Did you have that feeling that you have been a fool in your past life, that you could tell to someone you loved her but you didn't manage to do so? And after all these years, what you secretly hid wants to be told to this person? It actually happened to me and, after hearing this, you will probably see me as a fool.

My mom found an old photograph when I was younger at the highschool. It took me a while to notice it to be honest. So, when I finally take the time to check my bookshelf and notice the photograph, I took it and looked at it closely, a smile drawn on my face. I looked at all the faces one by one, until my stare finally stopped on one specific person. An angel coming from the sky. She was small, nice, light blond hair with beautiful blue sky eyes. I used to talk to her a lot in the hallways of the school, we had tons of fun and she did show some of her drawings. So, I asked her if she could draw me something. She agreed. But we lost all contact after the highschool since we followed different paths so that drawing, I never had a chance to get it. There's more: I was secretly in love and hid it to her. I was not the same person at that time, my love stories from the past weren't the best stories to tell, from being cheated to a matter of distances. So, I didn't even bother to tell her I loved her and that was for sure something foolish.

No one knew that story until now. I mentioned that this morning during a discussion with a psychologist. I said I want to find her and tell her that I loved her. But it's been so long since the last discussion with that angel. My life and my behavior changed but I didn't forget her. Her name and these moments are still carved in my memories. I do not want to forget her. But what about her? Did she forget me? Did she remember my name? How will she react if I find her and tell her what I've imprisoned in this "cage" for so long? Maybe she will laugh at me, maybe not. I tried to find her on Facebook, she's not on Facebook apparently. So I started that quest. I want to find her. It might be a Pandora's box but, everytime I look at that photograph, I have that ray of hope. And this time, I won't be so shy to tell her I loved her.

So yeah, that's what I wanted to tell, folks. Cool story, huh? Call me "fool", throw me a ton of rocks or wish me good luck with this quest. Anyway, that's enough ramble for today. I see you later. Bye and take care, folks

No, I've never felt that way. However, take that chance and continue looking for her. You never know where you could find her. There are some people who  have been reunited decades after being in contact with each other, and not just romantically. May the odds be in your favor. 

I once got asked out by the person I likes and said nothing a few years ago, I came to like her again last year but we were completely apart so asking her was almost pointless. I felt like such a fool.

Now I've gotten over it and my taste in girls has matured. Who I like doesn't just come down to their appearance as much as it did, and it's more about who she is. 

Laian : Funny thing is almost the same exact thing has happened me. I was secretly in love with this girl when I went to my old school and we had gone to the same class for around 2 and a half years. We often talked to each other in school and had pretty similar interests, same sense of humor and she looked beautiful  but I never had the guts to tell her, probably because I'm just really shy and stupid when it comes to love in general and because I was also heavily bullied under that time which didn't really help my self esteem especially since I'm not exactly the best looking guy. Instead I ended up telling her 2 years later (about a year ago actually) over facebook which just made me look stupid especially since she was dating someone (which I was unaware of) and I had barely talked to her except the ocassional conversation on facebook since we started going to different schools. Since then I have never talked to her (we're still friends on facebook though). Now it doesn't bother me too much though as I managed to get over it and I don't feel particularly attracted to her any longer. But at the time when I was, I really hated not being able to tell her, not that I think I would've had a chance but I still thought about (and still do to some extent) if things would've turned out differently if I told her while we were going to the same school. So I can definietly relate with this story, my one advice if you're serious about trying to find her is to not tell her you love her as soon as you do but instead start talking a bit first otherwise i'd say go for it.

Laian :

I don't know.

Love is a funny emotion, and one that often forgoes logical thought.

I can't tell you what will, or won't work out. I'm not even sure what I'd do in that situation. I think that if you like someone, and things appear to be going in the right direction, ie, you have the same standards, then you should go for it.

Love doesn't seem to make any sense to me on why, or where it comes, other than people are attracted to people who are bizarrely diametric, and yet similar at the same time. Perhahps each individual is completed by the other in this way.

You're going by an old high school photo, so you have something of a lead. If you know what school that person came from, you could easily look up a year book or something and find the person's real name. Most peoples name are on the internet some way or another, even off of facebook actually once they turn 16 actually. I'm sure you could find something.

Ask people who used to work at the school there. I think a teacher would be knowledgeable enough.


I have no idea if it's a good idea or not. You never know until you try. I'd hate to give advice and then be wrong. But no, I don't think you're crazy. Hey, if you meet her, you'll certainly find out, eh?

I've never had a situation before where I liked a girl who moved out, but there is this girl in my grade who I once liked but she was interested in a friend of mine, so although I was a bit disappointed I was happy for my friend. However, they never became a couple, and now that friend of mine went to another school but that girl now has a friend who is almost two years younger than her. He's a nice guy and when there was a school party more than a week ago me and my friends were hanging out with him and he was very nice and funny. 

So it's not exactly the same but it's a weird situation as well. If I still like that girl? A bit, but I'm also looking for other girls now.

First of all, I didn't think that thread would get so much attention and bring so many memories from your past. Some of you actually got that situation. I really appreciate all that, including the tips you gave me. Thank you very much. Secondly, my first intention is not a chance to hang out with her. I have this burden for so long and I want to set it free from its prison. If I can tell her I really loved her when we were at school, my soul would be appeased. That's the purpose of this quest. What will be next... it's another story.

Here's the problem:  You're remembering someone from what, 8 years ago?  That's a long time ago.  I was completely different at 26 compared to when I was in high school.  People who saw me later in life said, "You're who?"  

You remember someone who is most does not exist.  You probably remember her more fondly than reality was back then and you are thinking of someone who has lived 1/3 of their life without knowing you and living new experiences, meeting new people, developing and becoming a completely different person.

You can try to hunt her down and see what's going on but I think it will be an exercise in failure.  Too much has happened that you two haven't kept track of each other for there to likely be success.  I think you're grasping at straws and you won't make it happen.

Try, but she may be a better friend in memory.  Sometimes it's better not to find people.

Laian : there's roughly 7 billion people on earth but you might be suprised, i have an idea Look through yellow pages and the online white pages to try o find her phone number you might not find her but its a very good chance,i have faith that you will find her and i think its really sweet that you would go through so much trouble just to find this girl

kirbmanboggle :
Well, I've been helped by a good friend in order to get a contact with her and it has been successful. I talked to her a first time, telling her we were at school and we used to talk sometimes in the hallways. She did remember that and me as well so it was a good start. So we talked about random stuff. I'm not going to hurry the things up, Now, I can proceed to the second step but I'll wait for a while. She'll know I've been secretly in love with her, but I don't want to hurry the things up. I need the perfect timing. And I'm not a hasty guy ^^