OK my friend jessicazawsome is a user here. I PM-ed her asking her to be my girlfriend. I think I made a bad move on that. Then again, i might not have. We liked each other in the 6th grade, and from what i remember we did everything together; worked on projects, sat next to each other at lunch... the memories. Anyway, i was gonna ask her to be my gf in the 7th great, but she moved. Now if she says yes I don't know how to keep a long distance relationship going. Anyone think I did the wrong thing? Extra things about me and her to help:

1. understand each other.
2. always nice to each other.
3. I had a great time with her in the 6th grade and couldn't help but get a crush on her. I probably have a crush on her because she understands me. She's cute, but not hot cute.


All questions comments and suggestions might not be accepted/read.


please help me people.


-Yoshi,out

i see the first problem you made- telling us about it (and saying which member)

if you just like her and asked her, then just hope it doesn't end bad, it sounds like you don't even have an answer yet, and your still worried, don't worry about it, even if she says no, im sure you two will still be friends good luck.

Yoshi123 : You might want to take off who it is like Mega said. Kind of embarrassing

Well anyway, she might come back and visit but otherwise just talk to her on here and on Facebook (if ya got it). Then just hope it all works out, just saying that long distance usually doesn't work... Hope it does for you

I agree with MegaRevolution1 I wouldnt worry so much about it because if it dont work out yall can still be good friend's and I agree with billythekidmonster I would take her name off because it might embarrass her

MegaRevolution1 : Since everyone agrees with you, could you close this?

ok i sorta like this site alot but i hate the plug in required stuff its like it sucks dudes and dudets

No way!! You're totally doing the right thing.
And maybe she feels the same about you too. (:
But as for the LD relationship, they would only have to work if you guys had a way of actually seeing each other in person some how.
Specially at your age, relationships in general don't work because you both are changing ALOT (mostly in the way you guys think)
You'll both start changing and you don't want to ruin a perfectly good friendship if you guys break up.
Maybe it would be okay to just continue being friends for a while until you both are old enough and mature enough to start a real relationship (and not to mention, long distance)

But it's up to you. (: I'm just trying to help.

Yoshi123 : Mega can't close it, he's not a mod. He is RGR staff. Let me know if you really want this thread closed.

As long as the topic, although you seem to had a good time together at 6th grade, and you might be a potentially good couple, I think that a distance relationship might not work for you. Most distance relationship usually end after a couple of months, due to the distance.
If you're going to try it though, just keep in mind that probably you'll feel jealous or insecure, whenever she tells you that she had a good time talking to someone else(even if nothing is going wrong, most people feel a bit jealous, because of it).
But who knows, maybe it will work for you, just follow your heart

Yoshi123 : No you didn’t do anything wrong… If anything the only thing wrong you did was thinking that it is wrong to feel the way you do, it’s not… I have been around the track a couple of times in regard to relationships so I might be able to help you out here a little bit. First I will be honest with you in regard to relationships I have not done well and have been single for years. This is partly because of being young and dumb but mostly due to not being with the right people.

I have also tried long distance relationships in the past and those haven’t worked well for me either but that can be attributed to what age I was at the time and subsequent what age my girlfriend was. I can relate to you to a degree… I have had a couple of failed relationships that I would take a second chance with if given the opportunity. Last year, I was sitting here in my home one morning and the phone rang and it turned out to be one of my ex-girlfriends who I had not spoken to in five years prior to that.

Naturally I was a little suspicious at first because why would someone call someone after so long just out of the blue much less an ex. I thought something might be up but as it turned out she just wanted to reconnect with me and we got to talking and there are still feelings between us and we’ve been talking regularly ever since. This is one of the few relationships that I blame myself for it failing so if I were to get a second chance here I would definitely make the best of it. Who knows where that will go but I would be lying if I said I didn’t enjoy talking to her especially in a difficult time for me.

There was also another girlfriend of mine that actually lived with me for a while… I had taken her in when she got kicked out of where she had been staying and there were feelings there too but I think the error that I made was that I was a little hard on her in regard to doing right by herself. She use to give her money (She’s on disability) to these “Friends” of her’s and the only reason I put “Friends” in quotation is because the only time these people were ever around especially after she was staying with me was when she had money and they wanted something from her.

We butted heads about this on a regular basis as well as her not doing right by herself and such. and although I will admit I was softer on her than I would normally be with other people but, I would regularly ask her the question of if these people really gave a damn for you, why was I the only one willing to take you in and actually wanted to take you in? I never got a response out of her but I wasn’t really looking for one to be honest, I was simply trying to wake her up in regard to the people she hung out with. We had been friends for years but we came close to getting together several times so it wasn’t that I was telling her what to do or anything like that, I was simply looking out for her and in the process trying to show her who her friend really was. Although there were good times while she was here, we fought way too often over this and unfortunately after a death in my family, she moved out and that was pretty much the end of the relationship sadly.

I admit that I was a little hard on her over time but there were other things going on in my home at the time that contributed to that. I care for her very much but it has been almost 2 ½ years since I’ve spoken to her much less seen her. Not a day goes by that I don’t question myself on whether or not I should have told her how I felt or whether I should have been as protective as I was of her.

Although we kept in touch after she left here, the communication slowly broke over time and the last time I heard from her she asked for my help and unfortunately I could not help her at the time. I do worry about her but at the same time I realize that I did all I could for her and that she knows where to find me if need be. If she doesn’t want at the very least my friendship I can’t help that.

The point that I am getting at here is if you have a chance let someone know how you feel about them you should do it because no matter what the outcome at the very least; you will not go years wondering the What If’s that a lot of people think of, myself included. If you have someone that you feel makes you happy the best thing you can do is be honest with that person and see where it goes. If it doesn’t work out at least you won’t have to wonder in the back of your mind “What if?”

You did not do anything wrong and as a matter of fact you should probably feel a sense of peace of mind because it sounds like you had been holding your feelings for this girl in for a while and at least now she knows how you feel so there should be no burden on you.


I wish you the best of luck…

noelia : Thanks your answer sure means a lot to me





P.S. she only lives a couple miles away, about 5-10 minutes by car.

Well then, it isn't really long distance...

I'd just take a ride over there...

Oh wait, nevermind, forgot that you don't drive.

Maybe get a parent to drive you over there to see her...?

Wait a minute, if it's only 5-10 minutes to her house by her car why can't you have your parents or one of your friend's parents drive you there?!?!?! That's not a long-distance relationship. That could definitely work, and my girlfriend lives in Staten Island (I live in New Jersey) and we're going strong. I say go for it.

Well, n matter what she says brush it off and chin up. "There is no regret in falling, but there is regret in not geting up."

just do it man, just do it! youll be fine. and like jmc said, it aint a long distance relationship.

-dis is pieman, signing out (click)

No you didn’t do anything wrong… If anything the only thing wrong you did was thinking that it is wrong to feel the way you do, it’s not… I have been around the track a couple of times in regard to relationships so I might be able to help you out here a little bit. First I will be honest with you in regard to relationships I have not done well and have been single for years. This is partly because of being young and dumb but mostly due to not being with the right people.

I have also tried long distance relationships in the past and those haven’t worked well for me either but that can be attributed to what age I was at the time and subsequent what age my girlfriend was. I can relate to you to a degree… I have had a couple of failed relationships that I would take a second chance with if given the opportunity. Last year, I was sitting here in my home one morning and the phone rang and it turned out to be one of my ex-girlfriends who I had not spoken to in five years prior to that.

Naturally I was a little suspicious at first because why would someone call someone after so long just out of the blue much less an ex. I thought something might be up but as it turned out she just wanted to reconnect with me and we got to talking and there are still feelings between us and we’ve been talking regularly ever since. This is one of the few relationships that I blame myself for it failing so if I were to get a second chance here I would definitely make the best of it. Who knows where that will go but I would be lying if I said I didn’t enjoy talking to her especially in a difficult time for me.

There was also another girlfriend of mine that actually lived with me for a while… I had taken her in when she got kicked out of where she had been staying and there were feelings there too but I think the error that I made was that I was a little hard on her in regard to doing right by herself. She use to give her money (She’s on disability) to these “Friends” of her’s and the only reason I put “Friends” in quotation is because the only time these people were ever around especially after she was staying with me was when she had money and they wanted something from her.

We butted heads about this on a regular basis as well as her not doing right by herself and such. and although I will admit I was softer on her than I would normally be with other people but, I would regularly ask her the question of if these people really gave a damn for you, why was I the only one willing to take you in and actually wanted to take you in? I never got a response out of her but I wasn’t really looking for one to be honest, I was simply trying to wake her up in regard to the people she hung out with. We had been friends for years but we came close to getting together several times so it wasn’t that I was telling her what to do or anything like that, I was simply looking out for her and in the process trying to show her who her friend really was. Although there were good times while she was here, we fought way too often over this and unfortunately after a death in my family, she moved out and that was pretty much the end of the relationship sadly.

I admit that I was a little hard on her over time but there were other things going on in my home at the time that contributed to that. I care for her very much but it has been almost 2 ½ years since I’ve spoken to her much less seen her. Not a day goes by that I don’t question myself on whether or not I should have told her how I felt or whether I should have been as protective as I was of her.

Although we kept in touch after she left here, the communication slowly broke over time and the last time I heard from her she asked for my help and unfortunately I could not help her at the time. I do worry about her but at the same time I realize that I did all I could for her and that she knows where to find me if need be. If she doesn’t want at the very least my friendship I can’t help that.

The point that I am getting at here is if you have a chance let someone know how you feel about them you should do it because no matter what the outcome at the very least; you will not go years wondering the What If’s that a lot of people think of, myself included. If you have someone that you feel makes you happy the best thing you can do is be honest with that person and see where it goes. If it doesn’t work out at least you won’t have to wonder in the back of your mind “What if?”

You did not do anything wrong and as a matter of fact you should probably feel a sense of peace of mind because it sounds like you had been holding your feelings for this girl in for a while and at least now she knows how you feel so there should be no burden on you.


I wish you the best of luck…

Forget about it long distance relationships never work man... sorry.

thepvtcaboose : They can be difficult there is no doubt about that but I think in certain circumstances they can work.

brandonrock : come up with your own posts…

I think that this is okay, but if you want to be with her without long distance, then I do not know what to do because it just doesn't feel right when she lives far away from you. I think that when it gets serious, you need to find a way to be with her so that you can be able to see her.