I just recently got through a really complicated situation with a girl I am in love with, and we came to the conclusion that we just won't be together, since the feelings aren't mutual. Sometime while I was trying to be with her, she ended up falling in love with someone else, and before that she didn't want to be with anyone. It was really hard to just give up on trying to be with her, but I managed to do it. I have no problems with the guy she fell in love with, in fact I want to meet him (It's long distance, but they aren't actually dating yet), but at the same time even though I accept it and just want her to be happy, even if that means being with someone else, it has been really killing me inside. I'm sure that's just normal, but it definitely doesn't help with the real issue I'm having. Now that I gave some background, I've been dealing with loneliness for years now and I have no idea of what to do. I've been talking with the same girl I was, and kind of still am, in love with, but she can only help so much and she's dealing with her own problems too. I tried to find someone else, and I thought about two other girls, but they both just don't seem like the right person. I know I probably should just wait but I'm starting to get really depressed from all of this, and it's causing me a lot of problems. I figured coming here and getting opinions from other people would be the best thing to do for now, so, what could I do and what should I do? Or any words of reassurance?

tornadocam :  Yeah, Ive been trying to get to know one girl in particular but Im not too sure how that would work out. I thought about maybe trying online dating but I wasnt too sure, but I guess theres no harm in trying so Ill start doing that. And thanks, I appreciate the prayer

First of all please be aware of the fact you are only 15, You have plenty of time, Also during the next 5 or 6 years trust me, Your interests will change and you will probably find someone you love, 

Most people go through what your going, They end up falling in love with a certain individual to find out that it is not mutual. Sadly this just happens in life and their is not much you can do about it but respect their decision and move on. 

Honestly it just sounds like a childhood crush that you have not got over yet. Like i said before you are 15, Go outside and enjoy your life, go get some new hobbies, go make some new friends, Just go out their and enjoy your youth. Love will come eventually but wasting time by moping about how you have not found love at the age of 15 is pretty idiotic to me. 

I would perhaps be more sympathetic if you was older, I am not trying to be mean after all. It is just that your body probably has not finished maturing and the reason you feel so glum is because your a walking mess of hormones...

As for dating sites, I guess you could try, I just advise that you be careful as your still pretty young and naive and there are a lot of people that would want to take advantage of that. 

shad0wtraverse : Lonlieness, I know that feeling. I have been at home for quite some time; with the way that GOD had designed my life, I really have not had any time to make any lasting friendships in the real world. Just a couple good friends on vizzed and some people at work. It's hard to want to be with someone and they don't even know what they want. (I'm sorry, she really does not sound to me as though she knows what she wants.) To top that off, a lot of people see me as way too different because I do not swear, drink, or talk like the people around my age group. More times than not, I see my coworkers going off to have a conversation amongst themselves because they don't either want me to hear or want to offend me. I really would like to find someone...besides my mom...that understands what I am like and can relate. Just one real life friend outside of mom would be nice. As for advice, well, I really am not sure that I have much. A girl that does not even want to be with you is clearly not the right person for you. Getting depressed about it just makes things harder. Know that (I am not sure how you feel about this, but I'll say it anyways) GOD loves you and has a purpose for your life. Leave the rest to HIM, and live every day of your life, loving the people around you as though every day was your last day on earth.

I remember when I got dumped by my ex and I was feeling extremely depressed for a couple of months and lonely as well. It was a tough process to go through. Loneliness is something that I have dealt with many times in my life especially when losing a loved one or losing a deep connection in a close friendship. It makes it seem like work is useless and all for nothing. The truth is life always has its happy moments and obstacles.

If this girl isn't interested in you anymore, I think it is best for you to let her go. If it is not mutual anymore, it won't be able to work out anymore especially if you try to force yourself on her to win her love back. Forcing never ever works and it won't be natural. As tough as it seems, you will eventually have to let her go and deal with the sadness and mixed feelings inside of you. You may feel alone inside but you need to move on and heal. There are many other opportunities and chances out there for you to explore and see and that includes other people. That is one of the reasons why we develop friendships and close bonds through our lives. One important thing, if you have a close friend or a close relative to talk to, don't be afraid to talk them about your situation. They may be able to shed a different perspective onto you and their advice could be useful to you.

I mean look at you, you are 15 years old. You are still pretty young and still experiencing and exploring more with your life. I am also trying to explore more into my life like you are. Obstacles like these are a part of your life and it's okay to be sad about it. It is normal to feel this way because we are humans. I suggest that you think about her first before you think about yourself. Being selfish and too attached over a person can ruin something. Try your best to talk to her in a calm and well mannered conversation. Don't make it an argument or a fight because that would make matters worse. This is a part of growing up. Sadly things won't always go your way but you will learn to deal with and continue to improve yourself. You still have a whole life ahead of you. Don't waste it on just that one person and trap yourself in a box.

Remember that we will try our best to help you as much as we can and share our experience and perspectives on what you can do in various situations.

sonicmcmuffin : Thanks, you bring up a really good point. I guess youre pretty much right, so Ill be sure to keep that in mind.

FaithFighter : Shes gone through some really bad relationships in the past, so thats why she didnt want to even fall in love since she was recovering. Im not sure if she truly knows what she wants or not, maybe she does maybe she doesnt. And its not that she didnt want to be with me, its just she couldnt return the feelings. But nonetheless, I really appreciate the thoughts.

ghostfishy : The relationship was never mutual, we just became close friends, and I never had any intentions on forcing anything. As for someone to talk to, I have been talking to her since she is a close friend but as I said she could only do so much, which is why I came here since shes the only person I can really talk to. And I dont really think Im selfish about it, I mean I actually want her to be with the other guy since he makes her a lot happier. But I really do appreciate the advice and Ill be sure to keep that in mind for later.

shad0wtraverse : the best thing i could say is that you need the help of your friends and were all here for you in a time of need,and that you should focus on the better things of your life the things that you hold dear and the fact that you need to get up to have better time's. when life kicks you in the nuts you get back up

Hey we've all had love issues multiple times in our lives ... unless you live a fairy tale life then I wanna meet you.  You're only what , 15 or 16 years old, you have a very long life ahead of you and plenty of time to enjoy it. Do just that enjoy life as it comes and get serious later when it is expected of you as you become a adult. 
Best thing to do is stay friends with the girl and go out and look for another. Move on with your life for real ... don't just hang on because it's what you know and are used to. I'm not trying to be mean but I am blunt so you'll have to excuse me if this does sound mean. Yeah try online dating. It can be fun and who knows maybe you'll meet that special someone you been looking for all this time. Also go out and look as well. Ask your friends to keep an eye out and let you know of anyone they think might be a good match for you. Either way it goes it's time you kicked the obsession to the curb and get into the dating game. 
I wish you luck and many fun dates. :O)