This girl asked me out today, but I turned her down. The reason why is because I didn't know her, and I wanted make sure I told my love intrest what I think of her first. Should I have just taken the date, or should I tell my love intrest what I think of her in case there is something.

Is the girl who asked you out the one who's your love interest?

No, she's just some random person. I know nothing about her.

Well, it all depends on the type of person you are. If you would have felt awkward saying yes to her because you have feelings for someone else, then you made the right call. But you never know, you could have made a good connection with the girl who asked you out and then your feelings for the other girl would become insignificant.

Have you ever hung out with this girl you're interested in? Just ask her if she wants to hang out with you, see how it goes, and tell her how you feel. If you're too shy to hang out with just the 2 of you, ask her if she wants to hang with you and your friends.

so, she asked you out on a date and you said no? Or she asked you to be her boyfriend? Cause that is a big difference.

Being asked out on a date is the process of getting to know someone.... At least that is how "adults" do it . I think if you get the chance you should ask her out on a date as a "get to know you" sort of thing. Coffee, or a movie, or something simple like that is always good. Get a chance to talk and get to know each other.

Should have went for it. But since you didn't, go for the other girl.

I think that's the right thing to do. Since you didn't know her at all, and she asked you out?
But then again, the others are right about the fact that maybe she wanted to know you better.
I guess I'm saying you should really get to know a girl before you decide to start a relationship.

I think it was the right thing to do, as long as you didn't make her to fell too bad.

Yeah dude, if you love another girl, don't date this other girl!

mr.pace : Well, this can be one of those Yes and No type of scenarios… First does the girl you’re interested in have any clue whatsoever about your feelings for her? It can also depend on what type of relationship you have with the girl you have feelings for. Is it a relationship where you have a friendship and are looking for more then that or is it that you like her but she doesn’t know it?

If you do have a relationship with the girl you’re interested in it can be tricky to let her know how you feel because you don’t want it to affect your friendship but I would be honest about it and see what happens. As far as the girl you turned down, I feel that it is always better to get to know the person first before you pursue dating but I would be cautious that you declined her invitation nicely because you never want to hurt someone’s feelings especially if it will be an acquaintance that you’ll deal with in some way later on.


As long as you’re a good person and treat everyone well you should be okay but remember honesty is always the cornerstone of a good relationship.

Best of luck.

If she's hot go for it, if she's not dont.. I'm gonna assume you havent gone to a bar yet?

The one I'm interested in is one of my best friends. In rank of power in my best friend list she comes in around third. I think she knows to somewhat degree what I feel about her. She knows only what I allow her to know and I know only what she allows me. Though I find it rather hard to tell whether she likes me or not because she says I love you to me to often in the begin. Our friends say that we look like a couple but for some reason I bring myself to ask her yet.

As for to girl I turn down, I made sure I was as nice as possible, and as it turns out it could have went two ways for me. The girl who asked me out was a set up by my cousin. He just wanted to see what I'd answer.

mr.pace :

Well, if she is a trusted friend of yours as I said it could be tricky because you don’t want to risk your friendship but at the same time if you don’t tell her how you feel it will nag you. It’s odd how when you start having feelings for someone your friends with you end up dancing around the subject before you finally tell them how you feel. It seems like she could feel the same way though if she’s telling you she loves you. It’s not the type of thing you say to someone lightly if you really care for the person.

Good luck to you

I mean the main reason I'm sceptical is because she said it around two days after we became friends. At that time I though she just trying to get in my head, but sometime around our birthdays (about two month from the time we met) she started again. Then after Chrimas break. And now she says to me quite paced. I have thought about telling her the same, but I never did.

The girl who asked also doesn't seem to be the type of girl I like. The I am intrested in has a great personality, similar to mine, and she very attractive.

Dude you messed up.You could have had your cake and ate it too.lol

mr.pace : Well if you are truly in love with this "love interest" then there shouldn't be a reason to even consider dating the other girl who asked you out. You could always tell the girl you're already taken and hopefully she would understand. But if you're unhappy with the person you're with now than I say go for it!

If it was me I would have taken her up on it.Personally I feel weird with some one I now like there's so standard I have to meet.But with someone new there's really no stake,nothing to lose and even if you don't fall in love with them at least you might make a friend.

Well yu should've gone for it .. It doesnt hurt to go out wid a girl yu dont kno .. But if things start to build up then yu tell her

well if you werent interested in her then you made the right decision, you can't be into everyone

I think you did the right thing. I always prefer to get to know someone as friends first and then see if anything goes from there. I wouldn't date someone I didn't know either. I'll get to know them but only as friends.