I thought Vizzed would be a good place to ask for some advice on various things in my life at the moment. First of all, a job. I applied at I think around 3 or 4 places, all of which were grocery stores, and I got rejected. I plan on applying at like a fast food place or something, but I don't know which place would be hiring and if I have a good chance at getting that job or not. I know it's not easy just from what I have given you all, but if you have any advice about looking for a job, I would greatly appreciate it.

Second, my permit. I could have gotten my permit when I turned 15, but I kinda forgot, lol. That, and I thought to myself, "Well, dad isn't seeing me anymore, which means I can no longer practice driving, so what's the point of getting a permit?" Mom doesn't have car insurance and my step-dad's car needs to be fixed up, so there was no way to practice driving. I'm going to go get my permit on January 28. In Tennessee, you must have your permit for at least 6 months and at least 50 or so hours of driving time before you can get your license. To get my permit, I need to pass a quiz. Most of the questions may relate to certain laws only Tennessee has, but some questions may just be general knowledge that is across the country. Any advice for this is greatly appreciated as well.

Lastly, my dad. A lot of you may know about the situation my dad and I had in April 2016. I don't feel like retyping all of that so if you wanna know what happened here's this thread: https://www.vizzed.com/boards/thread.php?id=93794

Anyway, in August 2016, me and dad finally talked again. We tried talking about the situation, but he blamed everything on me and said it was my fault. We went our separate ways after that as well.

In October 2016, we decided to start seeing each other again. However, he acted like the situation never happened, so I didn't bring it up either.

Fast forward to present day. Or if you wanna be more specific, 2 or 3 days ago. I was having an awful day. I was frusturated and I let my anger out by posting something on Facebook that was aimed at my dad. It was along the lines of, "Your children are not objects." I know it was wrong of me to do that, but the result that came because of that was going to happen eventually, for sure.

He saw the post and came to my house and "talked" with me. I put quotations because he did the same exact thing he did last time when we talked about the situation, he blamed it all on me. He said he was never going to allow me into his house again in the first place. Apparently I'm "dangerous" or something stupid like that. So, me and my mom continued to argue against him, and then I eventually said, "i don't think this is going to work." After I said that, he's like "Ok" and immediately walks out the door.

So basically, we're back to step 0 again. I'm most likely not going to see or speak with him again, which is fine by me because I gave him plenty of chances, yet he still continues to be narcissistic.

So yeah, that's basically it. Second semester of school started on Tuesday and it's been great. 2017 seems to just get better from here on out. Thanks for taking the time to read about my boring life.

Lexatom : Hey, I'll try to respond to your post in order. 

I've never had or applied for a job, so I can't really help there . 

I'm 15, almost 16, and I still haven't gotten my permit either lol. I want to get it soon as well. I've been taking a bunch of practice tests on this site: http://driving-tests.org/ . Go to the link and select your state and it should have a bunch of practice quizzes/tests. My parents told me to read the official state road rulebook or something, but if you're anything like me, that gets really boring, really quickly. I hate just reading things, and I much rather prefer taking and retaking quizzes until I get a perfect score. 

The whole situation with your dad sucks. No offense, but he needs to grow up if he gets upset about something a 16 year old posted on the internet. Since you don't even live with him, what jurisdiction does he have over what you do/say on the internet? It sucks that you're back to square 1 with dad, but hopefully you can kinda just give each other space for a long time and hope the wounds heal. I hope he one day learns and changes his ways.

Good luck dude. 

Wow, sorry to hear things aren't working out with your dad.

I don't have much advice about driving or working since I've done neither. But after all I've heard about the permit test, it doesn't seem to be very hard. I took a couple practice tests and did well once I took my time. It is important to study though. I plan on getting my permit this month since I really shouldn't get it any later if I plan on working this summer.

I've had a few jobs. Two summer jobs (one at an Internet gaming cafe, one at a pet food store) which lasted 2 weeks and 1 month respectively. Then there's my current job which is the only job I actual got myself as a dishwasher at a restaurant which I've had since late November now and worked at today. It's whenever I'm needed which usually ends up being two or so times a week around the weekends.

Now since I don't know how you're actually going about applying for these jobs it's a bit hard to give advice specific to your situation. All I can do is give some general advice and share my personal experience. First make sure you go out an actually talk to people if you haven't already and look for a job that way, it's largely how I got this opportunity. I know it's easier said than done but it shows a degree of seriousness to potential employers. Don't be afraid to take initiative. You shouldn't also just limit your search to working at grocery stores but try to look for basically any job opportunity you can get. I didn't know a thing about dish washing when I first started which lead to some long messy nights and I ended having to ask for help a lot but now I'm fairly effective.

Secondly if you do end up getting an employment even if it's just a trial one do what they tell you to and then some. During my first night as a dish washer I stayed past the time they asked me to finish doing everything. It lead to me both getting paid extra and the boss commending me for my work ethic. It may very well have been part of the reason they kept calling me at all. Things like that may seem small but they can have a big impact like it did in my case. In any case keep at it and you will get your chance eventually.

Moving on to getting a permit I can't really offer you much advice especially since I live in Sweden which have different laws (meaning I won't be able to work on getting a license until I'm actually 18). If you have a phone I think there's apps that can help you practice if you're taking a written test as well.The only thing I would say other than that is that you should definitely do it. No one in my family except my grandpa has a driver's license and all of them regret not getting one when having the opportunity to do so. My brother is even working on getting one right now because of a job opportunity that requires him to have one. It's definitely worth it when living in today's society. 

About your dad I'm really sorry. I can only offer you my sympathies and a level of understanding as someone who has never been on particularly good terms with their dad all the way until the day he died. Personally I don't think you should feel forced to keep in touch with him just because you're family so if you really feel he's adding nothing but problems to your life then by all means don't talk to him. However do think long and hard about if that's what you really want. I've personally managed fine without my dad but most people that know me outside of vizzed also view me as a cold emotionless person so take that for what you will. There are many cases of a child and parents being on bad terms and something unexpected happens like the parent dying which can cause one to regret everything. Usually parents do mean well and the fact that he tries to see you at least seems to indicate that he does care about you regardless of faults he may have made and continues to make. My dad did too despite his faults. Just keep that in mind.

you can't pick your family but you can pick your friends, sometimes there's a parent(s) that just really seems like they don't want the best for you and that's fine, that's them. maybe finding support in friends can help you, i usually consider my friends family because of this. it's easier to be yourself with them. that really sucks about what happened with your dad but do your best to stay positive. another thing a friend can possibly help you with is them helping you to learn how to drive, in my state as long as the person was over a certain age they could help you, when i was learning to drive several of my friends had to help me because my mom was too scared to let me drive her car or even be in the car with me.
if you have any family friends or know anyone who owns a business you could try asking if you could get some part time work from them, i know it seems hard finding a job at such a young age but some places really do want to give you a shot, and as long as you have a work permit you can apply for any job so long as they don't have an age restriction for working there. even some gas stations might hire you to help clean up around the place.

Zlinqx :

I don't know if working later than they told me to will work out too well, my mom gets kinda paranoid sometimes. I don't have a phone yet but hopefully I will get one this month, not having one is literally killing me on the inside lol. Thank you and everyone else who replied for the advice, and thank you to the people who decide to reply in the future.

Lexatom : Lol my mom is exactly the same (got extremely paranoid when I came home later than I should've from working there and still does). In that case if you don't have a phone I would just let her know when/if it comes to that point so that she at least has some idea. Not saying you have to stay extra every time.

Lexatom : Salutations, my good sir. Finding a job can be tough. Just look at me! I'm 20, and I've been rejected at every job I've tried to acquire. It's a huge gamble, but I advise you to not give up. Remember when applying for a job: put up a very good demeanour: No one will hire someone who looks uninterested or detached. Remember to be optimistic, and relate the job to something you've previously done, and explain how suited you are due to that. That should do nicely. Regarding your father, just forget him. It might be hard, but dwelling on his constant lashings will not allow your heart to heal. Take it from me. I've been dwelling on my mistakes since 2012, and it hurts me very hard. Reminiscing over the bad will hurt you hard. Forget, and think positively. Lastly, your life is not boring. No one's life is. Life is a joyride, filled with happy and sad things, and a ton of interesting surprises and scenarios. I enjoyed reading this. Take care of yourself.