I have been having some problems with my sister. Family things. Yesterday she hit me so hard on my arm that it left a bruise. She has hit me physically like that for years probably. What do you think I should do Totts? Do you think it's just best to keep my distance from her? It's very hurtful to me as her sister to know that she would do these things to me... not just hitting me ... shes straight on cruel. Any advice would be helpful thank you.

Bintsy : I am so sorry you are being physically hurt that really is sad to hear.

But what are the circumstances? Play fighting, anger etc, you may need to tell us more about what the situation is.

You need to speak to her and let her know that you are hurt by this just as you told me. Not in a argumentative way that may make things worse but to say how much it distresses you.

I think you may have already done this, so you might like to think of what the triggers are to her actions and avoid them. I.e. What are the circumstances that lead up to it, if it is her getting carried away, walk away before it escalates, she may get the message to back off or cool down then without you saying anything.

I know brothers who hit their littler sisters and vice versa or same gender for years and the pain stays and does not go away.

Perhaps they do not realise that it hurts you.

You must take care of yourself and your own protection, speak to someone, a parent etc. (I think you may have) and keep a diary of what she does each time. Or a picture on your phone, tell her you will be doing this, perhaps it may send out the message that it has to stop. But if you think this may make things worse then do not.

I hope that things begin to improve soon.

I wonder what other advice Vizzed users who may know your situation also more can offer.

She has major anger problems. Sort of like me when I was her age actually which I am very sad to say. This has been going on for years though. I have told my parents I have tried to avoid her.. I have tried all the things you have mentioned and it just seems to get worse. When she was a bit younger she used to kick me in the stomach a lot and other things as well. 

I have no insurance as of currently so I'm unable to go see a therapist or doctor to help me with all the troubles this has caused me. Even if I avoid her she finds some way to make me upset. For instance it can be the littlest of things. 

Last night she was screaming at me and cursing me telling me that I stole some of her snack (foods) and was just making me feel bad saying I'm a thief who eats everything and just cruel things. I had my own (snack) that I hadn't even opened yet. I didn't steal her things and when I told her she just kept saying I did.

Like I said this has been going on for years. I think all I can hope is that she can get better with time but honestly all the pain that she has caused me is very hard to forget and I do feel like it will always stay with me. 

If you are an average single working bloke, what  would be the right amount of money to pay for an PS4? And how long do you think it will be that we could actually after bills afford one? 

Brigand : Brigand : That is an interesting question, and one that may fall slightly outside of the remit of Trust Totts, although I suspect from your question that financial concerns may be a priority.Your use of the words 'single'and then later 'we' suggest some sort of interpersonal relationship and that certainly is something we can explore together.

I sense that for you it may be something of a priority but less so for others. The right amount of money is whatever it costs, how long before you can afford one after the bills depends on how you see a PS4 is that not just another grocery at the end of the day albeit an expensive one.

It really depends what you value, live tap water, rice and simple vegetables for a month and I sure think some money would go in the fund, more so if you left the lights off most of the time and wore a jacket in the house instead of putting on heaters.

This is not meant to be a flippant answer but to reetablish the concept and issue of choice and those you can make.

I would be interested in how you are progressing on this.

Totts :

Vegetables are sort of pricey these days. I have to admit that I would rather spend money on a decent salad than put away some for a rainy day. If putting away money for a game console could be considered as a rainy day. Can it? So I don't know.. Decisions, decisions... Heating is no problem since I have double windows and summer is upon us.

And no, it was not an flippant answer.

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