Hey guys so one of my friends who I've know since elementary school is finally at my high school however she is a Freshmen and I'm a junior is it a good idea that I ask her out even though we are 2 grades apart and I'm 2 years older then her because I really like her but at the same time I don't want  to scare her so should I do it or not 

I don't know.  People might frown on that, but if you know it's the right thing to do, go for it!  I believe your date should always be a friend first, and a date second, and it sounds like you guys are good friends.  Might it cause things to be awkward?  I don't know.  But if you put your friendship first, then I feel things will work out OK no matter what your decision is.

It really depends on how old you are in my opinion, if you're in grade 11 dating a grade 9, I could see why people have an issue with it. My girlfriend is 4 years younger then me, but we're both legal. She's 18, I'm 22, people don't really have an issue with it. As you both get older it seems that less and less people care.

I wouldn't say it is a big deal but I'm a lot older than you.

In high school a 2 year difference can be a very big deal. However, I don't think that should stop you from trying.

However, dating in high school is usually more of a headache than anything. I did it and it was quite a bit of a distraction. Not saying it wasn't also a good thing but looking back now I'm not sure if it was the best decision I could have made.

I was once a senior who dated a freshman (although the freshman was actually a sophomore that got held back a year).

Some people will frown upon it, but teenagers are ridiculously fickle.

If you like her, go for it. Just be mindful of any laws in your state, if you ever take it anywhere. You don't want to get in trouble because you liked someone.

If you already have some sort of established relationship, you could probably pull it off.  Obviously, you know her better than we do, you know you better than we do, and you know the two of you better than we do.  It's really your call.

I can say that the difference between a 14 year old and a 16 year old isn't all that much and that there isn't any problem from where I'm standing.  The age difference isn't a big deal unless it's more than 2 years and and you're older.  A 20 year old dating a 15 year old is plain old creepy.  A 16 year old and a 14 year old, or something around there, is perfectly fine.

Ask her out and have some fun.

For me I don't think its such a big deal but it becomes a big deal when u become 18 if her parents don't give consent. For me though life is too short. id rather regret something i did then regret something i never did or never tried if you know what i mean. so if your heart is in it, take a chance! you will never know where it goes unless you try. but if your concern is friendship let me say this. my best friend is a chick and i have lived with her for a bit but we have never been together but i love her and i did try  and i can say atleast i tried and i did look back and said what could i have done different but i dont cause i know i tried and nothing i could of done different would of mattered, i would of regreted not trying instead of trying. So listen to your heart and do what your heart is telling you to do.

To be safe you should check your state's / jurisdiction's law about the age of consent. However you are under 18 years of age, so there should not be any "sexual misconduct" arrests for you. I am not joking: guys aged 19 have been put on the sex offender list for having a relationship with a girls aged 16!

sonic23 : I was actually in the same situation with my first girlfriend. I had an advantage because I already knew that she liked me. And I knew her family. One of her siblings actually begged me to ask her out, for a reason that I don't know. The thing you should be more careful about is dating your best friend or someone you were friends with for a long time. Of course that's how most couples start off, but if one of you accidentally breaks the other's heart, that entire friendship could be ruined. My advice is cherish her and make sure she knows that you actually care about her. When you are that young, it is hard to tell if the love is real or something that will only last for a while. But overall I say go for it! The time with my girlfriend didn't last but it was some of the best times that I ever had.

Depending on how old you are exactly it could be fine. It's common for people to date people that are a year or so younger/older than them. Just make sure it's ok with everyone's parents and the person you are interested in.

sonic23 : Its interesting that you ask something like this.

In my case I didn't really have any "girlfriends" in high school, mainly because I tried to focus on my schoolwork and I also played football. I didn't meet my current wife until I was 23 years old. She is about 2.5 years younger than I am. But I can understand that a freshman going out with a junior in high school means a lot more than if you guys were in college or even older than that.

If you think she even has a chance of being "the one" I say go for it, especially since you said you've known each other since elementary school. I think you've waited long enough and since both of you are in high school, you should both be mature enough to handle a relationship, in my opinion. Also, I would think its okay if both your parents were okay with it too.

I'm batting 1000, and what I mean by that is I have only ever had one girlfriend and that's my current wife. The reason why I say that is if you don't date a girl just because she's younger than you, than you might have missed out on a lifetime of happiness with her. You should at least give it a chance.

Good luck man!

Its totaly fine as long as it is real, like you actually like each other

Go for it!!! I had a two year relationship with nearly the same things ( I.E. Junior/Freshman, tow year difference etc.)

Not that you need another person to say no, but I would like to echo something that's been alluded to here.

First off, age itself is never an issue. However there are certain developmental issues that arise as we get older and those issues do matter. For example: and forgive my plainness here, but an eighteen year old is physically ready to have children, but a twelve year old is not. That is a development issue that is affected by age. However a thirty year old and a twenty four year old are fine together.

That said, two years should never be an issue in that area. However do be aware of laws in your area, and I don't mean make sure you wouldn't get in trouble for (again, apologies for the plainness) sexual relations if you were together still at eighteen and sixteen, but even kissing or dating a minor can be illegal in many places if you're over eighteen. Now where I live an eighteen year old and a sixteen year old can be together in every sense of the word, and a nineteen year old and seventeen year old can be as well, however a nineteen year old and sixteen year old cannot.

Long story short: be aware of the fact that you may legally be forced to stop dating when you reach eighteen. If that bothers you, Google the laws where you live about the age of consent (again, that applies to far more than sexual relations).

Finally, be sure that your parents and hers are okay with it.

If you get good answers from both of those, then you're good to go. There is nothing at all wrong with two years difference.

What janus said is true.
You need to know your state's laws or you can get yourself into a lot of trouble. Make sure her parents know what's going on and they are ok with you two going out.
I've seen quite a few people come into court with this type of situation and they are on a sex offender list for the rest of their lives because of a misunderstanding or stupid law.

Let me just say this about that... you are in high school... and people might make a big deal about it, and they might bother you about it, but 98% of those people wont ever see you again after high school. If this person is someone you genuinely care about, then do what makes you happy. When you get in to college, you will have friends who are 18, 24, 30... all different ages, races, and even some from other countries, but yet you are all equal. People make a big deal about age in high school, but in reality, its not a big deal at all... just be careful when you turn 18 and the law changes... Im not quite sure how youre going to manage that one.

I see nothing wrong. My daughter's father was 2 grades behind me. He just graduated high school last year.

Azul Fria : Wait wut, your daughters father? So... you or your husband?

bobq : it all depends on how both "parties" act. My cousin met her now husband when she was 16; he was 18. There was no legal problem for consent but many people were frowning on their relationship at its start. As long as the relation in consensual, there should be no problem.