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01-30-14 11:07 AM
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My wife gave birth to a girl the other day and we're super excited.  She's our first child and our parents' first grandchild.

What would you do differently if you have kids and you could go back?

What should I do to make sure she's safe and happy?

How do I keep her self-esteem through the roof as a girl?

I'll take any hints, suggestions, and thoughts.
My wife gave birth to a girl the other day and we're super excited.  She's our first child and our parents' first grandchild.

What would you do differently if you have kids and you could go back?

What should I do to make sure she's safe and happy?

How do I keep her self-esteem through the roof as a girl?

I'll take any hints, suggestions, and thoughts.
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01-30-14 11:18 AM
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First of all congratulations on your daughter. I do not know what your religion is. I am a Christian so my advice is going to be based on that. 

As your daughter grows up she will hear harmful messages in the media and probably her peers. The media wants to paint a picture that you have to be a certain size or dress a certain way to been seen as somebody important. My advice start telling your daughter at a young age that she is her self, and make sure you tell her that she is good the way she is. You want to get a good healthy image of the self in her at a young age because in schools, tv shows, and music she will be hearing stuff the opposite. Also make sure you are involved in her life. If you are a Christian, then also read her the bible and tell her how God loves her
First of all congratulations on your daughter. I do not know what your religion is. I am a Christian so my advice is going to be based on that. 

As your daughter grows up she will hear harmful messages in the media and probably her peers. The media wants to paint a picture that you have to be a certain size or dress a certain way to been seen as somebody important. My advice start telling your daughter at a young age that she is her self, and make sure you tell her that she is good the way she is. You want to get a good healthy image of the self in her at a young age because in schools, tv shows, and music she will be hearing stuff the opposite. Also make sure you are involved in her life. If you are a Christian, then also read her the bible and tell her how God loves her
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I am a thirteen year old boy and I have recently discord I have a daughter. She is three months old her name is careen. I love her a lot
I am a thirteen year old boy and I have recently discord I have a daughter. She is three months old her name is careen. I love her a lot
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Congratz buddy..... your daughter must be a joy for you and your wife.... I hope everything goes well for your new born!!
Congratz buddy..... your daughter must be a joy for you and your wife.... I hope everything goes well for your new born!!
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Congratulations, and good luck. Im not a parent so im not going to attempt to tell you how to go about being one.
Im pretty sure you'll find those answers pretty obvious to yourself as you progress though, no kids the same and any good parent can garner whats best for the child.
Congratulations, and good luck. Im not a parent so im not going to attempt to tell you how to go about being one.
Im pretty sure you'll find those answers pretty obvious to yourself as you progress though, no kids the same and any good parent can garner whats best for the child.
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Since I am no father yet, i can't give you any good advise, but what I can tell you is : Congratulations ! 

You and your wife created life and that is a huge gift !
Since I am no father yet, i can't give you any good advise, but what I can tell you is : Congratulations ! 

You and your wife created life and that is a huge gift !
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From a young age, have her take a martial art. It will help vastly with her self esteem and safety if she can get to mastering it as a teenager. Of course, make sure it's a good martial arts school.

tornadocam : Don't raise her pushing one worldview. No matter your religion, don't indoctrinate her with any one belief or set of beliefs. If she asks any questions such as how we came to be, tell her that different people believe different things, and to be kind to others even if they believe something different than she does. Let her choose her own beliefs.

Kindle her interest in the academics, and make sure she's intrigued and engaged my science, mathematics, and the liberal arts. Expose her to a whole variety of different ways to express oneself, but don't force her into anything if she tries it for a while and doesn't like it.

Make sure that she knows that she can come to her parents in times of need, that you care about her and love her, and that her happiness is very important to you. Let her know that she is beautiful and to not let anyone else tell her otherwise. Educate her about the dangers of the world.

Of course, I have barely scratched the surface. I am only 15 and am not a parent, but these seem to be some very good things to do.
From a young age, have her take a martial art. It will help vastly with her self esteem and safety if she can get to mastering it as a teenager. Of course, make sure it's a good martial arts school.

tornadocam : Don't raise her pushing one worldview. No matter your religion, don't indoctrinate her with any one belief or set of beliefs. If she asks any questions such as how we came to be, tell her that different people believe different things, and to be kind to others even if they believe something different than she does. Let her choose her own beliefs.

Kindle her interest in the academics, and make sure she's intrigued and engaged my science, mathematics, and the liberal arts. Expose her to a whole variety of different ways to express oneself, but don't force her into anything if she tries it for a while and doesn't like it.

Make sure that she knows that she can come to her parents in times of need, that you care about her and love her, and that her happiness is very important to you. Let her know that she is beautiful and to not let anyone else tell her otherwise. Educate her about the dangers of the world.

Of course, I have barely scratched the surface. I am only 15 and am not a parent, but these seem to be some very good things to do.
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01-30-14 08:11 PM
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Congratulations! I can't really give you any tips, but I just wanted to congratulate you on the birth of your child!
Congratulations! I can't really give you any tips, but I just wanted to congratulate you on the birth of your child!
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I agree with tornadocam.  I too believe in a God that has perfect love.  She needs to know that there is a God out there that is not out to condemn her, but is watching over her and wishes for nothing more than her eternal growth.  Help her to grow, teach her the truths you know, and give her love!  While I can't push my worldview onto you, I promise you that you and she will be happier if you accept this.  epic-san sees this as pushing our beliefs onto you, but this is not true.  We are sharing our beliefs because we want you to be happy, and we believe in truth.  While tornadocam and I may disagree in certain areas, I think we both agree that God lives and loves your child.  But don't just take this at face value.  Study the scriptures, pray, and find out the truth for yourself.  James 1:5-6 states that: "If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, who giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not, and it shall be given him.  But let him ask in faith, never wavering.  For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven by the wind and tossed.".  This means that if you ask God without any doubts that He will answer your prayer, He will do so.  The answer may not be what you expect, but it will be given, if you don't doubt.  Sometimes, you will have to remove personal feelings or tendencies in order to get an answer.  But it is worth it every time.

I hope you do not feel like I am trying to be preachy.  That is not my goal.  My goal is to help you and your daughter be happy.  So go ahead, test what I have said, and see if it's true.  I promise you it's worth it
I agree with tornadocam.  I too believe in a God that has perfect love.  She needs to know that there is a God out there that is not out to condemn her, but is watching over her and wishes for nothing more than her eternal growth.  Help her to grow, teach her the truths you know, and give her love!  While I can't push my worldview onto you, I promise you that you and she will be happier if you accept this.  epic-san sees this as pushing our beliefs onto you, but this is not true.  We are sharing our beliefs because we want you to be happy, and we believe in truth.  While tornadocam and I may disagree in certain areas, I think we both agree that God lives and loves your child.  But don't just take this at face value.  Study the scriptures, pray, and find out the truth for yourself.  James 1:5-6 states that: "If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, who giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not, and it shall be given him.  But let him ask in faith, never wavering.  For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven by the wind and tossed.".  This means that if you ask God without any doubts that He will answer your prayer, He will do so.  The answer may not be what you expect, but it will be given, if you don't doubt.  Sometimes, you will have to remove personal feelings or tendencies in order to get an answer.  But it is worth it every time.

I hope you do not feel like I am trying to be preachy.  That is not my goal.  My goal is to help you and your daughter be happy.  So go ahead, test what I have said, and see if it's true.  I promise you it's worth it
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Wow....congrats your now a daddy! I tornado has said it all and also....she would need to know the right friends to choose in life. As she grows up and to learn about trust. And making the right decisions as well. ^-^
Wow....congrats your now a daddy! I tornado has said it all and also....she would need to know the right friends to choose in life. As she grows up and to learn about trust. And making the right decisions as well. ^-^
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Well, I have no experience in raising a child, of course, but I will basing this advice on what I think to be right. Ensure her safety at all times; as my father likes to say, "Better safe than sorry." I think you should not spoil her too much, so she grows into a locally known pleasant child; not a stubborn one always asking for things. Congratulations on your baby, and I wish her happiness for the years to come !
Well, I have no experience in raising a child, of course, but I will basing this advice on what I think to be right. Ensure her safety at all times; as my father likes to say, "Better safe than sorry." I think you should not spoil her too much, so she grows into a locally known pleasant child; not a stubborn one always asking for things. Congratulations on your baby, and I wish her happiness for the years to come !
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Congrats on the new little girl!

Now I don't have children of my own, but I've helped raise my niece since birth and I baby sit many kids every year.

For the first year give her nothing but full attention and love.  For this year she won't be much of any trouble.  Not every child is the same and some children might develop faster or slower than other children. 

Children need love and structure in their lives.  You can't ship the child from one house hold to another.  The majority of the time should be spent at home.  Only get a babysitter if you absolutely have no way of taking care of your child at home.  You also need to balance fun time with serious time.  Getting dressed, eating, and sleeping are serious time.  Play should not be a factor in serious time or you will never get them to do it by themselves when they grow up.  This has been an experience with all children I have taken care of.

Set a schedual as best as possible. If the child has a set schedual then they know when they have to do things.

Now on the personality issues.  If your child shows a deep interest in something make sure you foster it as early as possible.  Make sure she knows it's ok to get into healthy things such as art, music, dance, and other educated and sports activities.  With my niece we noticed she loved music and dance so we get her an instrument every Christmas and birthday.  She is also now into a dance class that we have saved money for.

That's all the time I have for now to type this up.  If you want more advice I am willing to give some!  Again congrats on the new girl!
Congrats on the new little girl!

Now I don't have children of my own, but I've helped raise my niece since birth and I baby sit many kids every year.

For the first year give her nothing but full attention and love.  For this year she won't be much of any trouble.  Not every child is the same and some children might develop faster or slower than other children. 

Children need love and structure in their lives.  You can't ship the child from one house hold to another.  The majority of the time should be spent at home.  Only get a babysitter if you absolutely have no way of taking care of your child at home.  You also need to balance fun time with serious time.  Getting dressed, eating, and sleeping are serious time.  Play should not be a factor in serious time or you will never get them to do it by themselves when they grow up.  This has been an experience with all children I have taken care of.

Set a schedual as best as possible. If the child has a set schedual then they know when they have to do things.

Now on the personality issues.  If your child shows a deep interest in something make sure you foster it as early as possible.  Make sure she knows it's ok to get into healthy things such as art, music, dance, and other educated and sports activities.  With my niece we noticed she loved music and dance so we get her an instrument every Christmas and birthday.  She is also now into a dance class that we have saved money for.

That's all the time I have for now to type this up.  If you want more advice I am willing to give some!  Again congrats on the new girl!
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