My parents disapprove of my plans to get married to my fiance. (Needless to say it's upsetting.) I wish they had said something when I announced the engagement, and not only when I moved forward with plans for the ceremony. :/

Have you ever announced something relationship related to your parents, or brought someone home to meet them, and it turns out they have a problem? If not your parents, have you ever had other family members voice their disapproval?

Oh yeah, once.

I was 17, and I was dating a bit of a whore. She was known to my parents, and they didn't want me dating her.

In this case, I actually should have listened to them. I was kind of blind as to who she was, and eventually found out she wasn't right for me. So I broke it off.

But it got so nasty to the point my parents almost kicked me out of the house (they kicked me out later on for another reason)

Me and my wife got married two months ago. Both of are families don't want us together because, we fight all the time. We both decided that we wasn't going to let anyone stop us and did it anyway at a courthouse. We both agreed that nobody else was going to put up with are B.S. So we said F**K it and tied the knot.

When I got married my mother was intensely antagonistic about the whole thing. It seemed like every day she was trying to come up with some new, cartoon villain-esque way to sabotage our marriage, which was weird because she knew we were getting married for a long time, but like your parents, didn't do anything until like the month before the wedding. Even stranger still, she actually likes KG.

I know just how you feel. My mom has been nothing but a ***** about my relationship wit my fiance since the first year we were dating. The frustrating thing is that it truly was over nothing. She had never really even met her (aside from a few times of being in the same room as her for a half hour). My mother and I were fighting a lot during my senior year of high school. I started seeing her at the very end of my senior year. My mother and I fought even worse during my first year of college. She got it in her mind that we used to have this great relationship and when I started dating my now fiancee, that is when the fighting between her and I started in her eyes. So she blamed her for our crappy relationship and treated her like garbage. She tries to act like she is all fine with it and wants to be buddy with her, but it really is just so fake because she doesn't want to lose me. 

Well lookie here, by show of hands how many people thought I'd post here? My hand is down by the way.

Anyways, my parents are now disapproving of my current girlfriend. They used to love her, and I don't think they actually have anything against her, but...it's complicated. Long story short, she and I have split twice and come back together, the first time after three weeks the second time after 6 days. My parents are convinced she doesn't really feel anything for me and is just trying to keep me happy while using me as a crutch while she deals with all the bullcrap she's going through with her family. I, on the other hand, know all about her past and what she's really going through right now and I'm understanding of her reasons for breaking it off before. The two of us are actually really serious and are looking at this relationship as long-term, and it's just frustrating. It's also not fun when my dad harps on me about all the girls I could be dating that he thinks are better. All I can really hope for is that they'll come around when we get to the point where we can start considering marriage.

Every single relationship I've been a part of my entire family has been against...
I think it might be some byproduct of being over-obsessed with wanting me to NEVER grow up.

Leventhamps : I'm sorry

My parent's didn't want me having a boyfriend until college but I have one anyway hehe ^.^ At least they like him, so it makes it easier. My mom always wants to hear stories about what we do XD

Can't save that I have. I guess my parents/family generally liked, or at least tolerated, anyone I dated. My family likes my boyfriend, and my boyfriend's family likes me. 
Can't say the same for my boyfriend's brother though. But she's a whole different (and very long) story. I think as long as the person isn't psycho,  controlling, etc, your family should respect your decision. 
I imagine it's really hard to deal with, but they must have their reasons. Hopefully they are good, legitimate reasons, not just trivial reasons such as disliking their choice of hobbies or something. 
My boyfriend's brother's girlfriend is so disliked in their family that she's even banned from their house because of all the drama she caused.
So I guess it could always be worse, though I don't know all the details of your situation. 

Yes, actually my last relationship with this girl named Heaven they disapproved her. They said she was fast because she wanted to have children at 22. In my brain i said yall are so stupid that just means she wants to be with me for the rest of her life.

Annette : Yes I have had that happen with me in the past. In my case the last relationship I really had I was actually engaged (Was engaged twice before I was eighteen.) My ex was not real good for me much less good to me but I couldn’t see it at that time. It’s part of what made my teen years a part of my life that I really wish I could forget. My family was split up for the majority of my teen years and this led to me making decisions without really thinking. My getting involved with my ex was one of the worst decisions I made. I realize that may sound a bit cold but I’ll explain further on why I feel that way.

Back then I was caught in the middle of my parents split and when you’re trying to go to school and do the things that every teenager should do, which is get an education first and foremost but also, having life experiences and friendships during that time. In my case I would go to school and for the most part until I entered high school it was an enjoyable experience. What was bad though was that almost on a daily basis when I wasn’t in school I was pretty much trying to play peacemaker with my parents.

This led to me being irresponsible (Young and dumb) and around this time I met my ex. Looking back on things now if I were thinking logically and had my head on my shoulders I should have known that she was a BS artist for lack of a better term but I couldn’t see it at the time.

After we got into high school we got together and it wasn’t long after that we got engaged. Over the next few years, we went on again off again and such. All the while she cheated on me nearly constantly but I was so stubborn and did everything I could to try and make things work. I eventually left school and to make a long story short, she lied to me about things that no one should be lied to about and in the process did a good job of damaging my reputation with friends and even when I tried to move on by telling people that we were married. The problem was that I allowed all the nonsense that took place. Knowing how I am now I should have told her to stop it otherwise I would pursue legal action against her etc. I was an idiot admittedly.

Despite that my parents were separated at the time both of them were telling me pretty much from the get go that she was trouble and the best thing I could do for my own good was to get away from her. I wish I had listened to them because as usual they were right on the money but back then I couldn’t see it for what it was and even though I was messed up back then I think that in all honesty I didn’t want to see it. I did love her and even though I wasn’t treated right and everything screamed get out of this, I ignored it. I have tried to move on since but haven’t really been able to because of the job she did on my reputation. In all fairness I allowed it so I blame myself for that. Anyway, my ex came to me 12 yrs. later to apologize and I didn’t accept it but I did say that I appreciated the apology but the damage has been done and you can’t really make up for it twelve years later.

I did appreciate that she apologized but that’s how I feel about it. I was nice and civil about it but I will be honest that it was quite frankly an uncomfortable conversation and frankly looking back now after everything that I allowed myself to be put through I regret the entire relationship and pretty much regret meeting her. I know it sounds cold but that’s how I feel. There isn’t a day that goes by even all these years later that I don’t think about my mistakes and the thought that comes across my mind more and more is I wish I had listened to mom and dad.

This was strictly me though. I don’t know your situation and what things are like for you and your fiancé but I hope that your fiancé treats you right and doesn’t take you for granted. Far as parents it is a natural instinct to be protective of your kids. I am not a father but I am an uncle and look at my nieces and nephews as if they were my own and there isn’t anything I wouldn’t do for them. I do think that there is such a thing as over protectiveness though and that there really is no right or wrong answer for one as to how to deal with it no matter what end you’re on whether you’re the elder parent/authority figure or, if you’re the young person in the relationship.

I think the thing that tipped my parents off in regard to my ex was the way she conducted herself, her overall manner and just an overall sense about her. My mom use to tell me (and still does) all the time that she’s good at reading people and she told me over and over she’s trouble. Is there anything that your fiancé does that might be rubbing them the wrong way?

Best of luck to you.

I have had a relationship where her parents never approved of me.  They never gave me a chance to make things right, to prove to them that I was not the person they instantly wrote me off as.  They hated me without ever meeting me and because of that I lost a real chance at happiness. I'm not mad at them, but I will always wonder what if they had let me meet them and show them I am a caring guy who only wanted to make their daughter happy :/

My Dad didn't approve of my ex-fiancee, we didn't break up because of him but my Dad is a very racist person. He told me if I ever got together with an African-American that he would disown me. My reply to him was; "You promise?!?" Haha, I don't get along with my Dad, at all! He's in prison now so he has no way of trying to interfere in my life but even before he ended up in prison I never let him tell me who I was allowed to be with. My Mom doesn't even do that.

I've... sorta had that happen in a very strange case. I became attracted to a boy who was very effeminate... kept his hair long and liked to wear pink and stuff like that... family totally thought he was a girl and didn't approve of a "lesbian relationship" (which I think is stupid even if it was true but whatever). They eventually became a bit less obviously against it since finding out he's just a really pretty boy... but I'm sure they still didn't like the choice.