I'm in an awkward position. There's a girl who I am friends with, and I'm madly in love with her. She's pretty, smart, funny, and we share a lot of the same interests. That's just it though, we're just friends. It's really odd, I don't think that dating at our age is appropriate. I want to wait until I'm at least 16 to date (she thinks that as well). So, what am I to do? Wait until I feel that I'm ready to date? I don't want to just walk up to her and ask her to date me for that may threaten our friendship. Have you ever wanted to date a close friend but felt that you just couldn't?

I've never been in a relationship (I'll be 17 in 4 days) so I won't give some unfounded and outrageous advice like to go for all or bust, but I will say this. If you guys are really good friends, then I think that even if you ask her out and she declines, you should still be able to be friends afterwards. Especially when your still in school. Particularly in high school when people get together and break up with many people frequently. If you end up getting rejected it would be awkward at first and maybe for a while, but eventually if you don't show any signs of lingering affection then she may forget about it or just move on. But if you totally pour your heart out in your confession and make it seem like she's the only person you will ever love, then it might be very awkward for a while and in both cases, it might be better to slightly distance yourself from her a little bit if you both were very close for a while until it's not fresh on either of your minds. If you guys are really good friends though, as long as you don't pursue it I think she might be able to forget about it and things may go back to the way they were before then. But in my personal opinion, I think it would be better to ask get closer to her and eventually do ask her out because even though she could say no, it's also possible that she might say yes. And also, it might be much worse to torture yourself wondering what she might say and waiting until she eventually she meets someone else who decides to take initiative. If you really love her and want a serious relationship, and I mean love not like like or fancy, then you really should ask her. But that's just me. I can't even say that I would have the will to do something like that because I'm a kind of a coward, but your probably better than I am and I think someone who is seriously in love should be able to pull it off. Well, what ever you decide to do, Good luck.

DeltaEdge : Thanks for the advice. Maybe I just need to man up and tell her that I like her, but not go crazy about it.

Yes soo badly he is really funny, nice and cute.
He is a really close friend and i'm afraid if i
ask him out it will ruin our friendship plus
he likes another girl and it's one of my friends.

crazycatpup : Wow, that's a bad position to be stuck in. I hope everything will turn out okay for you.

Yeah, but I can't because I don't date girls that are older than me (even if its by a few months). It feels so weird to be in that position, and my friend is older than me, so......yeah.

Dude, I was in your position for a few months. Here's what you do. You have to ask yourself a few questions:

Would I risk our friendship for a relationship (especially at a young age when those relationships tend to fizzle out quickly).

I was/am 18 when I was in that position. What I did was realize that I loved her and that it would eat me up inside until I let her know how I felt. So I told her. It was the bravest thing I've ever done. I got rejected and our friendship was a little strained, but I've been talking to her and I saw her recently and it's like nothing ever happened. If she's a real friend, I think the same thing would happen.

But here's what I want you to do different. Don't tell her "I LOVE YOU." That'll probably just shock her. Instead, I would say ease into it. I felt that I did so much to prove what kind of person I am so skipped that part. However, keep in mind, she may only think of you as a friend. That is not as bad as it sounds. What you gotta do is get her to start thinking of you as more than that. A date is fine. Take her to a restaurant somewhere when you're ready or something. Take her to a baseball game. Remember, be confident. Women can smell confidence a mile away.

I hope this helps. Good luck.

Very complicated situation. Actually I was in the same situation when i was 13 and like one of my friends. Now that im 14 me and her are dating and just having a great time. Even taking her to prom. Anyways just go ahead with it and see how things come out. Just remember not to be a jackass when asking her out. It is ur choice and hope this helps. Good luck !

Thanks for the advice guys. I think that all I really need to do is wait until I know she is close enough to me that it's okay for me to ask. Once again, I think it's awesome that you guys are willing to help me out.

I would just tell her you like her. You never know, she might like you too. My boyfriend and I were really good friends and we liked eachother for a very long time. Neither of us wanted to ruin our friendship though and/or thought the other one didn't like them. Obviously, we really did like each other. Long story short, you never know till you try.

rlmathias01 : I felt like that too. However, I realized the day before that she didn't think of me like that. Then some other circumstances happened which pushed me to tell her.

There is a chance that your friend does like you too. There's also a chance that she doesn't. Take it slow, take it safe. Patience is a virtue.

Don't feel too bad. Those of us who are socially-awkward even into adulthood have it just as bad. This I work with comes across as almost perfect, but is more into the fit and outdoorsy-type and I am not that. I might just grow some and ask her out sometime but I probably won't. I may just be attracted to her because I know subconsciously that I don't have a chance at all.