Ya I have... very sad time... I was upset for weeks for what he did 2 me It was about 1 or 2 years ago when it happend I guess. Have you been dumped and was hurt increasing bad for what he did 2 u.. or maybe your still in a relationship but it might be complicated... tell me ur story or how ur bf dumped u

Yes. Twice. 

The first time was about two and a half years ago when me and one of my friends decided to start dating. We had been the best of friends and while he wasn't the best boyfriend, but he was pretty good. Long story short, we were walking home from our high school one day and got into an argument. The following morning, I got a message on Facebook saying, "This isn't working out." That had been our first fight EVER and he breaks up with me, just like that. 

The second one was about a year ago. I had met this guy at my college and we dated for awhile. He broke up with me out of the blue one day because I didn't have a car. -__- He said that he was tired of having to drive the entire three miles to come get me. =| 

Both times hurt, a lot. I got over them both pretty quickly though, and now I have a great boyfriend. [= 

tabbikatt13 : Gosh those 2 guys were mean! I'm sorry for how ugly they were 2 you. But I'm glad that your happi now with your new bf . Congratz

Only once has a girl broken up with me. I'm usually the breaker, not the breakee.

It was my current girlfriend, and it was a bad week for both of us.

I'm not going into detail, but it was really important for both of us. I felt untouchable, and she needed to assert herself. We both got lessons from each other, and we've been a much better couple since then. Those 24 hours we were apart were probably the worst I have ever felt.

Now we are happy (or at least I am) =)

legacyme3 : That's good.. I'm glad ur happi

Not in the last three years, no. I've actually had a good relationship. However, I've been dumped many times, and they all sucked.

The top two I can think of were my last two big relationships. The first one dumped me for another woman one month after he had asked me to marry him, on stage, in front of a huge crowd at the Renaissance Faire. It hurt a lot, I didn't eat for two days. Then something just clicked and I let go, and moved onto another relation. The jerk still owes me $1400 for my supporting him for several months.

That next one... oh gods. We had a few break-ups. The first one, he left me for a 16 year old that reminded him of his ex... that lasted 18 days before he realized that he was a moron and that I wasn't using him as a rebound. We had a really good and solid relationship after that for several months. Then his first girlfriend came back into his life... I won't even try to be nice, the chick was psycho, totally psycho, and she had screwed him up bad. So that caused another break up, that lasted less than 24 hours. Things were good for a year after that, but not as good as before psycho chick. Then he made friends with this guy that was very pro-open relationships and that started affecting us because I was not in favor of it. He dumped me out of the blue a few months later, saying that he was not good enough for me (which was true, but he didn't mean it) and all this other stuff. Less than a week later, he slept with his ex (the one that the 16 year old reminded him of). I chased him for seven months, him leading me along, using me. Us still having a friends-with-benefits type of relationship, then later I learned he was sleeping with two other women at the same time and lying to me about it. Both of them were good friends of mine, and one of them was dating a friend. He was lucky that he was out of state when I found out.

Elara : oh gosh Elara I'm so sorry 2 hear that.. guys r pigs or at least thats what my mom says... they hurt you in a minute of just being in a relationship with you for a week.. or maybe even a year. I will tell you this that those guys who hurt you will be paid a lesson sometimes in ther life... we don't get away with horible things that we do in life..

No... I've never been dumped. The most it has been is mutual dislike and separation.

Dumping someone or getting dumped is really mean... usually I make sure I at least will devote a lot of time to a relationship if I begin one.

tabbikatt13 : HMMM...I WONDER WHO THAT MIGHT BE....

Not really. Only once in 6th grade I went out with a girl, and after we while we kinda just stopped talking.

Does it count if the wouldn't date you, but still said he loved you and all that stuff and basically lead you on to think that you all would eventually get together, but would ignore you and mess around with other girls and then tell you one day that he doesn't love you anymore and that he really needed help to talk about how this other girl was treating him badly(on the same day)? Because if that counts then yes I was dumped last year...(sorry for the run on)

Bintsy : Nope I haven’t been dumped in the last three years… I was actually dumped almost 14 yrs ago and unfortunately I haven’t really had a relationship since. It’s never a good feeling to be dumped, in my case it happened on my birthday over the phone. It kind of soured my view on birthdays and relationships for a while but I’m a better person because of it because I learned that I should be a little more careful about who I choose to be with based on what I had to go through after the break up, which I wouldn’t wish on anyone quite frankly. It’s been a long time for me but hopefully one day it will happen for me.


What does annoy me about relationships sometimes is that some people can have everything they want whether it be career, family or, personally or, all of the above and for whatever reason they choose to take everything for granted. What’s real bad about it is that for those who squander whatever good that they have in life in regard to relationships, it leaves a bad taste in the mouths of those that they hurt which in turn makes things harder for the people that are actually decent and don’t take things like relationships and or companionship for granted. The sad thing is no matter what anyone says there will always be people who will have a certain swagger about them that really don’t appreciate how good they may have it in life compared to someone else who’s luck hasn’t been so good. It’s sad but it’s a fact of life unfortunately. What is important for those that have been hurt and or, taken for granted in a relationship to remember is that there is always someone who deserves a chance and, likely someone who will appreciate them more than their previous relationship.


For a long time I had a negative view on the concept of trust because of what I had to go through after the break up of my last relationship and, the things that led to that break up and such. When you go through life basically with you’re guard up seemingly at all times because you’re leery of putting your trust in someone regardless of the circumstances it can make you very paranoid. Although I am neurotic by nature and even though it’s been a long time since my last relationship I’ve gradually learned to let my guard down in regard to certain people but at the same time not be quick to trust someone and look for ways to see what kind of character they have before I allow trust to become a part of the equation.


Despite my struggles in the past with regard to relationships I still believe that there is someone for everyone. It may sound like a stereotypical view or, simply a good slogan for a Hallmark card on Valentines Day but, that’s how I feel about it.

I have but I'm not the kind of kid who cries about it..I say "hey your decision is your decision...if you wanna miss out on THIS (rofl) then that's your problem" then i walk away...its now like a sit and cry about it but i would understand..

yes i have quiet a few times in fact i'm so used to it that it doesn't hurt me anymore,or atleast thats what i thought then a new guy came into my life i fell in love then he dumped me i was so upset, it happened awhile ago and i'm still upset about it.

Yes, just once. My first boyfriend dumped me after we had been dating for three and a half years. We had got into a fight, and then made up about a week earlier. The last time we saw each other in person, we went on a date, he slept with me, and he told me he loved me. I thought everything was going to be okay, and I was so relieved. But a few days later, on Christmas day, he phoned me and basically admitted to lying about his feelings for me, and told me that he never wanted to see me again. Even if he had wanted me back, I would have had to say no, because I could never trust him again after something like that.

The breakup was obviously not mutual, because I still had feelings for him. I was extremely heartbroken, for months and months. I had problems sleeping, with my self-esteem, body image... I was convinced there was something wrong with me. And I did really stupid things to distract myself from the pain, in weird attempts to speed up the "getting over it" process, which obviously was a bad idea and did not work. I had nightmares for the majority of that time, that would end up ruining the rest of my day because they were so vivid.

Now that I've had lots of time to think about it, but I'm still not really sure how to feel about it. I guess it still hurts, just not as much as it did when it was fresh in my mind.

However, I learned a lot of things from that relationship. I think the biggest lesson I learned is to not take someone for granted, because of how much it hurts when they're gone.