momoboo : I don’t have a sour opinion of women in general. As I said the reason why I have been single for so long pretty much has to do the bad reputation I got due to the lies that she spread back then and, that along with a couple of failed attempts over the years to try and have relationships due in large part to those lies has pretty much made me a hermit and an extremely work oriented person. I was extremely civil and polite with her the last time we talked. As I mentioned before she said that the person she’s with now is battling cancer and I extended best wishes with the assumption that she was telling the truth despite past history.

I turned down the idea of meeting up because although I am not bitter over what happened it’s very hard to rid of bad memories and, it’s easier to be professional from a distance because I have to be for business reasons but it could be a different story in private behind closed doors.

I thought about the idea of perhaps accepting an invite to a group dinner of sorts should that come along but, I haven’t really thought about which was I would go if that actually did happen. She also told me during the last conversation that she has a son now so although I was put through a lot because of her I do not want to have anything come up if a child is present. I have too much class to just randomly air grievances I’d rather do it in private or not at all.

Basically, although it may sound a bit sad I basically sit in my home do my work and don’t bother anyone and that has been the way things have been since this happened years ago. I will also be honest when I say that although I don’t have a negative opinion of women in general I do have trust issues but that also is tied into the lies that were spread.

I wished her well and I hope that now that we’re older that perhaps she finally has reached a level of maturity that she realizes the mistakes she made. But as I told her, we can’t go back and change things now and what’s done is done.

As I said I know living as close as she is to where I am I know that sooner or later I will probably cross paths with her in some way.

An annoying ex, eh, well I dont know that one, but I am friends with a few of them :3

rlmathias01 : I’m still not quite open to the idea of a face to face meeting but I did a polite thing early this morning as it’s her birthday so I just simply wished her a happy one. I’m still very reluctant though and again I think what I did was more a professional thing of me to do then anything else. I just hope that if I ever do get to a place where I’m comfortable opening the door so to speak beyond social media that it will be civil.

Is this a crazy ex kind of thing? Like is she stalking you or do you just want to avoid her because of what has happened in the past?

Either way I would say that you should just block her. She would not even know unless she checked because on Face Book (I assume you are using that) it does not send notifications or anything. That is what I would do at least.

Well, there's a chance you can avoid her, but if you don't think she's going to bother you, then I think you don't need to avoid her. Even though you say that you are hesitant to meet her face to face, because she might act different, you shouldn't worry. If she does act different, hopefully your mutual friends will take your side. You shouldn't worry about this matter too much to overstress your brain. You'll be fine.

hl54322 : First let me apologize for the late reply… Have been very busy with work so I haven’t had a chance to log on much lately. Well the thing I feared happened. She popped up out of no where two weeks ago. It was a civil conversation but I was definitely not comfortable. She asked me if I could watch her dog for a couple of weeks while she looked for a place for her and her son. I couldn’t help her due to lack of room in my house. (Has three dogs myself)


I gave her a good 45 minutes of my time and in that time she told me of her struggles she was going through. Although I was civil I did occasionally say “Gee, I’m not so bad now am I?” She said no you weren’t it was all me etc.
I don’t know whether to believe her saying that or not but it did kind of make me say you got that right to her. I realize that might be and probably was a cheap shot but it was an automatic thing. I was my professional self even though this was at my house and I didn’t have to be if I didn’t want to be.


There was no hug or handshake but she did say that she wouldn’t be a stranger so that has me a little leery. To be honest I don’t think I was ever as relieved as I was when I went back in my house after the conversation was over.
I don’t know if I should expect anything to be honest. All I know is I wasn’t real comfortable and didn’t really let out some of the anger I’ve had choosing to give her the professional polite treatment instead.