Okay. I have something I need to ask. I need some suggestions. Let's say you do something to someone, unintentionally, and you are trying to talk it out with the person or apologize. They REFUSE to talk to you? What should you do? Should you just forget about the person? Should you keep trying? Should you wait and try later? I really need some advice.

UPDATE: I found a solution, well someone found one for me. But feel free to talk about it or close the thread.

I would say it's good to talk things out. Try to understand and find out both sides, what they might have* felt, read, thought, etc; and clarify any mishaps or misunderstandings. I would try making contact or reaching through to the person. the thing I worry about is excess and point of annoyance, though I see no reason why it should take more than a couple times, considering it's nice to think people are open and understanding. but yeah if they are busy or just need some time to think or to them selves try again later.

UserMike : You're right. Yeah sometimes I get stubborn and end up annoying the person. They want to murder me afterward. Haha.

Wow that could be pretty hard you don't want to make them even more mad but you want them to know it wasn't on purpose. i would wait and like try to meet them again and say your sorry again & again

Well, glad to see in your update that you got a solution to work it out. When I am in that situation, I try to talk about it and apologize a few times, but like UserMike said, there is such thing as too much. Sometimes, the person just needs some space to cool off because the topic makes them too angry. But unless you accidentally killed their loved pet or something worse, there are few people who hold a grudge so long that they never are able to talk about it. Once they have had some time, I try again to see if they are willing to hear me out yet. If not, just keep giving more time. But if they are a real friend, they will come around.

Yeah that makes sense. Some people just can't let things go, even if it's not true or something that's very small. Thanks for the advice everyone. I will remember it for future troubles. Hopefully I won't have anymore though.

For future events, I recommend a simple method.

Give them a day or two to calm down. In the meantime, write out what you want to say. Read over it, make sure you it's to your liking, that you address everything. When you go to talk to them again, if they are still mad at you, give them what you wrote down and just ask them to read it and think about it. Then just leave them be til they come to you. More than likely though, just giving them a day will take care of the problem.

Elara : I do what you just described. I usually don't write it down, and sometimes I'll give it two weeks, but it usually works. Time solves most problems.

I have not really had much experience with such situations, but there is one that comes to mind for me. When I did wrong someone, unintentionally, I had to step back and wait a couple days before scheduling a meeting with my friend so I could properly apologize. I should mention that this meeting was scheduled by our parents, but even so, it had to be done. Usually what needs to be done when you are in this position is you need to apologize in a face-to-face setting. Not Facetime on your iPhone, but to both meet at the same public or private place. If necessary try to get someone both you and the other person know as a close friend to join you, and let the person you plan to apologize to know this other friend will be there.

In all honesty, there are times when you simply will need to leave the person you hurt behind. There is only one time I was the one who was hurt and had to move on. But in actuality, I hope to one day meet with these people (I cannot really call them friends) and tell that that I forgive them.

AuraBlaze : That's too bad, I'm sorry you had to cut ties with that person or persons. I appreciate that advice though, thank you.

That one incident where I was the direct victim was not much of a loss when I left. I tried to fit in, but few peers actually treated me like a friend. In fact, God used the incident for the better of me --though I will never say that bullying is beneficial. And you are welcome; I am very glad to hear what I have said has meant something.

AuraBlaze : Yeah I've been there with being the victim of bullying. Mostly when I was in my teens. But I think you did that right thing if it made your life better. And again, your advice did help.

I've been there a few times myself. It sucks, but I usually just wind up waiting. =/ If you're too persistent, it might drive them away even further. In my experiences, most of those people eventually came around and started talking to me. But I couldn't do much about those who weren't willing to listen, unfortunately. =|

I have the same problem constantly. I'm one of those people that tends to "get on peoples nerves". I've gotten better about it over the last couple years, but I still occasional really get on peoples nerves. More or less I usually just give the person time to calm down, then try to do some sort of favor for the person.

tabbikatt13 : Yeah sometimes I drive people nuts, but mostly only when I don't know the reason they're mad at me. But lately I've gotten better at not being too persistent.

trouble982 : Yeah sometimes people just hold grudges too long and don't want to give you the chance to make amends. And I mean the people that are mad over something really stupid and isn't something to really hold a grudge over.

Well, I think I can take some advice from this thread; usually if I'm in this situation (which has happened more than enough), I'll just let it go and move on with disassociating myself from the person... I regret that I do this, but that's how I deal with it.

SunflowerGaming : Yeah I know what you mean. I've had somebody hold a grudge for an entire summer because I did better in a class that they thought they would ace. It was so stupid. 

trouble982 : WOW that is stupid. Jealousy is all it is. If they worked as hard as you did, they might have done just as well.

SunflowerGaming : I think the reason they hated it so much is actually because I didn't try hard at all lol.