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11-17-13 09:29 PM
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I was in a 2 year relationship with a girl that I really did love. We broke up because she wasn't happy anymore. So I've been hurt since, it's been 3 months. She's moved on already but I still can't officially let go. I spoke to her today actually, about 2 hours ago. It's been 3 months since we spoke, and I finally got everything off my chest. I've been holding onto all this, and I just needed to let some of it go. So this is pretty much what I told her, short story short. A.K.A it's long.

   I want you to know that It is not your fault for what has happened, I know what I did, and I was immature and it was a mistake that I regret, but will learn to live with. I don't expect you to take me back ever, I want you to know that I do understand. I do forgive you. I don't blame you. If anything I blame myself for not doing what I told myself I would do, and that was to make you happy, and I know that I failed at that objective,
   It's harder to hold on then to let go, so I am going to let you go now, you can live your life as you feel free too, I hope you have learned from our experience, and our mistakes. I also need to inform you that I am hurt that your family believes I would try to ruin your relationship with this character, If I wanted to hurt you, You would have been destroyed by now, but you are not, you seem much happier. I would never want to hurt you. And I wouldn't because I know it is wrong.
   I don't regret our relationship, I respect it, but if you begin to change for the worse, I will slowly begin to loose my respect, and begin to regret. I know I hurt you in our relationship, I know I didn't take you to prom to a memorable moment that I made a mistake of, I know that I wasn't the best boyfriend, I know the mistakes I've made, and I am willing to live with all that, because those mistakes are what make me a better person, A smarter person. And I know the next time I get into a relationship, a dedicated relationship, I will fight for the best thing ever because I don't give up. So this is the last time I am going to speak to you because the past 3 months have been hell to me, I've cried more times these past 3 months then I ever did in my life, and they changed me, I feel so much stronger, and happier than ever, but I still miss you, and that's what needs to change, Because I have to let you go.
   No matter what the situation is though, if you are ever in the need of help, or something is going on, No matter what the situation is, I am here, I will be here, And I will be there. If are ever hurt, in pain or anything, I want you to know, That I will be there, No matter what! Don't forget me, but forgive me. As I will not forget you, but forgive you.

This is pretty much what I told her, I added a bit more personal stuff, that I didn't add to this. I really want to know though, was this the right thing to do? Because I feel as if it's better to let go then to hold on. Mistakes are mistakes, but they are what teach us to live better. Past is past.

Edit *** If I wanted to hurt you, You would have been destroyed by now, but you are not, you seem much happier.*** 
Don't take that part serious, It's inside joke between her and I that I thought would be interesting to tell her about, just to bring up something good in our past. And remember I didn't give her this story to hurt her, or myself, but to officially end our feelings for each other. 

Please no hate, or trolling on this thread. I just want a fair honest opinion. Thank you for your time.
I was in a 2 year relationship with a girl that I really did love. We broke up because she wasn't happy anymore. So I've been hurt since, it's been 3 months. She's moved on already but I still can't officially let go. I spoke to her today actually, about 2 hours ago. It's been 3 months since we spoke, and I finally got everything off my chest. I've been holding onto all this, and I just needed to let some of it go. So this is pretty much what I told her, short story short. A.K.A it's long.

   I want you to know that It is not your fault for what has happened, I know what I did, and I was immature and it was a mistake that I regret, but will learn to live with. I don't expect you to take me back ever, I want you to know that I do understand. I do forgive you. I don't blame you. If anything I blame myself for not doing what I told myself I would do, and that was to make you happy, and I know that I failed at that objective,
   It's harder to hold on then to let go, so I am going to let you go now, you can live your life as you feel free too, I hope you have learned from our experience, and our mistakes. I also need to inform you that I am hurt that your family believes I would try to ruin your relationship with this character, If I wanted to hurt you, You would have been destroyed by now, but you are not, you seem much happier. I would never want to hurt you. And I wouldn't because I know it is wrong.
   I don't regret our relationship, I respect it, but if you begin to change for the worse, I will slowly begin to loose my respect, and begin to regret. I know I hurt you in our relationship, I know I didn't take you to prom to a memorable moment that I made a mistake of, I know that I wasn't the best boyfriend, I know the mistakes I've made, and I am willing to live with all that, because those mistakes are what make me a better person, A smarter person. And I know the next time I get into a relationship, a dedicated relationship, I will fight for the best thing ever because I don't give up. So this is the last time I am going to speak to you because the past 3 months have been hell to me, I've cried more times these past 3 months then I ever did in my life, and they changed me, I feel so much stronger, and happier than ever, but I still miss you, and that's what needs to change, Because I have to let you go.
   No matter what the situation is though, if you are ever in the need of help, or something is going on, No matter what the situation is, I am here, I will be here, And I will be there. If are ever hurt, in pain or anything, I want you to know, That I will be there, No matter what! Don't forget me, but forgive me. As I will not forget you, but forgive you.

This is pretty much what I told her, I added a bit more personal stuff, that I didn't add to this. I really want to know though, was this the right thing to do? Because I feel as if it's better to let go then to hold on. Mistakes are mistakes, but they are what teach us to live better. Past is past.

Edit *** If I wanted to hurt you, You would have been destroyed by now, but you are not, you seem much happier.*** 
Don't take that part serious, It's inside joke between her and I that I thought would be interesting to tell her about, just to bring up something good in our past. And remember I didn't give her this story to hurt her, or myself, but to officially end our feelings for each other. 

Please no hate, or trolling on this thread. I just want a fair honest opinion. Thank you for your time.
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(edited by iiGrinchii on 11-18-13 03:46 PM)    

11-18-13 12:53 PM
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If that's what you told her in your goodbye speech, there were a lot of things going on.  I'm really curious as to what happened and she decided to disinvolve herself with the relationship.  Some heavy stuff must have gone down.

If you told her how you felt and you think you can shut the door and be done, you did the right thing.
If that's what you told her in your goodbye speech, there were a lot of things going on.  I'm really curious as to what happened and she decided to disinvolve herself with the relationship.  Some heavy stuff must have gone down.

If you told her how you felt and you think you can shut the door and be done, you did the right thing.
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11-18-13 12:58 PM
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I'm not sure of all the details of what happened... but it "seems" like it was a good goodbye.

If you feel ok with it, and you can more on, then yes, it was the right thing to say.
I'm not sure of all the details of what happened... but it "seems" like it was a good goodbye.

If you feel ok with it, and you can more on, then yes, it was the right thing to say.
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11-18-13 03:10 PM
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warmaker :
When I spoke to her last night she pretty much told me that she was trying to "hint" to me a few months before we broke up, that I was "changing", and wasn't making her as happy anymore. Their are reasons to why I understand she was seeing that, And the only thing I have to say about that is, Simply when I get depressed, or something is wrong, or I feel something is wrong, I close myself away. I just sit in side, it's how I clear my head. Some people go on long walks, myself I don't. I like to sit inside, maybe take a nap. She has a different personality, she likes to go out and hang with people all night, as for myself, I do too, but not as much. It's mainly based on she wasn't happy anymore. It hurts, I wish i had longer to work things out, maybe if she told me a few months back, instead of trying to hint to me, I might have been able to fix my mistakes, or whatsoever. But that's not the case anymore. I know this the goodbye speech touched her though, I could feel it. We both cried and hugged each other. But I hope she is happy now, because that's all I ever wanted for her, is to be happy. And maybe now I can finally let go, and move on with my life. And be happy myself. 
warmaker :
When I spoke to her last night she pretty much told me that she was trying to "hint" to me a few months before we broke up, that I was "changing", and wasn't making her as happy anymore. Their are reasons to why I understand she was seeing that, And the only thing I have to say about that is, Simply when I get depressed, or something is wrong, or I feel something is wrong, I close myself away. I just sit in side, it's how I clear my head. Some people go on long walks, myself I don't. I like to sit inside, maybe take a nap. She has a different personality, she likes to go out and hang with people all night, as for myself, I do too, but not as much. It's mainly based on she wasn't happy anymore. It hurts, I wish i had longer to work things out, maybe if she told me a few months back, instead of trying to hint to me, I might have been able to fix my mistakes, or whatsoever. But that's not the case anymore. I know this the goodbye speech touched her though, I could feel it. We both cried and hugged each other. But I hope she is happy now, because that's all I ever wanted for her, is to be happy. And maybe now I can finally let go, and move on with my life. And be happy myself. 
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11-18-13 03:36 PM
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I might be looking a little too much into it, but there is just one part that REALLY popped out and I can't seem to put it out of my mind. The part I am referring to is the "If I wanted to hurt you, you would have been destroyed by now". To me, that just seemed a bit over the top and borderline a little creepyish. I think saying something like that is unnecessary and a just too much. That is just me though. You seemed to have wanted the message to be positive, and that is more of an impression of intimidation than anything.
I might be looking a little too much into it, but there is just one part that REALLY popped out and I can't seem to put it out of my mind. The part I am referring to is the "If I wanted to hurt you, you would have been destroyed by now". To me, that just seemed a bit over the top and borderline a little creepyish. I think saying something like that is unnecessary and a just too much. That is just me though. You seemed to have wanted the message to be positive, and that is more of an impression of intimidation than anything.
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Well, I think you did the right thing. I agree with rcarter in that the "If I wanted to hurt you" bit may have been a bit too much. But that's just me. I think you did good. I hope you start feeling better soon.
Well, I think you did the right thing. I agree with rcarter in that the "If I wanted to hurt you" bit may have been a bit too much. But that's just me. I think you did good. I hope you start feeling better soon.
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rcarter2 : haha I have an explanation for that, I should have probably mentioned that. Back in our relationship we always had a few jokes that no one would have ever understood, And that was actually apart of an inside joke between her and I. 
   If you wish to know, so you don't think I'm insane lol. Pretty much we were watching transformers 3 at the movies, and I turned my head, and just yelled in the middle of the theater, "I'm Going To Destroy You". And pretty much that's how the inside joke began. 
rcarter2 : haha I have an explanation for that, I should have probably mentioned that. Back in our relationship we always had a few jokes that no one would have ever understood, And that was actually apart of an inside joke between her and I. 
   If you wish to know, so you don't think I'm insane lol. Pretty much we were watching transformers 3 at the movies, and I turned my head, and just yelled in the middle of the theater, "I'm Going To Destroy You". And pretty much that's how the inside joke began. 
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