I'm a college freshmen who's bisexual (but has a slight preference for girls/is more on the ''pink'' side) who wants to ask, how should I ''come out'' to my new friend groups from my Chemistry 101 class I had this semester?

They seem like cool people who I'd wanna stay in touch with & I'm pretty sure that we're gonna have a conversation related to dating come up soon if we get to know each other.

And I want to be honest so they know who I really am!
I'm just worried about their reactions (i.e. that I may be hitting on them or something).
Which I'm not.

I just want them to know the REAL me.

A lot of my friends from middle and high school know already, but I forgot how I told my best friend, it was easier for me and my second best friend because she told me she's bi first, or these other people from my past have found out through my social networking profiles....

People in these new groups said they do NOT have social networks, so it won't be easy this time!!!

Help??

Just do it!  You don't want people to know the fake you after all, and the longer you wait, the longer you are making a somewhat false impression. It's better to do it and get it over with.... and on the plus side, you'll begin forming a quality friendship even sooner.

By the way, instead of creating a new thread almost every day on nearly the same topics, maybe you should just keep posing your questions in one thread where everything is grouped together?  LOL There are enough people that care about you on this site to check a thread regularly, so you don't have to worry they won't see it.  Also, it'd make it easier for new people to give you input. They could see all your questions and explanations in one place.

Otherwise, you're just starting fresh with the same stuff and having to repeat yourself to others who might not have seen your previous threads.

Okay.

From Singelli's post and your last one, I assume there is more to the situation. So I can only go off of what I can gather here. I understand that losing friends sucks. But the thing is, if they can't accept you for who you really are, do you want them as friends? Yes, there are still a lot of people who avoid bisexuals. But we are slowly getting into a society in which it really isn't a big deal. If they are really your friends, this shouldn't even be an issue. It isn't something that has any effect on how they interact with you. So if you lose them as friends, it is simply due to a prejudice. You aren't losing a friend, in that case. You are just finding out who THEY really are. 

You are in college. This is the time that you can start fresh with your life. Don't start that new life by veiling yourself again. Start fresh with who you are so you don't have to worry about coming out to your established friends. Make friendships in which they already know, and this will never be an issue again.

rcarter2 : Sounds great, but I don't really understand the second half of that. How are they supposed to already know if I don't come out to them? Even if I do wear my rainbow backpack pin (just ordered on Amazon), how would they know I'm not trans?

Singelli : You hit it on the nose.  This seems like one question mirroring another following the same theme.

Eliza, being bisexual doesn't necessarily define you and it shouldn't be a main topic of conversation unless you are:

(A) looking for attention 
or
(B) hitting on the girls.

Coming out with something like that so soon to a group of people will seem like you're trying to make a statement.  Are you bisexual?  Sure.  Is that the beginning and end of your personality and who you are?  It shouldn't be.  Your sexuality makes no fundamental difference when you try to make friends because people like other people for their actions, their thoughts, and their personalities.  Whether you like girls or not doesn't change who you are.

You may come on too strong and they could be intimidated.  If I was friends with someone who immediately introduced themselves as potentially a mate, I'd put my guard up.

If you HAVE to share it (and it seems like you do based on your posts) simply tell them.  "hey, guys, just so you know, I'm bisexual."  That would the fastest way to get it out in the open.  

I think you're doing it to introduce the possibility of romantic interest.  If you are trying that, take a different route.  It seems like you're aiming at that attention-getting effort.  That's the wrong reason to share this kind of thing because it may backfire on you.

Good luck!

warmaker : No I don't mean like right now now, but if the subject ever really comes up, be it like a year from now or until I graduate. Sorry. I guess I forgot to make that clear!

well you are bi sexual not completely lesbian so really it shouldn't be that hard to come out, unless of course you are doing this to immediately hit on one of them or whatever then that's a stupid  creepy move

Well I guess y'all are right since no, I'm not trying to hit on anyone or get attention.

You are defining yourself by your sexuality; I can be friends with both girls and guys and I never worry about them hitting on me (and if I do, it's not a big deal). You're making it out to be a big issue, but if you view it as no big deal, that will rub off on your friends.

Next time they talk about dating and they ask you questions, just say it straight up and act normally.

Okay.

What?
Just talk to the people.
I am certain that they can say "Yes or No". Ever so simply.
"Want to learn how to swim? Just jump in and grab an armful of water."
Otherwise?
Drown.
I tell the same advice to teen dudes wanting to court chicks.
It has yet to fail as Good Advice.

Good Luck.
Peace.

Thanks lol

I agree with warmaker that it doesn't seem like a necessary conversation yet. You're all still getting to know each other, as others have stated. Generally people just assume you're straight until they have any reason to think otherwise. As long as they really like you or start to value the friendship you have, it will make zero difference in their perception of you. Depending on how well you've gotten to know each other so far, it may just be an awkward tidbit of information for them. I'd say just be yourself and enjoy each other's company. Whenever the situation arises it'll take care of itself. But like others have said if you just REALLY have the urge to tell them, just go ahead and do it, but I personally don't see where that need would come from, unless you're the one that wants to initiate the dating conversations and whatnot.

Thanks.

When you get to know them well, just put it out there. Most guys find lesbianism to be "intriguing," so I doubt and fuss will be made about you being bi

Thanks!

don't overwhelm her, especially if she doesn't know you have a crush on her, or if she's not open to the idea of a relationship.  However, that being said, don't distance yourself from her more than you would anyone else. Treat the friendship like you would any other.  Figure out what her comfort zone is from her.  None of us could ever give you good advice on how often to text her. Only she can do that herself.