It's Hard For Me Because I Am Really Shy And Quite So Must People Don't Notice Me And I Just Can Never Get The Courage To Ask Them Out.Also Lots Of People My Age(Guys And Girls)Are Real B****s So It's Not Really Worth It.

well yes it is hard but i say be your self. why cause one you dont want to look like and idiot when you look cool but act dumb. two why in the world would you act cool anyway its hard to think of a plan like that. and three you may like a girl who thinks your cool and you not know it and you mess it all up trying to look even cooler so thats my thought on this

Don't worry, if there is a girl you like, then you just gotta keep on trying, if you really put your heart into it, I'm sure that it will work out in the end, one way or another.

For me, I haven't dated many people, but I don't have to worry about that because I am already going out with someone, so I voted for that, but I also know from experience that it really isn't that hard if you focus on your goals at hand.

I've pretty much given up on finding one. I'm too big of a nervous wreck to have a chance at getting a girlfriend. I mean, I can talk to you guys and other people over the internet PERFECTLY, but when it gets to reality I can't bring myself to say two dang words...

Easy. Currently in a relationship.

Some of these people need to learn the f-it stratigy (Spelling?)
Ask them to date you.
If yes, good for you.
If no... another bus will be their in about yen minutes. Just try someone else.

I'm already in a relationship. Been going for about two months now, the longest its ever been for me.

this isnt the best place to get a girlfriend or boyfriend. Be a man or Woman and find someone in real life.Just my opinion.

I don't need to find the special someone right this moment. I'm in no hurry to find love.

I've been engaged for a little over a year and a half. I can't wait to get married next year. (:

I was reading Davideo's profile on the front page and turns out he got married on my 15th birthday. x]

To me its not that hard and i have never got rejected but I have rejected people and yes I have asked people out and not one rejection YES

Well my past relationships...I was never the one to approach them.
They made the first move..at those time's I wasn't looking at all so I'm going to say it's easy...

How hard it is to get a GF or a BF is a very general concept, it can differ a lot between people. For myself it´s very hard if not impossible. I´m the type that makes friends easily in online games and such since I feel like I can be more open on the net but I'm a bit of a introvert person and I´ve got ADD so large scale convrisations like the ones you are likely to encounter in highschool tend to make me just feel dazed as I don´t cope well with a lot of noises comming from different sources, so the way I present myself is as the quiet individual type, the type girls don´t like, I´m not the center of attention IRL and I don´t tend to have many friends IRL (AKA not very popular) unlike other guys my age who tend to be brimming with confidence and good looks (something I may lack, I´ve got long hair and I´ve got a very average body, not muscular nor fat).

My interests are generally nerdy stuff like games and books, unlike what my classmates in highschool had that were the general jock type of activities of partying/drinking/smoking, so basically through highschool I didn´t socialize much and now in college I´m on a computers course and there is not a single girl in any of my classes, any gender can go on any course ofc but that doesn´t stop the computers course to be devoid of girls and the hairstyling course to be devoid of boys.

I met a girl once online who said she liked me and I liked her and she asked me if I´d be her BF, as I liked her I said yes and all was swell for a good year and a half but all of a sudden she said she thought that she was lesbian, so that didn´t work out but we are still friends.

I do not doubt she would never have bothered to ask if we had met first IRL rather than online, people judge by looks a lot more than they care to admit.

Its as hard or as easy as you make it. We are all in the same boat on this one, if you put yourself in a place where you are likely to meet people then you are more likely to meet people. This does not mean that where ever you find people go there and you will make a new partner, although some people do in the supermarket, rather 'you have to be in it to win it', I used to know a guy who never went out, but stood by the widow fantacising about having realtionships with the women that walked by and dreamt that one of them would see him and knock at the door. If only love came that easy, all the dating sites, bars and pubs where singles go would close overnight.

It takes a certain degree of truthfulness, honestly people will flock to you if you are in the zone and doing something you enjoy, if you become a great dancer people will ask you to dance and then oyu can go for a drink. Perhaps you are passionate about art, plays whatever, but you have to be passionate and good at what you do, that way you will appear relaxed and natural.

As for this guy I knew, he realised that he needed to do something about his ways and joined a local gym doing Ju-Jitsu within a few months he got pretty good at it, must have been all that frustation being cooped up in the house. Soon people wanted to spar with him as he was a great wreslter, women asked him too as he was such a nice guy, one day he asked one of them to go for something to eat afterwards and she agreed, and they have been together a year, they still wrestle togheter and are formidable fighters, my point being that love happens in the most unexpected of places, but it happens in 'places', its no harder for you, me or anyone else, we are all toghether on this one. Pick up artists are no different, if you asked a thousand women for a date at least one would say yes, its the law of averages, that is all they do, ask them how many rejections they have had! and as for girl friends of boyfriends, well they might even have had less than you or me, as could a serial monogamist into pickups and casual affairs really be able to call a one night stand a girl or boy friend, they might not even remember their name the next day, and from what I have learnt many of them suffer from depression and have very low self esteem issues, so I would not want to live many of their empty shallow lives anyway.

I wish us all luck on our quest to find love, love yourself first is my only advise for some this is harder than loving someone else. You cannot expec anyone to love you unless oyu love yourself, and unless you give love freely to others without expecting anything in return. To those who have found their true love I offer you my blessings, may god bless every step you take togther and your love be symbol to all of the beauty in the world that we as humans are capable of sharing.

Meeting people in specific places, yes indeed. However some people don´t drink so they don´t go to bars, and for myself for example my interests are computer related so I´m in school studying exactly that, however every single class I got related to the course is just filled with guys since there is like 1 girl for every 40 guys that go on computer courses, girls in other classes such as math tend to be on other courses and have other interests than you.

But yes I will admit I in particular as a person don´t try hard enough, I could go practice the only sport I got an interest in practicing but that will have to wait until I´m 100% fully grown, or I´ll mess up my knees.

It depends. Sometimes for me its really easy to get someone to ask me out since all you have to do is be social. But the people who ask me out are usually never the ones I actually would like to go out with.

legacyme3 : I think you are really overthinking it. If a girl is going to get bent out of shape because you can't think of what to say, etc. do you really want to date her?

I probably overkicked my coverage when it comes to my gf.

All I have is off and on relationships.
I'm in the market for a GF!!

Anyone out there hear my cries of loneliness????

There are plenty of ladies that I wouldn't mind dating, however, it takes a lot for me to really fall in love. There were two young ladies. One moved away, the other was much more complicated and I don't have thirty minutes to talk about it all lol. However, I will say this. I made it very hard on myself (and everyone else) with that last one. There's always something stopping me. Sometimes we're already good friends and having learnt my lesson with the complicated stuff, I value my friends and no longer want to risk losing them over some one-sided love affair (usual case anyway). Other times (like with the first lady) geography keeps us apart lol. Many a women live too far away, have different schedules, different schools, etc.

The usual reason though is that I'm just far too shy. I am very cold when I am not with my friends/family/good environment. I tend to try and make little noise, little movement to avoid people talking to me or even noticing me (apparently it doesn't work against name calling). I feel that I come off as a creeper. People in my college who were in my group had mixed impressions about me. One lady thought that I was nice, this other guy thought that I may be a sociopath, and the other one I don't really like because I've heard her make fun of parts of my body (my legs, nails, etc.) I overheard people in the back of the class refer to me as a "rapist" and "weird." I'm always one of the extremes in other peoples' eyes.

It's all right though. I know who/what I am. I tend to listen to strange (new) people. It is only when necessary (whether I feel confident in liking a person or needing an answer to a question) that I talk. I have no problem talking with the people that I like/love and being open about it. I don't like to waste words that don't require to be spoken in the first place.

I don't think that I could ever just see a woman and (meeting her for the first time) ask her to go on a date (not actually saying the word "date") and just begin a relationship from there. I really like being thorough. I really want to be sure that I find someone that I can make happy and someone who will be accepting of me. That's all. I am willing to wait for a good candidate (I don't want to believe that there is only one person in the world or "soul mate"). I would say that it is very difficult because I make it that difficult. I just really don't want to start something with someone that I don't believe in (I have pretty good accuracy in my experience of reading people). I am caught between extremes so....I'd probably go with the hardest choice for now.

I wanted to put hard, but its really just normal. People think about it too much, but if you just think you can do it it's no big deal... but, then again, for all my talk of "manning up" and just going for it, I've never taken my own advice. I've never had luck with the ladies because I'm to darn shy around them. I'm not over weight or that bad looking, its just....I dunno...i'm in the band, I hate sports...I talk funny..the girls just don't dig the ole' Jazz... perhaps I should of voted Really Hard...because whenever you get that feeling at two in the morning, knowing you'll spend a lot more sturday nights in front of a screen, it all seems....meaningless.

Sorry for that gang, didn't want to sound bitter. All right, back to normal mode- (Does a musical song and dance number)

i pick hard hard cause i feel really nervous and a little bit shy, face it ill always feel lonley...