Today, I've been trying to hide my sadness, but it's time to reveal it. Yesterday, I found out that my girlfriend was cheating on me with, big surprise, some guy on the football team. Yay...So, now I'm single. We were together for a long time, but now it's over. By the way, her name was Julia. It's not a long story on how this happened. She walked up to me with this muscular guy, she introduced me to her new boyfriend. Even though we were together. Stupid move if you ask me, but now I'm open...unless any of you want to duke it out in the chat room *wink*

Eniitan : Cheer me up

I am really sorry to hear that buddy!! This girl is a tramp, you don't need her, forget her and her new boyfriend, you deserve alot better than her!!


Hang in there!!

I know I have already profiled you about this. But I want to say more onto this thread. Pixel things in life will happen like this. And in a way. You will have to better yourself through this depression. And hey one day she might run into you again for help. But if she does don't bother to help her. Anyways your a great person with a great personality. It was wrong of her to go and cheat on you like that. As I said before you don't need her shes worthless piece of dirt. You will find someone much better than her trust me on that. And that person will make you 10x more happier than your cheating gf did. So please don't be so sad ok? *cuddles*


I want to see that smiling face again pixel. So please be happy and not sad.....

Unfortunately, some people are terrible and rude.
If we hang on to our negativity, nothing gets better.
As much as you might be told this, just look at the positive things.
Obviously, you lost somebody who wasn't that great of a girlfriend.
That's one less negative influence in your live.
Stay positive, and lead through example.
Now you have the chance to find somebody who respects you.

Sorry to hear what happened. I don't know you, but I never like seeing someone end a relationship by someone cheating/leaving for another guy.

I'm not going to bad mouth your ex, because that is an easy thing to do and plus at one point in time you had feelings for her. Unfortunately, this does happen. Its not pretty and you will get hurt. But that is what happens when you date someone as there is a risk that the relationship will end.

I will say that you should use this as an opportunity to come back stronger and a better person. Don't let this sort of thing keep you down or make you wonder what you could have done better for her. You are who you are and that just wasn't enough for her (I think that counts as badmouthing, but we can debate that). Go out into the world and find someone who will like you for you and stay positive.

I concur with awesome, it is best to just move on and forget about her....I am sure there are a lot of other girls out there that are much nicer and aren't dishonest....you shouldn't stress about her, you deserve better, she is the one missing out on an opportunity, and if she is too clueless to realize what she's missing out on, then she just isn't worth fighting for in my opinion. I hope you can get over her and enjoy the rest of your summer, it's okay to be a little upset or emotional about it, but you shouldn't have to live the rest of your summer in misery.

I've been through a terrible break-up as well just a couple of months ago. The mixed emotions of betrayal, heartbreak, despair, and hopelessness were very conflicting and tough to deal with. It may take a while or so to deal with the depression and sorrow. TIME DOES HEAL ALL WOUNDS! The main lessons that I learned from it is that you should use more time to continue to improve yourself as a person and you will eventually find someone else better. As much as people say that you will feel better and find someone else better (one that loves you for who you are despite of negatives), those times will come to you soon.

If I can feel better and move on, then so can you! Just hang in there man!  

PixelBrick : You used the phrase "big suprise" in what I assume is a sarcastic manner.

If you weren't surprised this happened, why is it a big deal?  Did you know this girl was interested in other guys anyway and you were just waiting for the end to happen?  You should have jumped the gun and dumped her.

What happened?  I like to hear people's stories and I'm curious on how your relationship came to an end.  I had two devastating dumps from girls I really liked in high school and I learned a lot about myself going through the misery of healing from them.

Maybe I can hear what you had happen and give some points of view to improve your own circumstance.

If not, that's cool.  Either way, it sucks.  I've been there and life gets unfun for a while.

Sorry, bro.

warmaker : Well, actually, that phrase was referring to how the guy looked itself. I've never seen somebody dump somebody for a mega nerd.

PixelBrick :

Sorry to hear that.

I hate it when that happens. But, hey, once you know that they were cheating on you in the first place, you know they didn't love you. In fact, I think that people completely lack a concept of real love nowadays, mixing it up with the feeling of infatuation. If she did that, then she's worthless.

I'm sorry to hear it though. That just sucks. Nothing heals sadness like time does though. Although God comforts me too sometimes.

I hope that you get a lot better of a relationship than what you had, it sounds pretty likely actually. Just remember, there are a lot of girls out there, besides, it's not like your me where you have to find a nice Christian Girl.

Um, I'm just curious, how do you decide if someone is good dating material?

Sword legion : Thanks for your comment, by the way. But the dating material I look for is lots of make-up, long hair, a low IQ, and large breasts. somebody who's talented, beautiful on the inside and out, (metaphorically and literally) somebody who is passionate, pretty self explanatory.

PixelBrick:

no prob, I new a nice gal when I was younger, we knew each other since we were 8, then I turned 13.

Then we quit going to church.

Then I quite seeing her.

Then I saw her again when I was 16

She was with a someone else.

And the next year, I saw her again- with someone else.

Even though we liked eachother greatly at a young age, and she had expressed her desire to date me, boy, she sure wasn't loyal like I was waiting all that time.

Now she's 18 and pregnant. She was such a nice girl at first too, then she just changed as she got older.

Probably a good thing I didn't get to see her after age 13.






I think that what you want to look for in a girl is the wanting to make you happy, I know that this sounds selfish at first, and it is- unless you make yourself a person who wants to make HER happy. 

A nice girl, in my opinion, is someone who is cheerful, and just enjoys living.

And yes, they should have a high moral standard, but you don't want to marry a nag, either.

Looks can be deceiving, but God made us liking that aspect for a reason. So looks should not be ignored- just be wary of how they can betray you. I read an excellent book called, "I only want to get married once." It is the greatest book that I have read- and no, it's not a Christian book- though it was written by a Jewish Phsycologist who has been helping people get married for 20 years. And no, it's not a bunch of Jewish religious stuff either. It's from her own experience and study of it all. I actually don't fear heartbreak and stuff like that cuase of what I have read in that book. Is there religious reference? Yeah, but religion should not put you off, she really isn't trying to forward it, in fact, I think that the Jewish Talmud was only brought up three times.

I don't expect you too get the book, but it's a really good one.

Opposites attract, I believe that this is true, for everything actually. I always try to team up with someone more energetic with projects since We would cover each other's weak point. (and it's way more fun that way too).

I would say, just find someone you have fun with. Not trying to woo them or anything like that, for innocent fun can create an innocent love that will last a lifetime. 

Seems to me you got some of the stuff you want down to look for okay. Maybe. . . you just need to look for these qualities stronger? Loyalty is one thing as well. A real girl is the one who doesn't break up behind your back as well. Not that I'm an expert.

P.S. Rock music can force depresion out of you.

Just hang in there, use your head, and it's come.

PixelBrick : This world has no love anymore. Your with someone then they leave you for someone who they think is better than you (no offense). Well just forget about her and her boyfriend, you find someone who would actually love you forever.

I'm really sorry to hear that. You deserve better than that. I hope you can find someone who will treat you right.

Leave her a shallow girl like her won't last long in the real world, she'll end up getting tossed around and contracting an STD and you'll feel better knowing that it's not your lips, her crusty lips are touching. Watch you'll see. As for the sadness in general play video games to get your mind off it or learn to play an instrument?

Dude, I'm so sorry. I just went through something quite similar. Except the girl in question was blowing my best friend so I feel for ya. It sucks balls. And not just small ones. Big ones that you could choke and kill yourself on. (Sorry about that metaphor but it cheers me up I hope it does the same for you.) But the unfortunate thing I had to realize was that the two people I cared about the most in the world were never really there for me. So I feel your pain. Move past this chick cause she's a s***. That was again another lesson I had to learn. Sorry about my somewhat harsh language by the way...

PixelBrick : I was on my high school football team... as a punter. I will fight the jock for stealing your girl form you for 25k Viz. What do you say? 

But yeah. That was a... you know what move. Just completely messed up. Hit me up next time you are in chat while I am, alright?

It might be a bit late, but it always sucks to get your heart broken. No matter what, the consequences of the relationship will get your soul absolutely crushed. There's more fish in the sea, man. You can pull through.

Well I have had my heart broken enough times. It gets quite annoying, many guys have cheated on me an pretty much done the same to me as they done you. It's wrong and it hurts for a while but trust me eventually it will get better and like they always say, there is plenty of other fishes in the sea. Even I worry that I will find that special somebody but I have faith that maybe one day it will happen for me.

I just saw this thread, and I don't mean to remind you about it, so I'm sorry if I do.

But anyways, I can sort of relate to this story because I too played for my high school football team for all 4 years. None of the football players were allowed to date any of the cheerleaders so it wouldn't be a distraction for either side. Now I know you didn't say she was a cheerleader, but you should've said to her new boyfriend something like "you shouldn't be dating because you have plenty of practicing and working out to do for football." That's something I would've said anyway. And if your ex only cares about muscular guys, she will probably never be happy in her life anyway. If you love someone only by the way they look...dude, come on. That's not love at all.

I don't mean to sound cliché here, but there are plenty of other fish in the sea. You're still young. Don't believe anybody that says there's nobody out there for you. When I was in high school, I used to think the exact same thing, and I played for the football team! But I met this girl at work. We instantly clicked and we had a lot in common. She is now my wife, and she will be forever, AND she was my only girlfriend. So I like to say that I'm batting 1000, and I will always bat 1000.

The bottom line is, move on brother. If you look hard enough, there will be somebody out there for you. Its just the hardest part is trying to find them. Good luck to you, and God bless!