Now, I can safely say that I adore my family. Don't get me wrong I have quarrels with them as much as the next person. My main issue is basically communication within the family. Prime example: when my mother asks for help with something she usually can't word or explain it right what she wants or how she needs something done and I have to go and essentially tap into my Sherlock Holmes personality and try and investigate and crack this Da Vinci code case of solving an issue my mother has when at the end of it all, it was so simple to explain and figure out but I don't call her out on it mostly because of respect but also because I have no place to criticize her on this when I myself growing up needed her help to do simple things like eating or learning how to walk.
Does anyone have these kinds of issues with either family or friends? I know for the most part it may have something to do with technology. 

There has always been miscommunication, including well before technology. I'm a child of the 80s and 90s and we didn't have answering machines, voicemail, texts, or any internet to talk to each other. We had decent verbal communication skills but we still got things wrong all the time.

I used to do what you're doing with your mother. But this was with my then-girlfriend. She wouldn't be clear or concise with what she wanted and I'd have to figure it out. The problem was I never stood up to her to tell her to be more specific or clear so things work out.

It's not disrespectful to ask questions to clarify things. In fact, I highly recommend you use a technique where you ask questions to make sure you understand what the mission is or what it is your mother wants you to do.

"Mom, just so I can be clear and understand this, you want me to do exactly....." and fill in the blanks. If you're right, you'll look like a genius and things will go well. If you're wrong, she'll correct you so you do whatever it is she wants correctly and there are no hard feelings. And because you're asking and not getting defensive or waiting until after you've done the task or chore incorrectly, you're solving any feelings problems down the road.

Get used to doing it that way. You're going to find bosses, teachers, significant others, friends, and more, are not always good at explaining what they want. One of the most important skills I ever learned that makes my life easy is not being afraid to ask for clarification so I understand what's wanted.

Ask her to be specific and drill down into details. It'll help everything.

Good luck.

Ghostbear1111 : It's not a problem for me to ask her to be more concise with what she wants as I have no choice but to ask her to explain more what she wants, its the sense of aggravation at having to do something so simple that I feel anyone can do and I get frustrated with her that she can't do this on her own or can't understand something so simple for me to know and its that frustration that I don't want to convey that I am saying is disrespectful. I've had plenty of bosses that I've need them to explain again what they want, mostly because they themselves have no idea how something works and I have to make sure that they know what they are asking me to do.  I have no problem confronting people outside of my family with questions that need answering but since I come from a strict family that deals in high family morals I have to be wary of how I word things so that my elders do not see it as a sign of disrespect but rather as me asking a very valid inquiry.