ok so here's a set of house rules around my aunts choice, My grandma wrote them all down.
plus a bit of a rant on how they treat us around here by my grandma.


1.kelly and aidan are to stay in the basement unless they are at school or it's supper time
(see 5 for more)


2. suppertime rules
a)they eat what is made
b)they aren't to complain about it
c)if they don't like it they can't have anything else
d)plate etc gets rinsed and put on conter
e)they can't drink unlimited milk it's for the babies
f) juice if theirs is gone to bad until I buy more. I'll buy more but I don't want them having all that sugar(my rule but questioned by erin I should let them have what they want.)


3.
a)when jorie and lukas are being put to bed-no noise from anyone or any sounds; (cupboards,toasters,microwave. tv in front room off or down low.
b) tv (not mine) rules for tv
1) they have to ask to watch
2)volume at 8 or lower
3)no net flix
4) no tv after austin goes to bed
5)don't want tv to break for to much use I can have a tv downstairs but the rules would be
(erin and austins rules)
-no volume they have to use headphones
-when watching don't get excited about whats on or happening
-to much hydro being used
-another punishment or constant threat about taking it away
-unhooking the cable and internet
-kelly's ds she has to use headphones when using it.
do not have any response when playing a game etc.
another threat to be taken away


4. no food of any kind downstairs it might attract bugs
a) they eat in the front room, their office
b) I eat in my room
c) they are not allowed night time snack (ie) to much noise to make, food has to last, they don't need it. (erin has a snack about 11 pm to get her through her all night stay up studying) this is okay austin also can have aa snack. this is allowed.
I get home from work and have a hot drink and toast but I'm to noisy and erin comes to see why.

aidan is to make her lunch the night before (erin's wish) but now aidan makes it while they are putting the kids to bed so now thats not allowed.(see rule 2)
no noise past 8:00pm adian's bed time is 8:30 no later than 9:00

kelly is to thin she needs to eat more- but when she does feel like eating.ie) crackers,cheese.ex
she can't have any cheese because her and aidan eat too big a portion it has to be kept for erin and the babies.
1 big block each week for 5 people . it's used on erins onlettes,babies snacks,babies lunches. not the girls anymore they're not to touch it anymore.
fruit etc-ask first if not enough left for babies than no you can't

oh by the way 2 weeks food bill is my money for all the food I don't stop anyone from eating it or how much I just go buy more to get us through. their 2 weeks food bill is rationed for the girls sort of (questioned as to why were eating)
ie. 1 sandwich for each girl
3 grilled cheese for austin
2 for erin
1 for both babies
this does not include the bread used for breakfast


5.
aidan has to ask to play with the babies if the answer is no, back downstairs to her room and dvd player.kelly has the same thing but her laptop or d.s other option is to play or sleep

6. kelly is suppose to have friend go hang out,go to the mall,do what erin and amy did at that age. their mom.
-sarah gave birth to kelly at 16
-amy on her own with boyfriend drinking,drugs,selling and using (no school)
-erin same as amy
(no school either)

kelly stays home in the basement on her laptop or ds,when we had a tv she watched that.
she'll have talks with me about things,she doesn't cuss,slams things,throws fits,doesn't talk back. rarely cries unless really upset or accused of doing something she never did, and the person going off on her won't leave her be.

ex. you can't preach to a kid about going to school and yada and on and on when said child watched you as a teen not be home for weeks at a time and not going to school. many times they watched while erin came home, begging for her attention only to be told to get away and leave her be. she are what she wanted fed her friends when food was low and not care where I was to get the money to replace it. did she care NO! these two watched both aunts as young ones.

kelly's been told that erin doesn't want her living here, she's told aidan the same thing I've been sitting in the room many times when this is being said. it makes no difference if I speak up or tell erin she can't speak like that to them it's their house.

I have to make decisions about our future now sooner than later and it involves getting out of the lease my name is on wwith them and leaving them holding all the rental and bills on the unit why should I care about doing that? Because I wasn't raised to treat people this way and I didn't raise my girls to be like this and yet they do this to me and I allow it(vicious circle begun) they do these things but don't and won't understand that my reactions to this are warranted and deserved. how can you say you want to help a niece to grow up an threaten to throw her out on the street because she won't go to school or do the things you did as a teen.


I can't understand the reasoning behind this logic. all the constant verbal attacks and threats do is make the person withdraw and hate you, you don't want to do a damn thing for them and your wary when they're nice to you. but you're not allowed to feel this way about them back, you're suppose to be respectful and try to be good back. I've been here still am and beginning to hate myself, if kelly is charged with truancy and aps is called and they come to the house we are thrown out erin says, they don't want cps to their house.

erin says kelly's behavior is not normal and she should be doing normal teen stuff but I know that if I got kelly and aidan doing normal teen stuff this house would be way worse for living in. see all the rules written then tell me you want kelly and aidan doing what amy and erin did. endless phone calls from friends anytime coning over, never coming home at night,swearing at me,hitting me,boys sleeping in beds with you.

Phone rules, -before 10am no phone calls-when babies are napping 12:30-3:00
bed time 7:00 and after aidan is to call if she's not coming home after school but see rules above.
-door locked at all times even when home thats what your key is for.
-if it's nice out-doors have to be shut-it's to noisy or too windy or too cool of a breeze
-furnace at 25 house temp 25 or higher.

shower time is after babies wake up in morning.before supper but after the babies wake up from nap not after supper it might be bath night and not after babies have gone to bed at 7:30pm.
but we are to have showers every other day because it's just gross if you don't

you've mentioned a few times that I'm a pushover and you need my money- you want your turn about splitting my expenses. amy had it why shouldn't you. you didn't like what amy was doing to me and the girls yet in your own way you do the same things just less cussing.

kelly can't be expected to have good social skills in any ggetting when she was always told to shut up her opinions don't matter and she's a child and shouldn't be part of any get together . how do you think that you get social skills are you born just knowing or do you get practice. how many times am I forced to be "rude" that visit when I'm told at my age by my kid to stay in the basement or my room. but I'm suppose to make friends and maybe have them visit me to let them see how my kids talk to me.

(ex. steph, amy's cussing and verbal put downs on the girls including her own 2)
amy's cussing and treating me wrong steph if she were to visit wouldn't be able to keep her mouth SHUT! but I understood completely-who wants her friends to know she has real rude kids who don't treat me well. people say your kids learn from the parent and yet you never ever heard me talking to my mom and dad this way.one argument with my mom and you weren't there to see. I talked back once and got my lips smacked and I was in the right mom had forgot I told her I would be late from school (grade 11)

Commenting based on how it looks in the "last posts" box since that's easier for me to read.

1) Is weird.
2) sounds fairly standard, assuming the cooks have any decent ability.
3) is a bit weird with there being rules about "feelings". I kinda feel that trying to control feelings like that is a bad, bad idea.
4) Seems to lack consistency.

And from 6 onward it seems like it gets harsh and ramblish. D:

My own parents never had a set writing of rules, themselves (Probably because I'd take it upon myself to enforce rules on people they don't want them to be enforced on...)

Well my grandma never did enforce rules because we behave and don't get in trouble. we basically just set the right rules by ourselves and then my aunt started taking control when we moved in with her.

Uh...I am really confused by some of these rules. Or it's just how they are written. And I skimmed through most of this post...there is no way I'm reading all that. Some of them do seem weird though. Apparently everyone is too noisy? I dunno, not a lot of that makes sense, but I'm not even sure who is who or whatever. Doesn't sound like a pleasant place to live in. 
I never really had to follow a set of rules. As long as I had common sense and didn't do anything that would obviously be deemed "bad" my household was never really strict. Unless I was at my dad's house...that was somewhat of a different story. 

Tilse : Yeah I know, my grandma writes things out weird. x3

The rules aren't that strange to me.

1. Totally not weird to me. When I was living with my grandmother in law, she wouldn't let us up on the top floor unless we were having dinner. I could leave the house through the basement, but there was no point, I lived nowhere.

2. Again, totally not weird. I had similar rules growing up.

3. Not that strange. Sounds like she just likes quiet. Honestly, quiet is better, and I'll probably have a noise rule in my house when I have kids.

4. Totally legit. Until I moved out, I wasn't allowed to eat outside of the kitchen.

5. Makes a little sense to me. She's being protective.

6(?) - I couldn't understand a word of that, so I really can't comment on it.

Aside from that though, it sounds just like my home life growing up.

legacyme3Look like when you'll become a grandad you'll set so many rules they won't be able to move anywhere or do anything.


crazycatpup : Why the hell did you gave out their names?

death_nation : Um because I can and I have no issues with it.

crazycatpup : I'd presume death_nation's just concerned. I'd probably be concerned as well, about personal information being given out. I don't tend to like posting anything that seems personal or private to me in any public forum for all to read, but that's just my style, and it's probably influenced by the more old-fashioned or introverted sides of me.

If you asked me if I'd think it okay to post those names, I'd probably say "No", but it's not really my decision in the end anyhow. ^^;

Some of these rules sound sort of strange, but overall they are just old fashioned. I had friends that grew up under similar rules (Years ago)

These Sound Normal To Me. Most Of These Rules I Have Also. Except Maybe About The Basement Parts Because I Don't Have One.

I barely have rules. My mom is really easy going, you should just live with me. lol

Until then, I'm sorry you have to abide by all these rules and all the crap you deal with. :/

Sounds like a combination of my step mom's rules and my child hood friend's families rules.

The food restrict thing is weird never heard of that before. Well with the exception of having to eat the same meal that is being prepared we do that here. But like in the middle of the night if my sugar goes down or I need to take another dose of pain meds I just go and make a snack. My dad even some times makes popcorn in the middle of the night if he's watching a sports game.

Now we set food restrictions for my little sister because she's at the age that she doesn't realize when her tummy is full. Just yesterday every 15 minutes she'd ask for food until we just got sick of her asking and we shoved her outside to play with her friend.

Also all the quiet stuff I don't get. When my sister is asleep I still watch tv in the living room. Now sure I won't blast my stereo in my bedroom but it won't stop me from making calls or watching tv.

Sending everyone to the basement is odd for me too. My family prides on everyone working together in the house. We all take a chore and work on it. When done we all sit for a movie or go outside and have fun. If you try to isolate yourself in a room you get in big trouble.

Here in our house with milk we are forced to drink 4 glasses of milk each day. Our limmit is reduced if we have yogurt but milk is essential to our health.

Wow I don't have much to say about that. I mean even I didn't have those kind of rules when I was growing up.

Wow, that's a lot of rules

It seems like your home has become really restricted (mostly referring to #6). Sorry to hear so

That's pretty strict. If I had those rules, my life would be a living hell. Then again, it does have some benefits to prepare for in it.