Ah.... crying. It helps remove unnoticed chemical toxins, kills bacteria, improves eyesight, enlightens demeanor, relieves stress, and even helps your communication skills. It's actually both helpful and symbolic, just like our smiles. However, people have a negative stigma towards men who cry, thinking of them as really wimpy. Women can cry whenever, but men "are not allowed to", for some silly reason. We are all human. We have our emotions. Who says we can or cannot use them?


How often do you actually cry? Do you cry more often recently, or in the past? Please share your thoughts. I'm quite happy to hear them. Otherwise, i'll tear up. Thank you for caring.

I cried a lot when I was little, but not so much anymore. I've toughened up a lot and it's pretty hard to hurt my feeling anymore. When I start feeling it coming on, I stop myself and bottle it up. I know people say that doing to is bad for health, but I don't really believe there's such thing as negative energy. Any strong emotion can be utilized if you can suppress and control it and comes in handy in the right situation. Anymore, the only time I start to tear up emotionally is if I'm about to berserk, and that hasn't happened in a long time, as well. I hold myself to a very high standard of emotional and mental strength, so I do all that I can to keep from crying. I'm not gonna say that all men shouldn't cry, but I don't think I should. I'm supposed to be the kind of person that keeps it together and keeps cool under pressure.

Um....I dunno how to put it. Out of my family members I was the child who didn't cry so much. I did. BUT a very tiny cry. And even if I was to cry no one would see it or hear it. Because I was the one who...always cried quiet so quietly that no one heard me. Its not as if I couldn't try and cry loudly. Since being born with lung restrictions it has done a lot of things to my breathing. Which is also why I am not a loud talker. I talk but I can't talk very loudly because of that. I don't like crying but...I feel its ok to cry at times when need too for reasons and such. '-'

m0ssb3rg935 : It's kind of starting to creep me out how almost every answer you give in threads like this are the exact same thing I would say myself lol.

The only time I ever cry is when I sit and dwell on all the horrible things I've done (how it hurt my family / hurting others families), and even then, it's been a good long while since it's happened. I've tried to make myself cry through various means, and it just won't happen. That's why my layout says what it does, since I see myself as more of a devil than a person...

I don't cry very often as nothing bad really happens to me, though I cry when something bad does happen such as the death of someone I care. I don't really understand why people think men shouldn't cry, because to me it shows that they actually cared.

I don't cry that much, but when I do, I make sure no one's around, especially my parents. I hate showing any emotion to my parents because they ruin it or make fun of me. If I'm happy, they have to ruin it by  talking about how I'm a failure and whatnot. If I'm mad, they usually try to piss me off even more, so I've basically isolated myself from them lately. As dumb as it sounds, I don't cry when I get hurt physically. Not that I'm a macho man or anything, but I always just shook it off. 95% of why I cry is because I was hurt emotionally by something someone said or did. 


I don't think anyone said anything about crying tears of joy, but I've literally only done that once, when I did this really good thing like 2 years ago. I have literally never cried watching a movie, no matter how sad it is, I just sit there normally. I'm generally a cool, calm person in real life, and the emotions that I do show are mostly laughter and happiness. 

I hardly ever cry, in fact I cried yesterday when I heard Cameron resigned and all what was going on in the UK thanks to Brexit, and actually feel emotional right now.

I seldom cry, but only when things go overboard.

I used to cry fairly regularly I was younger as I was a pretty sensitive and emotional child. I'd cry when I was hurt physically, cry while watching sad movies or playing sad games and cry when I hurt emotionally. That all started to come to a stop after being heavily bullied in 6th grade and switching schools which was a time I cried regularly during.

Now I very rarely cry despite all the stuff that has gone on in my life like my dad and grandma dying and my mom having a cancer tumor. I'm not really a very emotional person anymore and prefer to not show feelings a lot of the time even when I'm sad. In general it's very hard for someone to actually hurt me on an emotional level. Its had the consequence of some in my family starting to view me as a cold person.

The maybe two or so instances I have cried in the past few years haven't been from any single situation. More so all of these negative things I mentioned piling up and mixing with the pressure I have from school and general life resulting in me  reaching a boiling point. Basically from being overwhelmed mentally. Even then that passed fairly quickly. So it's going to take a lot for me to reach that point nowadays. If it weren't for how hectic my life has been the past few years I likely wouldn't have done so at all since starting high school.

Despite my problems with emotion, I tend not to cry often. Mostly because I feel like it's selfish. I know it's not, but my brain doesn't. But also because I don't like it when people see me cry. This has caused some really funny situations. like for instance, I was in a TaeKwanDo sparring match and was going aganst a person that was about a foot and a half taller than me who kicked me so hard that I went flying from one side of the ring (square?) to the other side of the ring next to me, and all I did it completely emotionless

I think the last time I cried was last year around the end of this month/beginning of next month. I lost 2 friends in one week, and it really hit me hard. Last year was a bad year anyways, I lost 2 friends, and 1 relative. There are moments where I think about something and someone and my emotions kinda hit me, but I won't cry or anything.

I recently had a relationship go bad, and while I was frustrated and upset, I didn't cry. More anger and just feeling really down over it then anything. I still am pissed and a little bit down about it, but time heals everything I guess.

I know, right? I never cry in front of people unless I can't hold back the tears because I'd rather not be made fun of and be called weak. Plus I feel like I am weak whenever I do, probably because of hearing about that stereotype so much.

I barely ever cry and it takes a huge amount of stress and anxiety to make it happen. I think the last time I actually produced tears while crying was at the beginning of last school year when a classmate of mine was being really harsh through text and making me both angry and sad at the same time. I can look back at it and laugh because now we completely avoid each other and when that happened I threw my phone on my bed and then jumped onto the other bed in my room XD

I've cried more often in the past and when I was little I used to have seemingly random meltdowns due to my mild Autism being at its peak back then, according to my parents.

m0ssb3rg935 : Well I think one thing that makes it unhealthy is that it can potentially make you numb emotionally, even to things you shouldn't be numb toward. Callousness is a big issue. But I do agree that getting your feelings hurt easily is a bad thing and I agree with toughening up in that regard. Too many people are too sensitive these days in that aspect.



Ultrajeff - I cry quite often, but almost always they're happy tears. I do it when I pray or praise God mostly, especially the latter. It's amazing to be so overjoyed that it manifests itself in tears.


I also am not afraid to cry when I'm in a lot of emotional pain. I won't cry often in front of people though, and usually I only do so when praying about the thing that's hurting me, or at night in bed when I can't sleep and my mind settles on the problems at hand. I do agree that men should be allowed to show emotions as well as women, though at the same time I think men should be tougher for various reasons. But people think we're emotionless and that's just silly. We're human and humans feel, just like you said. No shame in crying.