice girl (she moved in another high school)!

But he knows you? From where do you know that he is liking your posts and such?
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xxeliza321xx : I highly doubt this, I think you are just being a bit paranoid. Think nothing of it liza and you'll be fine   
xxeliza321xx : I highly doubt this, I think you are just being a bit paranoid. Think nothing of it liza and you'll be fine   
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I have to agree with UFC. I think you're just over thinking it.
I have to agree with UFC. I think you're just over thinking it.
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You're over thinking this.  If you never told her you liked her and you two are friendly, he probably thinks you're a friend of hers and he likes your stuff.  It seems completely harmless and without any animosity.  You're reading too much into it.

Either (a) ignore him and don't pay attention to his posts or his comments or block him if he bothers you.  Or get over it, decide he's not being malicious, and try talking to him.  Make a friend.  Why not talk to new people and have some fun with it.  It seems like you're projecting anger to him because he's dating the girl you are/were interested in.

You're going over the top.  He doesn't mean anything mean.  I'm a guy and that's not how we operate.
You're over thinking this.  If you never told her you liked her and you two are friendly, he probably thinks you're a friend of hers and he likes your stuff.  It seems completely harmless and without any animosity.  You're reading too much into it.

Either (a) ignore him and don't pay attention to his posts or his comments or block him if he bothers you.  Or get over it, decide he's not being malicious, and try talking to him.  Make a friend.  Why not talk to new people and have some fun with it.  It seems like you're projecting anger to him because he's dating the girl you are/were interested in.

You're going over the top.  He doesn't mean anything mean.  I'm a guy and that's not how we operate.
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Um...forgive me if I'm rude about this, but I don't really see the problem here. He follows you on Tumblr and likes your posts, I thought that was a good thing on tumblr. If you ask me, he's just trying to be your friend because you're friends with his girlfriend. You are a bit paranoid about his actions, and you're jealous of his relationship with the girl, that would be the biggest causes for you to think he is attacking you.
Um...forgive me if I'm rude about this, but I don't really see the problem here. He follows you on Tumblr and likes your posts, I thought that was a good thing on tumblr. If you ask me, he's just trying to be your friend because you're friends with his girlfriend. You are a bit paranoid about his actions, and you're jealous of his relationship with the girl, that would be the biggest causes for you to think he is attacking you.
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Well, yea, maybe I seem a bit paranoid, but the thing is, this girl's friends have blocked me on Instagram....well a few of them who I had classes with anyways.....
Well, yea, maybe I seem a bit paranoid, but the thing is, this girl's friends have blocked me on Instagram....well a few of them who I had classes with anyways.....
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Let me approach this from the point of view of the guy. I may get crucified for this but here it goes -

Some possibilities...
Maybe he wants to get to know his gf's friends, so he will have more in common with her.

Maybe he's not really that commuted to the relationship and he's checking out her friends for possible hook-ups.

Maybe the word is out that your a lesbian and he thinks you might be bi. Maybe he's fishing for a threesome.

Let me stress that this could just be a nice guy with totally innocent intentions. What is the harm in getting to know him a little better? He might end up being a really good friend...
Let me approach this from the point of view of the guy. I may get crucified for this but here it goes -

Some possibilities...
Maybe he wants to get to know his gf's friends, so he will have more in common with her.

Maybe he's not really that commuted to the relationship and he's checking out her friends for possible hook-ups.

Maybe the word is out that your a lesbian and he thinks you might be bi. Maybe he's fishing for a threesome.

Let me stress that this could just be a nice guy with totally innocent intentions. What is the harm in getting to know him a little better? He might end up being a really good friend...
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Oh my god. 
I hope it's not #'s 2 and 3....
I'm bi, but I'm looking for a girlfriend right now....
& I wanna make her feel like she's ''the only girl in the world''
*sings Rihanna*
& sorry for the white post for the first one. 
I guess thats's what happens when I use my iPhone :X
Oh my god. 
I hope it's not #'s 2 and 3....
I'm bi, but I'm looking for a girlfriend right now....
& I wanna make her feel like she's ''the only girl in the world''
*sings Rihanna*
& sorry for the white post for the first one. 
I guess thats's what happens when I use my iPhone :X
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xxeliza321xx :

Why would you go after somebody elses girlfriend anyway. If I misunderstood your last post, then I am sorry ofcource.
xxeliza321xx :

Why would you go after somebody elses girlfriend anyway. If I misunderstood your last post, then I am sorry ofcource.
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You are thinking too far into this. Guys don't plsy the same "games" that girls do. If he follwed you, it means he likes your posts. Simple.
You are thinking too far into this. Guys don't plsy the same "games" that girls do. If he follwed you, it means he likes your posts. Simple.
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Well girlfriend to be honest I have no idea . Maybe he just want to  know who his girlfriend's good friend is . I mean I would want to know mine's . I could be wrong but to be on the safe side try to ignore him and maybe he will go away  
Well girlfriend to be honest I have no idea . Maybe he just want to  know who his girlfriend's good friend is . I mean I would want to know mine's . I could be wrong but to be on the safe side try to ignore him and maybe he will go away  
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Brigand : I did not know she had a boyfriend!
tgags123: I never said I liked HIM.....
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Brigand : I did not know she had a boyfriend!
tgags123: I never said I liked HIM.....
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tgags123 : I've been walking around for 36 years. I've met a lot of whacked out people and seen a lot of sleazy behavior. I'm here to tell you that there are just as many guys that play games as there are girls. Where do you think the term "Don't hate the player, hate the game" came from.

I met a guy once that had 9 children by 9 different women. Another guy I met insisted that you had to beat your women regularly to keep them in line. Other guys that I met were so wrapped up with "goin' to the club" every weekend so they could take home a different women. Games, all games...

Don't take this post the wrong way tgags, I just wanted to clarify.  

xxeliza321xx : However, it's still possible that this guys intentions are purely innocent.
tgags123 : I've been walking around for 36 years. I've met a lot of whacked out people and seen a lot of sleazy behavior. I'm here to tell you that there are just as many guys that play games as there are girls. Where do you think the term "Don't hate the player, hate the game" came from.

I met a guy once that had 9 children by 9 different women. Another guy I met insisted that you had to beat your women regularly to keep them in line. Other guys that I met were so wrapped up with "goin' to the club" every weekend so they could take home a different women. Games, all games...

Don't take this post the wrong way tgags, I just wanted to clarify.  

xxeliza321xx : However, it's still possible that this guys intentions are purely innocent.
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I personally think it's not a big deal.. the guy may just know your friends with this girl or like her but messing around with you would be something that was just plain wrong. People act weird and do things weird but you just have to look over them. I have had people start talking to me randomly then the next day not speak to me at all. People are so weird and crazy these days.. if I was you, I would just look over it and not worry. I hope everything is okay.




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I personally think it's not a big deal.. the guy may just know your friends with this girl or like her but messing around with you would be something that was just plain wrong. People act weird and do things weird but you just have to look over them. I have had people start talking to me randomly then the next day not speak to me at all. People are so weird and crazy these days.. if I was you, I would just look over it and not worry. I hope everything is okay.




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xxeliza321xx : I wouldn't worry yourself over this. 

Guy's point here- Not all guys are looking for a relationship if they like your posts. I'm married and there's many a post on FB that I will like because it's unique, funny, ironic, or a combination of those in general. "Guy" games will happen when he TRIES to take a pass at you and from what I read, he hasn't, yet. 

Until he tries to show some interest in a romantic level with you, you shouldn't jump the gun. Besides, if you're looking for a GF, you can ward off his advances anyhow. You have the right to love or not love anyone. 

I hope that helped...

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xxeliza321xx : I wouldn't worry yourself over this. 

Guy's point here- Not all guys are looking for a relationship if they like your posts. I'm married and there's many a post on FB that I will like because it's unique, funny, ironic, or a combination of those in general. "Guy" games will happen when he TRIES to take a pass at you and from what I read, he hasn't, yet. 

Until he tries to show some interest in a romantic level with you, you shouldn't jump the gun. Besides, if you're looking for a GF, you can ward off his advances anyhow. You have the right to love or not love anyone. 

I hope that helped...

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They were just messing around with me....
And that became REALLY evident to me today because my friend (his girlfriend)
said I was annoying

So I apologized, ''came out'' to her, told her I was ''into'' her/had a crush on her so that's why I probably went a bit overboard
then I blocked her everywhere and disabled messages on my Tumblr
so no one related to her or her for that matter can contact me about this.
They were just messing around with me....
And that became REALLY evident to me today because my friend (his girlfriend)
said I was annoying

So I apologized, ''came out'' to her, told her I was ''into'' her/had a crush on her so that's why I probably went a bit overboard
then I blocked her everywhere and disabled messages on my Tumblr
so no one related to her or her for that matter can contact me about this.
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