Alright here is the break down. We have talked for hours online and have been out on two dates in person. She said her ideal guy was some who was honest and always is himself around her no matter what. I feel an extremely strong connection with her, but I am aware of dating rules and unwritten rules so I know it is 95% of the time a very stupid idea even if it is love at first sight.

I am not sure if there will be a third date, I feel the connection and I think she does too but like something was missing for her to be really into it, and I think it may be it. I am thinking of coming out and saying it, in a smart way of course following the typical 10 rules of telling someone you love them IE stay on point, don't get emotional, don't expect and answer etc etc. What do you guys think.

What I plan to tell her is the truth. That it has been six years that I have felt this way about someone, and that I know I am being crazy and a little bit of an a$$ for telling her and putting this on her. In a little more detail and basically the truth about what happened in the past. We have both been fairly open about bad experiences etc etc, and have shared a lot already so this isn't me telling someone I barely know, we know each other quite well.

Even if she doesn't call me for a 3rd-4th date she has a couple of my stuff so I will be seeing her again either way.

No matter what one of these two things will happen.

1: If she does call me back for a third/fourth date I will tell her the truth but much more mellow, basically that I am crazy about her etc etc, but avoiding the deep words like love and stuff because scaring her away would be bad.

2: If she calls me to come pick up some stuff I loaned her I tell her what I told her, say thanks for showing me I can feel that way again, and that I probably won't see you again because you think I am crazy and then leave quickly like my friend suggested.

Neither of us are teenagers and both adults so take that into consideration, that this isn't some high school thing. I expect 80% of you to say h3ll no, but just curious to see how crazy you think I am. I figure if she says she doesn't feel anything I basically have nothing to lose and might as well tell her the truth so for the rest of my life I don't regret keeping my mouth shut just for the sake of dating "rules"

I think the third date is a little early to feel real love for someone else. That's just my opinion. I've been married for 6 and a half years though so it's been a while since I've been in the situation.

I think you should wait a little bit longer personally. See if things actually start to go somewhere. You can have other strong feelings that aren't "love" but are still good. Something similar like "I'm really happy when I'm around you" or "It's so easy to talk to you" might score you better points long term and won't scare her off if she's not quite at your level.

I voted not enough information, because these things are more personal and there is not right answer for everyone. For someone who was able to tell his girlfriend he loved her after a short period of time, sometimes the girl is just as willing, and sometimes they are a little more skeptic of love. Just be yourself, and enjoy her for the time being, get signs of love from her, before you can tell it is right.

I wish you luck friend. Because when it comes to love, we could all use a little luck.

First, there aren't any dating rules. You can do whatever you want, however you want. If she wants a guy to be real, just do what feels right.

Saying that, I wouldn't come right out and say, "I love you." You can be positive, you can tell her she's very special and you like her a lot but don't rush to qualify a new relationship with LOVE. Just enjoy being with her, enjoy your feeling of love when you're around her, and have fun with the whole thing.

People are always so busy defining what the relationship is. If you like each other, enjoy each other. Don't worry about where you stand, you'll both figure that out sooner or later. If you've only recently met her and you're still learning about each other, it's hard to say you love her. Heck, do you know the names of her pets when she was a kid? Do you know what color her toothbrush is? These things that truly make a person who they are are the things that make you love someone. You can be infatuated but it may not be love.

Don't define it to her or yourself. Just go out, date her, have fun. Ignore any rules you think you know. Be upfront and honest and talk things out. Tell her you feel she's a really good person and you want to be around her. It's that easy.

I still say don't figure out the relationship. Just enjoy the thing.

Good luck!