Most of my friends are actually older than me. I've been the young one in the group for as long as I can remember.

I have friends from 16-20 who I talk with on a regular basis. I don't think it's weird to have friends out of your age group. It's just that in real life I haven't had any "close" friends like that.

I don't think it is weird most of the time. The only way I would think it is weird if you go everywhere with them... But I have a few friends a little older and younger than me.

I have around 10 friends who are at least 6 years younger than me (I'm 18), I have about 15 friends who are my same age and then I have hundreds of friends who are 19-30 years old. I don't care what age someone is as long as they intrigue me I'll befriend them and help them when I can.

I can't speak for anyone else, but for me it all depends on the person's maturity level and it depends on the kind of person they are. I don't think it's weird to have friends of all ages. I have a few, and that's a select few younger friends, but that's because I'm more of a "older sister/Mother figure to them). Otherwise I have friends who are around my age or older. I prefer to surround myself with positive people and people who can relate to my on some level. Even if it's just a little. I like to also have friends who are older so I can go to them for advice and get their life experience and sometimes they even have been through similar situations and can really give good advice. And all of the younger people I am friends with, which isn't very many, it's always as a big sister or Mother figure type of friendship. I've had problems in the past with younger ones liking me as more than a friend and that is one boundary I refuse to cross. NO! If that happens then I have to cut all contact with that person. Sad but true.

So is it weird? No, as long as the friendships are healthy, I don't see anything weird about it.

To me it agrees on how young they are to you. If they are like 5 years younger than you they can be a friend but they can't be one of the friends i really hang out with. Most people will think you are lame. I like having friends older than me though it makes me feel grown.

I don't think it is weird to have a friend that have a big age gap between you. As long you can trust them and have fun with them then it is not weird.

I do not think so, and I think that we are luckily coming to a day and age where people are starting to realize that age doesn't matter so much.  I think true friendship transcends age gaps.  I have had 14 year old friends, and I have had 86 year old friends.

That being said, I think we always need to be careful with it comes to younger people.  Therefore, I might change my view up a little by saying age doesn't matter so long as everyone involved is over the age of 18.

Not at all, I've made more friends with people my parents age than I have with people my own age.   Kids around my age tend to be rather unpredictable, and well even when I was younger I still hung out with some people my parents age.   they were family friends so it wasn't like anything R rated, but I just had more easy time relating with them than with anyone my age.

Deadman9001 :  I actually agree with you completely on this.  I get along with people more like my parent's age far better than people my own age.  I've always gotten along better with older people.

Deadman9001 :
Singelli :

I actually get along the BEST with people who are a lot older than me. I do connect with some my age but not all the time. I can't think of any time in my entire life I haven't gotten along with someone older than me. So in this respect, you two are just like me. I love that!

noelia : It really doesn’t enter my mind whether or not someone is older or younger than I am to be honest. I’m going to be 29 in a few weeks but because I have been going bald for years and because I work an insane self-imposed schedule when things are normal I actually feel much older than I really am. I remember I heard a saying years ago that I have taken to heart which is it’s not the number of your age that makes you old but it is what happens to you in the time that makes you old. I can’t remember if someone said that to me personally or if I heard that on television but wherever I heard it, it stuck with me.

Based on that saying and looking at what I have been through in life some of my friends call me an old soul because although I have made my share of mistakes in life that I frankly hold against myself, I always look for a way to use what I have been through good, bad, or, in different to give people advice in the hope that it helps them avoid some of the same mistakes I made in my youth. I have friends that vary in age some are older than me, some are younger and some are at or near my age but the odd thing is due to my hair loss I actually look older than some of my friends who are actually older than me. I have been told that I look like Jason Alexander when he played George Castangia on Seinfeld. I actually embrace that comparison. I just wish I made as much money as Mr. Alexander does. Lord knows, especially doing what I have chosen to do for my vocation that I really could use the money and said money would certainly make things much easier on me personally.

It has helped me in recent years to have those friends even though for the most part they are from a distance because I have been through a rough couple of years. I admittedly can get very hard on myself and often do but it helps to have a friend to talk to when I need it and to tell me that I’m not as bad as I think I am sometimes. I just hope that I can be that shoulder that someone needs when things get rough for them. To be honest that’s all I ever really want to be is a good friend. I pretty much get along with everyone or at least I try to regardless of their age.

bvd1022 : I totally agree .. Even though i only read half of your post ..

The age thing really doesn't matter , it's the spirit between the two person and their kindness , similarities , differences , etc. which makes it more fun !!

iSPY! : It really doesn’t and really shouldn’t matter in terms of friendship. It’s never crossed my mind. If you get along with someone and or, share similar interests that should be the ice breaker of a friendship. Things like age, other friends who may share different interest and other things should be secondary. Least that’s how I feel about it. I have friends that are interested in certain things that other friends of mine aren’t. The same holds true for differing opinions on certain things. This is why I keep an open mind, don’t judge and do my best to get along with everyone I come in contact with as best as I can.

It isn’t always an easy task seeing as I am a writer and there are times when I write a column where I draw the ire of readers because of my opinion. Sometimes there are readers who will resort to vulgarity and name calling automatically without giving me a chance to respond and such. In cases like that I just try to be as professional as possible, defending my stance but at the same time not allowing myself to sink to that level.

I have a lot of friends that are only like 11, or sometimes even 10, and I have a few friends that are even a couple of decades older than I am; even when I was 12 and they were like 35, I'm still great online friends with them.

In my opinion age is just a number. By the time you are say, eight, you know enough and have the self conscious to be mature or not and decide what kind of person you can be. You are still learning but you know enough for the most part what is considered good, what is considered bad. Some people when I was 12 thought I was like, 25 or something. And I told them my actual age they're like "REALLY?" and then they kind of got uncomfortable themselves. I assured them I was fine with them nobody how old they are.



I rather have a bunch of sincere friends not my age then not sincere friends near my age.

I don't think that there's a problem with it...  It only seems weird if you were in elementary school maybe.  I have some friends who are older and younger than me too, just because of other activities outside of school.  It's totally fine

Honestly, it depends on how the two parties get along. If you are as old as I am, 21, and you hang out with somebody who is 15 or so, then you want to be careful and not give people the wrong idea. Overall, I am a bit of a jerk with my friends, but they are my age because you don't want to speak to somebody much younger than you and hurt their feelings or an older person to get offended and get mad at you. However, I have old friends, in their 40's & 50's, who I can learn from they teach me things and I listen to their stories and issues because they have experienced a lot more than I have, and there isn't much I can say because I usually haven't experienced what they have, and I like having younger friends because I want the younger people to grow to be better citizens. I actually coached my little brother's soccer team  and they were mostly between the age of 13-16 years of age, and honestly we did talk trash to each other but we still had respect for one another and helped each other with whatever we needed. I don't want to sound snotty, but since I coached them, the stayed out of trouble! Like I said it depends on how you treat each other and how you build the relationship with the other person that makes things weird or not.