I was posting in another thread when this occurred to me. Friends definitely come and go. Sometimes friendships end because people just drift apart. Other times, it's because one person did something that hurt their friend in some way.


Out of my two new friends at a new elementary school, one of them stayed my friend for a few years before we drifted apart. I recently became friends with him on Facebook and we sort of get along again now. The other friend that I made decided after a year that he didn't want to be friends with me. At that age, it did bother me that he would just end a friendship without really saying anything. The worst thing about it was that his new best friend just happened to be the kid who bullied me. For the few remaining years that I went to that school he pretty much ignored the fact that we were friends for a year and participated in bullying me. I've considered checking if he's on Facebook, but all I can think of is how he completely destroyed whatever friendship we had. I haven't reached a point where I can forgive it.


My question is, have you ever had a friendship that ended because your friend hurt you somehow?

I'm sorry to here that man I had and have many friends but only a couple that hurt me. One friend made a pass at my girlfreind at the time and one friend stole stuff from me to buy drugs

I had a friend who I looked up to, we stopped being friends because of his girlfriend which i can understand I NORMALLY wouldn't let a girl come between any of my friendships but there was something about her that really made me mad. She was cheating on him with tow more of my friends. I tried to tell him about it but i guess he didn't want to believe me. So our friendship ended when he caught her finally but i guess she said or did something to plead to him that she was sorry and they got back together and really just drifted from me when i was trying to spare him the hurt.. I ended up losing the other two friends also because of similar situations but with the same girl... tragic...

Yeah You learn not to trust anyone with certain things

I don't really want to go into it though. Better to move on.

Okay, I'll share another one. I started dating this girl that i was really into, she was a friend of my best friend. He didn't like the idea of us dating, particularly because he said he was in love with her. But she didn't feel the same about him. He told me, "You know i am really starting to hate you, because friends don't stab each other in the back." Okay there are three things wrong with all of that. 1. He told me after the fact that we had started going out and i had already started developing feelings for her. 2. She told me that she couldn't like him because she saw him as a brother. 3. If you are my best friend why would you begin to hate me? I thought you would be happy for me like i would be for you.. Long story short I ended up breaking up with her because i didn't want anything to come between my friendship, and now she hates me...

BNuge : Yes I can say that I have been betrayed by friends and girlfriends in the past… I can also say that I am not perfect nor have I ever claimed to be and I have made my share of mistakes as well. It is never a good feeling to feel like you’ve been hurt by a close friend or someone you’re in a relationship with.

There is plenty of anger initially when this happens though over time it does get easier and you can find yourself actually feeling fortunate that you may have gone through certain things that helped to mature you over time.

I use to have many friends but in reality they were more acquaintances if nothing else. Most of these people were people I hung around during my teen years and that period of my life is not something I look back on fondly. Although I still keep in contact with a select few that I’ve known longer then from when I was in High School, I don’t really keep contact with many people I hung out with from that time in my life.

I recently ventured into social networking reluctantly so I have come across a few of those I did not keep contact with over the years. Although I am very polite and professional as it is part of my job I prefer to keep most relationships from back then in the past where it belongs.

I have been open to at least hearing some of those who did me wrong back then out and although I have been very civil and polite with those people I just prefer to leave it at that. The thing that I am always cautious of is that although I was writing and published back then I am not the same person I was back then and in my experience most of whom I hung with seem to have similar attitudes as they did back in school.

The difference with me is that after I left school I pretty much broke off from the majority of those who I hung with and was able to straighten myself out and really get into my work on a fulltime basis at that point. Although I am polite with all, I don’t want to reconnect with most of these people.

I have built a decent career for myself and, that for me since I did not finish school is more valuable to me then the idea of reconnecting some friendships that may not have been good for me and served as a determent if nothing else.

I know that this may seem a tad harsh to some people but, it’s difficult to even be open to the idea of rebuilding some friendships after so many years have past and, in my case my life is more or less strictly focused on my work the majority of the time and I am not the carefree type that I might have once been.

I treat acquaintances and friends from the past similarly as bvd1022. However, I usually have no ill feelings left anymore of them (although, that only happened with two former friends). There's only two person that I called friend that I can honestly say betrayed me. I've come to notice that it's just his nature. He tends to get tired of people and just move onto new friends/victims/suckers/suckas/etc.

Another former friend is much more recent. I don't even want to acknowledge her and she did request me on facebook. Suffice to say, I let that request sit there until it got cold and she realized that I didn't want to be friends anymore. A few months later, she tried again. I persevered with my apathy and just as before, she got the hint.

What I can't seem to understand is why she keeps doing this. Now if I see her somewhere she tries to talk to me and greet me and stuff. It's really awkward. She's very obnoxious in how she seems to yell everything out whether it be ridicule, complaints, etc. It's funny how she makes a big deal out of other people listening to her moaning. She's so loud that it's hard not to listen. I think she just wants attention.

In her case, it wasn't really betrayal, she's just a bad person. She finds things to say about anyone. She talks so much s*** and she's so hypocritical that I'm beginning to think that she never listens to herself talk.

My friends usually are very loyal to me but sometimes they do spread a rumor hear and their.Some are rumors that are not of importance,but one time a friend spread a rumor about me that really got to me and ended up not talking to that person ever again.I really regret ending that friendship,but if he is spreading bad rumors then I don't deserve a friend like that.

WOW, these experiences made me kind of sad. It's sad how friendships can be so easily ruined. I'm sorry you all had to go through that. I've had my share of friendships ending, mostly from the ones when I was in high school. Most of them is because we just lost touch. I am more cautious with who I choose as my friends now tho.

I told my friend a secret about me of what I've been doing for quite sometime
and he ended up telling a few others, which really hurt me. So I kinda drifted apart, we still talk, but not as much as before.

Yeah, actually I have. I knew this guy since second grade, but he left me and went to Stone were my cousin live. he probably friends with my cousin by now.

Yes I have, but I'd rather not talk about it here...

Yeah, I had a pal. I was joking around with him and I got him to to react to something pointless, which must of insulted his intelligence. He turned to a real d-bag after, but whatever. Just gotta keep going on with life.

Jazz I know how ya feel. I had a friend recently turn into kind of a douche over something stupid. But I guess that's life huh?

Just because she is a girlfriend/boyfriend does not imply a commitment of any kind, it's just a friendship that goes a little further. Yeah, it is meant to be with one person, but that is not always the case. I've seen girlfriends, even fiances (at a party last weekend no joke) making out with other guys multiple times. It happens all of the time so just prepare yourself mentally because no relationship is immune.

We all have,try to work though it or if you can't,forget them.

NotJon : If it makes you feel any better I have also had a few friend requests come my way since I reluctantly ventured into social media that I have been to say the least hesitant to do anything with. I’ve said this before in similar topics regarding social media including some of my own threads but, the main and really sole reason that I am on social media now after being hell bent against it for years is that it more or less became mandatory for me in regard to my work.



If it were not more or less a requirement for my work I would not give social media much thought. As it is, I am very cautious about it and doubt that I will ever get comfortable with it. With that said I did talk to a person whom was a contributing factor as to why I left school and it had been almost 13 yrs since this person had any contact whatsoever with me.



Despite some initial hesitation I accepted the friend request if nothing else to see what this person had to say despite me having anger toward that person even so many years later. It turned out to be an extremely polite cordial and, pleasant conversation which is something that I definitely did not expect.



There weren’t any apologies or anything like that but once we got to talking I realized that this person was not anywhere near the same person that I remembered whom gave me more grief than I deserved back then. Once this person told me what they had done in the years since I decided to say you know what you may have made my life difficult for me but I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt and not bring up the past.



I will admit that this is definitely something that I never thought I would ever do in regard to this particular person and, in regard to other relationships I probably wouldn’t even consider but, the problem that I have is that being in the media you are sort of a public figure whether you want to be or not. Therefore as you have responsibilities being in media in regard to various duties, you also have an equal responsibility to be accessible to people, whether you like some folks or not. This is what it boiled down to for me. For business reasons I had to make myself accessible to this person to at the very least not leave the potential that I ignored someone for what ever reason out for someone to use.



I say this knowing good and well that I will probably never talk to a vast majority of the people that were contributing factors to what I went through again. Although there are things from my teens I may not remember too well, there is a lot of painful memories and although I want to be accessible for business reasons, why potentially take a risk and open the door to people whom were frankly detrimental and simply not good for me, where in essence it could be a liability business wise.



It’s definitely a Catch 22 that I probably will never come to grips with. I just hope that those whom I did allow access to realize that I am there begrudgingly and only for business and will let me simply do what I am there to do and that will be that. At least that is what I am hoping for. It would be nice to be able to look back on my life at some point and see my teen years not as a dark period of my life (which it was…) but more as a period that helped in a round about way to get me to where I am now.


At least that’s what I hope for…

Actually, no. There are very few people I would truly consider a friend and those few I would trust with my life. I used to be more than a little antisocial for most of my life so that also contributes to me not getting betrayed by a friend.

Yes, I felt betrayed when my older best friend punched me in the face to reserve the honor of a bully.

being betrayed by friends sux but its a part of life, unfortunately u have friends that take advantage of u even betray u.all u can do is learn.