This has happened to me numerous amounts of times. I would like this one guy and I would think he liked me back but in the end he was just playing me. Has this happend to you or is it just me?

Yes and it sucks. You see. I'm not the best looking guy out there. I'm not in shape so I don't have muscular chest and abs like my best friend did, but he would never betray me or judge me like that. He was a keeper, but we came across this one girl and I was the first to approach her. She was a very sweet girl. She was kind to me and we had a lot in common, but when she saw my friend. Well you could pretty much feel it coming. My friend didn't know that I was trying to get with her nor did he know that she was hitting on him behind my back. We dated for a few months. The whole time she was just using my kindness just to get closer to him. When the day came. I went to her home to have a movie date with her. I knocked on the door and her mom answered it. I asked if she was here and she said yes upstairs with her boyfriend. I was shocked and told her mom that I as her boyfriend. Oh yeah, you could see the shocked look on her face when I told her that. She called her daughter downstairs and when she came downstairs. She saw me and rolled her eyes at me and told her mom who was I and she didn't know me. It was heart breaking. I then asked her mom if I could have a word alone with her and went up to her room with her only to see my best friend up there. That's when she came out with it. She told me that she liked him because he was hot and I was fat. She told me that she didn't like guys like me of course my friend didn't know what was going on and eventually left her since he found out what was going on. So there is my story. It destroyed my confidence in girls and I hadn't dated anyone in over 5 years now.

Define playing. I was used for kissing and almost sex. Hate them slots. If you mean just messing around, like messing with your love for them, then I am not sure.

Yeah, define getting played.

If some girl was using me for sex and didn't like me, I'm okay with it because I still got sex. I'm not exactly sure why this is bad.

Kind of arguable on my part. I sorta liked a guy and he acted like we were friends for a while. One day he randomly said "I don't wish to speak to you," then just logged off Facebook. The next time I saw him he refused to even look at me. I thought we were doing pretty well, so I don't know whether or not he was just messing with me.

I've been played a few times, but that's why I don't like to randomly start dating someone I just met.  I've tried pursuing girls that I just met that seemed interested, only to have them work their way closer to one of my friends and try getting with him instead.  One admitted it after awhile, and the other got caught by me and the friend she was after.  Neither one got to date the guy they really wanted because of the way they tried to get my friends.  The one that admitted it I straight-up told to get out of my sight because I was done with her, then told my friend and he wanted nothing to do with her when she asked him out afterwards.  As for the other one, my friend asked me about how she had been acting around him, and I told him to talk to her the next time nobody else was around.  She tried to hold his hand and kiss him on the lips, and he walked right out on her, coming straight to me.  He told me where he found her, and the next day at school he went there while I waited nearby to listen in.  Caught her practically begging.  Confronted her in the middle of the conversation.

These are guys I've known for years, and we've been forced into enough fights to know that each one of us will cover the other's backs.  If any of them come to me like he did, I'll hear him out and find out for myself what's going on, and the same goes the other way.  That's one of the ways I'm lucky.  Still, it sucks when a girl acts kind and sweet only to turn out to be completely underhanded and mean.  I suppose it goes for both sides of the coin.

I can't say I've been played, but I've been used. Long story though. Basically, I pride myself in being the nice honest guy, even when it hurts me in the long run (I'll be honest to a total stranger, I've had problems from it but I am who I am) so naturally, my ex (her name's Robin) told me she felt she trusted me more than any of her other exes (that number had reached the high double-digits before we met - should've been a red flag for me) and we worked the same job, so we spent a lot of time together. But the entire relationship only lasted a month. And in that time, the following happened:

Everything she wanted, I bought for her. Her first gift was $120 of jewelry for Christmas. She ended up draining a grand from me over the course of the 36 day relationship.

Every guy she saw that was hotter than me (I'm not bad, but not great) she would actually point him out to me and tell me a bunch of other stuff to get me jealous on purpose.

She rarely, basically NEVER kissed me. She obviously never went further.

She told me secrets about her long list of exes she still had feelings for, who frequently talked to her even during our relationship.

And never treated me with any amount of respect whatsoever.

I know what you think: Why the heck would I even be in a relationship like that? Well, love is stupid. I ignored the red flags because I was going through a depression phase, and I was just happy to be in a relationship. She ended up cheating on me, I wasn't surprised. Hurt, but not surprised. She begged for me back but quickly grabbed a new relationship with yet a third guy, named Chris (if you could call it a relationship, another long story).

At the same time, my first ex (who dumped me but we stayed friends) who I still liked was being annoyed by a d*** that talked down to her, so I had the brilliant idea to hook Robin up with the d*** to kill two birds with one stone (cure Robin's desperation and get this d*** out of our lives). They hit it off, and then after 4 days Robin cheated on him too, with the SAME GUY she cheated on me with! Now Robin and the d*** are somehow back together and I haven't heard from them since. My first ex is engaged and she's slowly pushing me (one of her only two best friends) out of her life for good, and I now have an almost impossible time trusting women anymore!

That was a rant, sorry. But yeah, you can say I've been played before!

Well, my ex boyfriend dumped me because he fell out of love with me completely. I believe he did truly love me at one point, at least that's what he told me.

It's not really being played because he wasn't lying the whole time, but I can't help but wonder.

At what point did he lose all his feelings for me. He broke up with me basically two days after we spent an evening
together, and he told me he loved me... I can only assume he was lying
then, how many times did he lie before he finally decided it was time to
break it off?

How many times did we go out as a couple or sleep together, all while he was doubting or feeling no love for me... Just pretending/lying to avoid having to say something... Or even worse, how many times was he using me to conveniently get laid without actually having any interest in having me in his life...? It was a pretty horrible feeling at the time, to realize the person you
are devoted to giving your attention to didn't want you, possibly for
months all along.

I just to be the player until I realized just exactly how douchey I was XD

but no, one has ever played with me. I usually catch it before they get a chance to go anywhere  

Naw, I don't believe so. I had some close calls, but I haven't really gotten into any relationships. I believe I've had the option, especially a month ago but the school year was over before I got the chance to ask her out. She's going to a different high school for her freshman year but I should see her in my Sophomore year.

Bintsy :  

Unfortunately it has happened to me more than once both in regard to people I was actually in a relationship with and with people I wanted to attempt a relationship.   With the latter it would be something along the lines of them telling me “I want to be with you.” But they would do nothing to show that they were serious nor would they be willing to let anyone (Friends or family) know of their supposed relationship with me. 

 

It is a downer especially when in my case I work extremely hard at what I do and put myself through a self-imposed schedule that most consider insane.  Despite my work ethic and schedule I have always been willing to make adjustments to go out on dates and or spend time with someone but unfortunately for me I haven’t found someone is willing to show that their serious when they say they want a relationship and aren’t afraid to show it.

 

It’s a shame that some people for one reason or another just can’t be honest with someone who is honest.  The shame of it all is for those who aren’t on the up and up, who choose to play games and or lie is that at the end of the day, it is they who more often than not miss out on something or someone who could have been someone special for them.  At least that is the way I see it. 

 

I think it is important not to get discouraged or to let it change how you are and how you treat people although from personal experience I will admit that sometimes it can be easier said than done.  For those who choose to play games, it’s their loss.  That’s how I look at it.  

I only let that happen to me once, then I learned to never let it happen again. I had a huge crush on this guy in high school, and one night he acted all sweet and gentlemen like. Then once we were alone he shoved me into a wall and stuck his hand up my shirt.

I pushed him away, and told him to leave me alone. Of course, the next day at school he told all of his friends that he "got in my pants."

I was much more careful after that.

Sadly yes, but that's BS is behind me. Reason why I liked her because we were actually good friends, but these days people you used to hangout with back in school are either good or bad, but this hoe was far from both. She was horrid. She had 3 kids, and don't even know how to take care of them. She was lazy, no good source of income, was always smoking and doing other drugs. Using food stamps on essentials stuff, but money on stuff she don't even need. She was never ambitious. She was only with me all because she wasn't independent, she had to borrow my car and my money to get the stuff she need. She was classless. She couldn't even break up with me in person, she had to do it over a cell phone, so I drove to her house, and broke up with her the way people should. She was just an extreme waste of time.

GAHHH!! My last two potential relationships have turned out REALLY badly; this is karma for all the people I've played in the past >.< 

   I got played by the same girl three times in the course of 3 years.  I had a crush on this girl, which I will nickname Melanie.  Anyway, I had a crush on Melanie since the 4th grade and she later became my best friend in 8th grade.  I have a weakness for her.  We'd hold hands and people would usually ask me if she was my girlfriend.  It was such a pain to have to say no. All 3 times went nearly the same:
 we'd start talking, become friends, she says we're best friends, she tells me she likes me, we do Couple-stuff (hold hands,etc), she becomes distant, she stops talking to me, and finally she goes out with some other guy (or girl, she's bi) who turns out to be an a** or a total b****.  We never kissed (except for cheek kisses), she was never into making out, let alone anything further.
   Yeah, I'm a sucker.  Like I said, I have a weakness for her. But I guess all the s*** she put me through made me a better guy.  I got inspiration to write music, I became more confident, and I the whole experience just made me want to become such an amazing guy that she'll look back and say "Damn, I regret not going out with him."  I still love the girl to bits, but looking back it's hard to see if she ever really loved me, even as a best friend.  If you've ever seen the movie 500 Day Of Summer (awesome movie btw), well that was my relationship with Melanie, except for the sex.
   It's stupid and I'm still trying to truly get over it.

No and something in me tells me I doubt it will ever happen (If they are all the stereotypical types).
1. At my age can tell when they are 'one of those people' .
2. If I realise they are 'one of those people' I automatically take a slight dislike towards them.

Unfortunately, yes. I have. And it really sucks when they do that. It hurts a lot. There was this one girl in high school. Glad I didn't end up going out with her. She turned out to be stuck up.