I was helping her in with her things from shopping when the bag I was carrying broke and the contents fell out and she slapped me.

This was not the first time I was hit, once my dad paddled me with his slipper.

well i'm not going to say much on that issue with you but I really dont agree with that punishment you got.I dont believe in hitting kids anywere other then there bottem thats just my opinion. No I was never slapped or hit anywhere other then my bottem as a child for punishment.

I remember my mom spanking me if I did something bad when I was a little kid. Nothing too big or anything just a swat or two. She rarely did it though.

I don't like seeing children get hit (they're just kids). One time at a store I was with my Dad and he thought that he saw an old friend, but it was just some random person. Anyway, a little later, we're looking for my Mom and my sister and we see the guy and his young daughter is crying about something and he slaps her right across the face. I couldn't believe it. She was probably 4 or 5 and here's this big guy just hitting her out of anger and it made such a sound. That just makes me sick.

I myself was spanked a little bit as a kid, but it was never anything. It wasn't anything big. Once soap was put in my mouth for swearing, that taught me.

I was spanked many times as a child but I remember one the most because I did something rather horrible. I got mad at my little brother and pushed him and he fell down a flight of stairs. Though I feel I deserved it, I personally don't agree with hitting kids. There where plenty of times I was hit that I didn't deserve it.

I think pain teaches kids how to behave. I was spanked a few times by my parents, but it was never anything big. One time my aunt hit me when I almost damaged one of her paintings, but she begged for forgiveness right after. A few years later my mom slapped me. I was about 10 or so, so I slapped her back. Life lesson learned.

Last year my dad got really mad at me and tried to strangle me. Moved out for a few days.

My parents were mostly very easy on me because my dad wanted to be different than his dad.

dude that is a DUH!!! it's to keep kids from doing it again (hopefuly)

I don't agree with smacking or slapping children as punishment. And especially not seriously harming them. They are just children.

My mother did not directly slap me, but she did throw stuff, slam furniture, threaten to throw furniture at us, push/drag me around, and spit on me when she was mad. She used to do it quite often before she went to anger management. More than anything it made me feel like I couldn't trust her, and it made the situation worse.

It did not 'teach me a lesson' or anything along those lines. The only thing that I learned from that is that I do not want to treat my children like that if I have any.

My parents tried spanking before when I was 5 or so, but it didn't really work out well for them since I just talked with them normally when they did it and didn't react to the pain at all. Until I got my driver's license, my parents have never been able to punish me effectively in any way, since I'm too stoic and even if they wouldn't let me play games or see friends or leave my room, I would just read books in my room and they wouldn't stop me from reading. I think negative reinforcement when dealing with children is completely ineffective, since fear of punishment is an unhealthy motivator and young children shouldn't live in fear. By using positive reinforcement you cultivate the desire to please and do well for the sake of doing well, not because you might get beaten if you don't. As long as you don't give too much positive and baby and coddle the child, then they'll turn into someone who might get a good beating anyways for beaking off to someone twice their size or just being a spoiled brat that no one likes.

Many, many times. Sometimes I was hit for a reason, sometimes not. Sometimes it was just, sometimes it was unfair. Sometimes it was light, sometimes severe. Sometimes I was a child, sometimes I was a teen and some times I was an adult. Sometimes Dad was sober, sometimes drunk. But mostly drunk.

I love my Dad, but sometimes he was Dr. Jekyll and sometimes he was Mr. Hide.

When I lived with my grandma she'd harp on me about little things like my room not being completely picked up or forgetting to take out the trash she'd do this so much that she started to hit me and throw me down the stairs and one day I was tired after school and I told her I'd do my homework after I sleep for a little bit so I went in my room LOCKED the door and she broke it down pulled me out by sticking her finger in my mouth and dragging me.

That sounds pretty rough.

Thats a real "slap to the face." But you must learn to "turn the other cheek" and say that you don't deserve that. Nobody, deserves to be hit like that.

i dont like pepole who hit there childern anywhere other then there bottem.my grandma hit me in the head once but now i never get hit i always duck when someone goes to hit me and after my grandma hit her hand she stopped trying to hit me. she thinks something might have happened when i was living with my mom

Yeah, I don't agree with managing a child with physicality. My mom used to spank me when I was a kid and I would continue to do some of the things anyways. She then moved to restrictions and all that.

me speaking as the child i am thinks its a good punishment to keep us(kids) inline though some people take it to far and do border line child abuse wich is wrong

The slapping I think was too far. Paddling with a slipper... depends how many swats, how hard, and why. Excess there is also bad.

Honestly though, I think I am almost envious of the slipper. My parents used a leather belt (and once a hard-soled slipper), swung as hard as they could until they got their rage out. Once I hid a baby doll's pillow in my shorts to cushion it and my mom figured it out when I wasn't bawling as normal... so out went the pillow and I got it twice as bad. Their stated goal was me not being able to sit... never accomplished, but they tried.

Did I mention that most of the "spankings" were because I cried? They fought a lot, it upset me, I would cry, they would get pissed and "give me something to cry about."

My dad has also backhanded me across the face on two occasions. Hasn't happened since I was a young teen, as I stood up to him and told him if he did it again I would have his a** thrown in jail. That argument was loud enough for the neighbors to hear at least (we are both very loud when we yell, and we were screaming).

Now, with all that in mind, I think discipline needs to be tailored to the child. There are some kids that honestly deserve a swat to the butt, and there are some that it does not work on, like me. Then again, restriction didn't really work either because I had tv and books (long before I had a computer).

When I was growing up, if I did something bad, I would get a spanking. Eventually it lead to a broom. I'm glad my parents never used a belt. I remember when I was in Elementary School and one of my classmates told me that their parents would whip them with a belt if they misbehaved and I cringed at the thought of that. I am really lucky to have my parents the way they are.

Punishing the kids like this is not a way to teach them a lesson.  This was obvious an accident and I do not like these kinds of punishments. They also make them feel less loved by their parents.