Hello  , First of all i really hope this is the right fourm to make this thread in , I am still new here so i am really sorry if this thread should have been in another place then this .

I just can't stand my family anymore and i have no idea how to deal with them , They keep yelling at me and sometimes they do hit me not a lot but they still do it, And other times they just give me stupid threats , I don't know if i am just being a drama queen here and maybe i am but i can't stand it anymore .

Like yesterday me and my Mom were shopping and i don't really want to talk about it that  much but lets just say my Mom started yelling at me and i am sure she well had hit me if there were not at the very least 20 person looking at us .

And that other day when we were having dinner , My Sister said that it wold be much better if i was never born and my Mom and Dad were like "Yeah " .

And there really a lot of other stuff like this....

So how do you guys think i should deal with this ? Like i love my family in the end of the day ,I just want them to stop doing stuff like that to me ):  i really have no idea what to do or how to go about it .

Carley442 : Hi Carley,

I'm so sorry that that is how you are treated at home! Honestly, it's heart breaking.

Let me make this clear: the way they treat you has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with them. I know you love your family, but you will have to accept the fact that they are obviously very unhappy people, and they "crap on the little guy" to make themselves feel better.

It's the same mentality as a bully in a playground; they pick-on and humiliate other kids because they are deeply unhappy and troubled. I think the members in your family are the same... and they simply take it out on you because you are there, and easy to target.

Now I'm not saying you have to run away (I'm not qualified to give that kind of advice anyway), but I would definitely try to change something. For starters, you could tell your parents "can I talk with you guys alone for a minute". Try to do this when they don't seem especially stressed out, though don't wait for the "perfect" situation; it won't come. Then sit down, and talk to them about how hurt you are, and how you are having a hard time because of all of this. I know it seems so hard to do, and you may think "they won't care anyway", but I think if you do try it in a calm setting (not during an argument), they may suddenly realize what they are doing.

Also, seeing as they are verbally and sometimes physically abusive to you, I would definitely recommend contacting some kind of youth aide, or maybe even calling the police, if necessarily. There are some organizations out there that specialize in situations like yours, and I think you NEED to contact them. They can give you the best advice, and really help you. If you need any help finding an organization like that, PM me, and I will help find one.

Remember, you are NOT worthless, and you're life WILL get better if you want it to.

Carley442 : It sounds like you got a lot of problems right there, this would be my advice, just get through it and when you get a good paying job that you can get back and firths (best to try and get the job nearby, and save up your money and then move out and say "screw them all" and if you become a success in your life, they all can look back and they all will go into regret and guilt that they treated you horribly, and when that happens, you'll be the one that will get the last laugh.

Take my advice, I am still living with my parents and my family is very dysfunctional, both me and my brother was thinking of splitting out and getting our own place sometime early next year, you just got to look into your future. Every time they get a little violent, just look at it this was "Wait till I move out, you'll regret it".

I know how you feel, my family is emotionally,mentally and sometimes physically abusive as well, you just have to bite your tongue and try to do your best to become a success; remember once you turn 18 you can leave and dont have to take their crap. I dont really know if this is a fitting cause in my situation i feel like nothing can be done

Carley442 : Hey, Carley. I'm also experiencing some family issues at the time, so I know how your feeling. If you ever need anything or want someone to talk with, I'm always ready to gladly help.

I'm sorry to hear about your family doing those things. Some people weren't meant to be parents and it seems that yours weren't meant to.

For what you should do, I agree with Light Knight's advice. You shouldn't have to deal with your family treating you so badly if you haven't done anything to deserve it. I'll be praying that you can get all this sorted out and live a happier life.

I can't even begin to pretend that I know the best way to handle this, but I do wish to echo Light Knight's words: you are not at fault, they are, and you are worth more than this treatment may make you think.

I am assuming by "hitting" you mean in an abusive way, such as "striking" (punch, slap, etc) and not whipping/spanking (at your age, I doubt whipping is the case). If so, know that there is no excuse for such treatment, and you are not bringing it on yourself.

Also you were born for a purpose in life. No way would this world be better off without you. You are special and important. Always remember that.


Finally to answer your question, I have to agree with Light Knight again: if you are being hit (again, assuming you don't mean spanking/whipping), you should contact some sort of an authority. You don't have to put up with that.

Best of wishes. You are in my prayers.