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12-14-18 12:19 PM
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So, coming up in May I will have officially graduated high school. Kind of crazy to think about, honestly. Me and my friends were talking about it earlier and then we realized a lot of people will be going their seperate ways. Kind of depressing to think about, really. It's really gonna suck not being able to hang out with some of the cool people I grew up with as much anymore. Thankfully, I have found a couple friends who will be staying in town for college for a year or two before transferring to a big university, which happens to be my plan as well.
  
Does anyone have any tips on how to deal with a situation like this? It would be greatly appreciated. 

How did you guys react to your graduation and how did you deal with everyone going their seperate ways?
So, coming up in May I will have officially graduated high school. Kind of crazy to think about, honestly. Me and my friends were talking about it earlier and then we realized a lot of people will be going their seperate ways. Kind of depressing to think about, really. It's really gonna suck not being able to hang out with some of the cool people I grew up with as much anymore. Thankfully, I have found a couple friends who will be staying in town for college for a year or two before transferring to a big university, which happens to be my plan as well.
  
Does anyone have any tips on how to deal with a situation like this? It would be greatly appreciated. 

How did you guys react to your graduation and how did you deal with everyone going their seperate ways?
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12-14-18 12:28 PM
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If you're worried about friends drifting away, there really is no stopping that. There will be some people who you won't be as close to as before but you can still actively seek out times to hang out. Because most of my friends went to university straight after HS and I chose/kind of had to wait roughly 2 years I don't see a lot of them throughout the week. We still hang out at least once a month doing silly stuff like playing games or going to a water park.


Also you will meet new people. Nobody can replace friends but never hurts creating more. It'll make life a lot easier having someone to talk to in your own class.


Lastly, just enjoy the experience. I've never been too dependent on someone else but since the start of this year I've been living alone 5 days a week and it's been such an eye opener. In just a few months so much crazy stuff has already happened and I love every second of it.
If you're worried about friends drifting away, there really is no stopping that. There will be some people who you won't be as close to as before but you can still actively seek out times to hang out. Because most of my friends went to university straight after HS and I chose/kind of had to wait roughly 2 years I don't see a lot of them throughout the week. We still hang out at least once a month doing silly stuff like playing games or going to a water park.


Also you will meet new people. Nobody can replace friends but never hurts creating more. It'll make life a lot easier having someone to talk to in your own class.


Lastly, just enjoy the experience. I've never been too dependent on someone else but since the start of this year I've been living alone 5 days a week and it's been such an eye opener. In just a few months so much crazy stuff has already happened and I love every second of it.
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12-14-18 12:30 PM
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Hmmm... well I am a bit different. I never really hung out with friends outside of school so they were more like acquaintances I got along with really well on school breaks. Since I had a rough upbringing (went to 4 different high schools) I finally decided to get a GED instead, so I didn't graduate like everyone else.

One of my best friends in childhood didn't go to most of the schools I went to, and we grew apart in our teen years and lost all contact eventually. We became too different from one another. As for loosing friends, it happens all the time. People will grow up and become different people then what they once were.

Similar thing happened to me when I transitioned from elementary school to middle school to high school, as time went on we kind of grew apart and we had different classes and schedules so never saw one another.

My tip is I guess just embrace it while it lasts, maybe try to remain friends with them. But eventually life moves on and people move on. It sucks... but that is life for ya! Have fun
Hmmm... well I am a bit different. I never really hung out with friends outside of school so they were more like acquaintances I got along with really well on school breaks. Since I had a rough upbringing (went to 4 different high schools) I finally decided to get a GED instead, so I didn't graduate like everyone else.

One of my best friends in childhood didn't go to most of the schools I went to, and we grew apart in our teen years and lost all contact eventually. We became too different from one another. As for loosing friends, it happens all the time. People will grow up and become different people then what they once were.

Similar thing happened to me when I transitioned from elementary school to middle school to high school, as time went on we kind of grew apart and we had different classes and schedules so never saw one another.

My tip is I guess just embrace it while it lasts, maybe try to remain friends with them. But eventually life moves on and people move on. It sucks... but that is life for ya! Have fun
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12-14-18 12:39 PM
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Yeah the crippling depression from never again seeing 90% of those people will haunt you forever.

But some of them will still stick to you and you won't be able to get rid of them. I graduated many years ago and I still hang out with my 2 friends 3-7 times a week.

Just remember that wherever you go after high school, the whole process is going to start again. If you're in college, you're gonna get to know a new 1000 people and do everything over again.
Yeah the crippling depression from never again seeing 90% of those people will haunt you forever.

But some of them will still stick to you and you won't be able to get rid of them. I graduated many years ago and I still hang out with my 2 friends 3-7 times a week.

Just remember that wherever you go after high school, the whole process is going to start again. If you're in college, you're gonna get to know a new 1000 people and do everything over again.
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I should also mention while I don't keep in contact with the people I once knew as friends (because they are different people now and I don't think it would be a good idea to re-connect with people of the past, that is just how I am) I have ran facebook and google searches on them to see how they progressed in life almost 15 to 20 years later from when we last saw one another. Some are married with children, others are doing well with their own business, some have died young from drugs or car surfing and one of them is in prison for 10 years. It is interesting to see it all unfold.

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The only person I have kept in contact with all these years is Davideo7 (met him in online college in 2007, 11 years ago). This was before he was married and had kids. As time went on, we kind of grew apart and don't communicate like we use to but I consider him to be my best and only online friend despite the fact we barely talk to one another anymore. I mean we can go months, I think there was a period we went a year or two without talking.

I think this Vizzed site is a good way to remain friends with him because I don't see how we would be otherwise. One thing we both share a passion for is website development and I feel like if we lost that interest then we may not get along as friends anymore because we would have nothing to talk about anymore.

It does take work though. There are periods where I gave up on friendship with him due to my struggles and problems but I am still working on it trying to re-construct our friendship and hopefully he still considers me a friend despite some of the bad things I did to his site in the past.

This is how life turns out NOTHING turns out like you expect it to. Most people will lose their childhood friends and there really is nothing that can be done about it. It takes a lot more effort to keep a friendship in adult stages of life because of time restraints and where they want to go in life (which may not include a friendship with you). When you are a child you have all the time in the world, not so much in adulthood. It's difficult to say the least.

I hope you enjoyed this story, it is my personal experience. I admit, I make a terrible friend because I tend to ghost people when I don't feel like talking to them and that can last for years or maybe even for eternity as I have done with all my childhood friends. Sometimes, you just gotta move on with life. There is nothing wrong with snooping the net for past friends and what not, but just don't feel sorry for yourself if you are no longer friends, it was probably meant to be that way. If you feel the need to re-connect, I guess try it, but don't be surprised if it does not work out. Like I said, people change over time and so do friends.
I should also mention while I don't keep in contact with the people I once knew as friends (because they are different people now and I don't think it would be a good idea to re-connect with people of the past, that is just how I am) I have ran facebook and google searches on them to see how they progressed in life almost 15 to 20 years later from when we last saw one another. Some are married with children, others are doing well with their own business, some have died young from drugs or car surfing and one of them is in prison for 10 years. It is interesting to see it all unfold.

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The only person I have kept in contact with all these years is Davideo7 (met him in online college in 2007, 11 years ago). This was before he was married and had kids. As time went on, we kind of grew apart and don't communicate like we use to but I consider him to be my best and only online friend despite the fact we barely talk to one another anymore. I mean we can go months, I think there was a period we went a year or two without talking.

I think this Vizzed site is a good way to remain friends with him because I don't see how we would be otherwise. One thing we both share a passion for is website development and I feel like if we lost that interest then we may not get along as friends anymore because we would have nothing to talk about anymore.

It does take work though. There are periods where I gave up on friendship with him due to my struggles and problems but I am still working on it trying to re-construct our friendship and hopefully he still considers me a friend despite some of the bad things I did to his site in the past.

This is how life turns out NOTHING turns out like you expect it to. Most people will lose their childhood friends and there really is nothing that can be done about it. It takes a lot more effort to keep a friendship in adult stages of life because of time restraints and where they want to go in life (which may not include a friendship with you). When you are a child you have all the time in the world, not so much in adulthood. It's difficult to say the least.

I hope you enjoyed this story, it is my personal experience. I admit, I make a terrible friend because I tend to ghost people when I don't feel like talking to them and that can last for years or maybe even for eternity as I have done with all my childhood friends. Sometimes, you just gotta move on with life. There is nothing wrong with snooping the net for past friends and what not, but just don't feel sorry for yourself if you are no longer friends, it was probably meant to be that way. If you feel the need to re-connect, I guess try it, but don't be surprised if it does not work out. Like I said, people change over time and so do friends.
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12-16-18 09:50 PM
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There's a couple of friends that I stopped talking to but mostly my main group of friends is still probably my best group of friends. You don't *have* to part ways if you don't want to. Technology makes keeping in touch much easier than before. Of course, that has to be a mutual decision with you AND your friend. You can talk to them all you want but your friend might decide to move on. That's part of dealing with high school graduation, and moving on in life in general.

Try to stick with the ones you're closest to. And you'll see that a whole new world is waiting for you where you're going to meet some even better people down the line. It's not exactly something you prepare for, but rather something that happens without you even realizing it until you reflect and are like "oh... okay." At least, that's how it was for me.
There's a couple of friends that I stopped talking to but mostly my main group of friends is still probably my best group of friends. You don't *have* to part ways if you don't want to. Technology makes keeping in touch much easier than before. Of course, that has to be a mutual decision with you AND your friend. You can talk to them all you want but your friend might decide to move on. That's part of dealing with high school graduation, and moving on in life in general.

Try to stick with the ones you're closest to. And you'll see that a whole new world is waiting for you where you're going to meet some even better people down the line. It's not exactly something you prepare for, but rather something that happens without you even realizing it until you reflect and are like "oh... okay." At least, that's how it was for me.
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I can tell you, I graduated 6 1/2 years ago in May 2012, that is the thing you have to face with graduation, your friends will more in likely be going their separate ways, but that doesn't really mean that you won't ever see them ever again, because they can points that you can bump into them from time to time.

It can be tough to manage to cope of having your friends move into bigger and better things, but if you keep a hold onto your best friends, they can stick by you the whole time after graduation.

But the bright side is that you could end up making newer friends in collage, or in the workforce.
I can tell you, I graduated 6 1/2 years ago in May 2012, that is the thing you have to face with graduation, your friends will more in likely be going their separate ways, but that doesn't really mean that you won't ever see them ever again, because they can points that you can bump into them from time to time.

It can be tough to manage to cope of having your friends move into bigger and better things, but if you keep a hold onto your best friends, they can stick by you the whole time after graduation.

But the bright side is that you could end up making newer friends in collage, or in the workforce.
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I graduated 8 years ago.

I talk to exactly nobody from high school anymore. Not that I had a ton of friends from back then, but my last conversation with someone from school was back in 2016, when I was invited on a whim to one of my better friend's wedding. We had a fun day, but we haven't spoken since, so that kind of sucks.

Other than that, only contact I've had with anyone was this cute girl from high school liking a lot of my pictures and statuses on facebook, but that stopped once I got married. Guess I'm just not likable anymore lol.

You'll make new friends at work, or in college, or wherever else you go. The thing with high school friendships, and work friendships, and college friendships... is that they are friendships of convenience. If you were not forced into groups and forced to interact, odds are, you would not be friends with those people. So once the reason for being in a group is gone, the reason for being friends is gone as well.

The well, the true connections, are the ones forged when there isn't a group attached to the why of your friendship, an example would be a hobby, one you go to willingly, out of a desire to just have fun, not for purposes of work or school. These friends are people more likely to interact with you outside of your designated group.
I graduated 8 years ago.

I talk to exactly nobody from high school anymore. Not that I had a ton of friends from back then, but my last conversation with someone from school was back in 2016, when I was invited on a whim to one of my better friend's wedding. We had a fun day, but we haven't spoken since, so that kind of sucks.

Other than that, only contact I've had with anyone was this cute girl from high school liking a lot of my pictures and statuses on facebook, but that stopped once I got married. Guess I'm just not likable anymore lol.

You'll make new friends at work, or in college, or wherever else you go. The thing with high school friendships, and work friendships, and college friendships... is that they are friendships of convenience. If you were not forced into groups and forced to interact, odds are, you would not be friends with those people. So once the reason for being in a group is gone, the reason for being friends is gone as well.

The well, the true connections, are the ones forged when there isn't a group attached to the why of your friendship, an example would be a hobby, one you go to willingly, out of a desire to just have fun, not for purposes of work or school. These friends are people more likely to interact with you outside of your designated group.
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Lexatom : I never really had many real friends IRL, most of them just fun to be around and didn't really form a lifelong connection. The only real connections I've made were with ones online like you. I tend to annoy most people who don't take the time to get to know me. I would say just go with the flow m8. It sucks with friends having their own things to do, but you'll always make new ones. It's also possible to message your high school friends through a message app of your choice.
Lexatom : I never really had many real friends IRL, most of them just fun to be around and didn't really form a lifelong connection. The only real connections I've made were with ones online like you. I tend to annoy most people who don't take the time to get to know me. I would say just go with the flow m8. It sucks with friends having their own things to do, but you'll always make new ones. It's also possible to message your high school friends through a message app of your choice.
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