I faced rejection when I was in high school and it never got to me.  It seems most guys in that age range and even in their 20s are more shy and  not socially skilled.

Are you shy?  Can you boldly stroll up to a random girl, say hello, introduce yourself and ask them out?

Or is that not how things are done nowadays?  I may be out of the loop.  I'm old.

I'm only 16 and I have no problem with doing something like that. Maybe not ask them out because I don't really know them and I don't know what kind of a person they are but still. I was able to ask my girlfriend out and we've been together for about 10 months now. I used to be a little more shy when I was younger but I've gotten a lot more socially skilled.

It's kind of sad though because when I see other people's relationships they are asking each other out through texts and other social media sites which is just wrong in my opinion. How are you going to have a lasting relationship if you can't ask them out right to their face?

warmaker :

I don't believe in dating, because premarital relations can happen that way, but I think that it is fine to court someone in the presence of a group. As for me, I kindof have the courage to ask someone to dance, but I usually do so near the end of the dance because I have to get comfortable in the area and build some self-confidence. I suffer a little bit from the fear of rejection, or form someone else taking her away from me if I start a relationship, but I gotta make an effort or else I won't get anything.

I'm not really shy with anyone anymore, I got over that in High School. I'm definitely not an ultra smooth badass lol, I have a quirky kind of confidence I guess. It still doesn't mean that I generally enjoy going on dates or that I'm not socially intimidated sometimes. I seem to be inhuman in the lack of enjoyment I get out of dating. It depressing but it's true.

I'll just say I'm not a "long term relationship" kind of person.

I would say that I am relatively shy to start dating yet, I am probably not going to start taking it seriously until the end of high school or until college, a lot of my friends make it look so easy, but I just don't think I have what it takes to be in a relationship that probably isn't going to go far anyway. If I were to ask them out it would probably be through a not on paper rather than directly to their face or through text which is probably the worst way to ask someone out.


I am not socially unskilled because I can talk to people and make friends just fine, but I find that when it comes to this sort of topic, things start to get a little shaky and I lose some of my confidence. 

Well...to be honest I would panic as that, is not really my thing. Or...I might blank out. It takes a lot of courage and bravery to ask someone out. Me? I don't have that as I am struggling with something’s as it is. so......for me that won't happen for a while.

I'm shy about dating, but I can definitely pull off an intelligent conversation with a girl without coming off like a jerk.
Which a lot of guys at my school can't seem to do.

Most women my age are married or divorced with a bunch of kids and most times I think there is no common ground to go and have a chat about, especially with romantic intentions. So yeah, I feel kind of shy.

"Yeah, while you were playing house I spent my time outlawing so after your marriage fell apart I am really the one you want to play daddy to your brood."

Asking people out has always been a major stumbling point for me (god I feel like I'm in therapy). I'm actually confident in my looks, but for some reason I'm never the one to make the first step towards any form of relationship. Usually I just take a step back and let any other interested parties make the first move. 

I guess I'm one of those people who'll just sit back and manage to think about every single embarrassing thing that's ever happened to them. Fear of adding that pile leads me to be a bit quieter than normal I guess.

Well if i knew a girl that i was actually attracted to i'd probably ask them out... randomly asking a girl you've just met isn't really the best idea.. they could be the demon spawn of love and drive you to insanity.. or death... of course i'm exaggerating a bit. but exaggeration is fun sometimes.

but nah i'm not shy about dating... i'm more the type of being proud that i have a gf/bf

Actually, I am probably one of the shyest people when it comes to dating. I am just not good at it at all and I don't believe there is anything at all that can change that.

I can say I am shy about dating, mainly because at 16 I have never been in a relationship. I have never been a super shy person, I can talk with most people without having too many problems. I only have trouble if I try and talk to people if I don't know them, or if I am by myself.

I am okay talking to girls, even ones I have a huge crush on until it comes to asking them out I start to turn red and forget what I was going to say. I have only really got the chance to ask a girl out once and go through with it, we went to the cinema but she moved up north and we both agreed it would be too hard to start now and hold a long distance relationship for four years (how long we would both be at uni). I haven't asked anybody else since then (a few months ago) but that is because everybody I fancy is already in a relationship.

Everyone is different about dating, some may be shy and some may be confident. Let me give ya some tips, examples, and how I feel.

So, many of you may know, and many may not, however a lot of girls like confident guys, and you'd be surprised. 

When I was back in school, I was really insecure about myself, so I was fearful about rejection, however after facing my fear head on, i'm much more confident. 

I asked my last girlfriend out, in person. And it was very difficult to do, in fact was possibly the hardest thing, but let me tell you. We lasted for 2 years, and that's pretty long. So confidence shows a side. 

It may be harder to ask a girl out in person where you live because you may see them often, but think of it like this, You may get rejected, but are you really going to see that person your whole life if so? 

When I am with my friends and stuff and we go out on vacation, I'll proudly walk up to someone and tell them "Hey you look really gorgeous, and I'd kick myself in the face if I didn't tell you that". A lot of the times they will say "Thank you" You might not be making out with them at the end of the night, but at least you got that practice, and gained confidence. And rejection will also help break out of the shell as well as maybe hurt. But you'll get over it, it's life. (: 

Good luck.

Even though I've had a girlfriend for 3 years now, I still feel very shy or squeemish about dating. I don't know what to do, to say, and I don't even know how I managed to ask her out in the first place.

Its strange, but I guess I've gotten this far.

I was when I first started trying to date but after a while rejection didn't bother me, I thought of it as they are missing out, not me. As I got older it stopped being this big thing.

I'm extremely shy about dating or even asking a girl out in the first place. I'm just not especially good at it and I don't think I actually ever will be.

When it comes to dating I am a very mixed person with emotional feelings. I have a really hard time asking the person I like out cause I get shy. But there are times when I actually just come right out with it without thinking to clearly. When I like someone I tend to hide what I truly want to say sometimes or I can be very blunt of what I want. I can be either shy or straight forward with things.

I've only had one boyfriend in my entire life. Half of it is because I'm too shy and the other half is because I do not have a really appealing face. At least I think anyway. We were together for the first time about two years ago. I was fifteen at the time. We were together for about a year before we broke up. We broke up because he was flirting with other girls, mostly my "friends", a lot. It hurt to see that but I decided that I am not going to be with someone who doesn't even care for me and broke up with him. We have not talked since then and I have yet to have another boyfriend.

Maybe it's all for the best though, eh?