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What do you think is the proper age for a relationship ?

 

03-11-14 07:52 AM
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I think as far as just dating like movies and stuff probably 14.  I really don't think kids should be having sex until at least 17.  But as far as a serious long term relationship I would wait until you were out of your parents house, had your own car, had a job, and capable of making responsible decisions because the last thing you would need is to have a baby at your moms house with her driving you around and buying you diapers.
I think as far as just dating like movies and stuff probably 14.  I really don't think kids should be having sex until at least 17.  But as far as a serious long term relationship I would wait until you were out of your parents house, had your own car, had a job, and capable of making responsible decisions because the last thing you would need is to have a baby at your moms house with her driving you around and buying you diapers.
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I would say 14-15 or at least 9th grade is a pretty good age to start dating. Anything under that is completely pointless. The only relationship I ever had (if you could call it one, I prefer not to) didn't really affect anything. I think it lasted for less than a month, and all we did was occasionally hang out on the playground. But yeah after that I was really close to this girl when I was in eighth grade. I mean, we were talking for 3-4 months and I don't know how but it just ended. After that I haven't been really close to any girls at all, but I think that is starting to change now. Hope that helps in any way to answer your question.
I would say 14-15 or at least 9th grade is a pretty good age to start dating. Anything under that is completely pointless. The only relationship I ever had (if you could call it one, I prefer not to) didn't really affect anything. I think it lasted for less than a month, and all we did was occasionally hang out on the playground. But yeah after that I was really close to this girl when I was in eighth grade. I mean, we were talking for 3-4 months and I don't know how but it just ended. After that I haven't been really close to any girls at all, but I think that is starting to change now. Hope that helps in any way to answer your question.
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16's honestly the best age. Or let me rephrase. The best time to start dating people is when one of you has a drivers license and doesn't have to rely on their parents to take them everywhere.

Dates with parent facilitation can be really awkward sometimes, and leaving in your mom's car can be a pretty embarrassing end to a day. Plus, a lot of dating that starts at like 13 isn't....actually....dating. I've seen countless kids who're just like "Yeah, we're dating," and they've literally never gone out on an actual date. It's just some weird, pointless statement.
16's honestly the best age. Or let me rephrase. The best time to start dating people is when one of you has a drivers license and doesn't have to rely on their parents to take them everywhere.

Dates with parent facilitation can be really awkward sometimes, and leaving in your mom's car can be a pretty embarrassing end to a day. Plus, a lot of dating that starts at like 13 isn't....actually....dating. I've seen countless kids who're just like "Yeah, we're dating," and they've literally never gone out on an actual date. It's just some weird, pointless statement.
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It depends on how we are defining relationship.

An emotional and non-physical relationship doesn't have an age limit and there shouldn't be one.

If we are talking about a physical relationship; then around 17-18 would be my guess; but that is something that you 2 must decide upon when to upgrade to that one. I've seen/heard kids young as 14 have physical relationships (really disgusting and disappointing) and I don't bet on those lasting long.

As for your mom saying that its not appropriate for you to be dating someone. I think that some of it is that she is getting used to the fact that your growing up and are starting to date women. It can be tough for moms to deal with that stuff (assuming that the mom cares, also applies to fathers and daughters). Once some time has passed and your mom gets used to you being with this girl, then she might be more accepting to the relationship (just don't have sex as that is a bad idea this early in the game).

Just remember these 3 rules and you should be good...

1. Treat her well
2. Be yourself
3. If your going to break up, do it in person (NEVER BREAK UP OVER THE PHONE, VIA TEXT MESSAGE, EMAIL, OR ON FACEBOOK).
It depends on how we are defining relationship.

An emotional and non-physical relationship doesn't have an age limit and there shouldn't be one.

If we are talking about a physical relationship; then around 17-18 would be my guess; but that is something that you 2 must decide upon when to upgrade to that one. I've seen/heard kids young as 14 have physical relationships (really disgusting and disappointing) and I don't bet on those lasting long.

As for your mom saying that its not appropriate for you to be dating someone. I think that some of it is that she is getting used to the fact that your growing up and are starting to date women. It can be tough for moms to deal with that stuff (assuming that the mom cares, also applies to fathers and daughters). Once some time has passed and your mom gets used to you being with this girl, then she might be more accepting to the relationship (just don't have sex as that is a bad idea this early in the game).

Just remember these 3 rules and you should be good...

1. Treat her well
2. Be yourself
3. If your going to break up, do it in person (NEVER BREAK UP OVER THE PHONE, VIA TEXT MESSAGE, EMAIL, OR ON FACEBOOK).
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It is different for each person and whether it not it is physical as in "it" not just kissing.

If it is non physical I would say anything from a mature 12 to a immature 15, this is because it is about been in tune with another person whom you can share anything with, if you are old enough to do and feel this then fair enough go ahead.
If it is a physical relationship I would say 17/18, this is because this is when most people start to seriously think about the future and have a clear(ish)and realistic view on life so they know exactly what they are entering into.

As for your mom saying it isn't appropriate she just isn't attune to the fact you are growing up and aren't her little boy any more. Trust me I know what it's like having a mother like this, she used to think I couldn't talk to a girl without sticking my tongue down her throat, it's taken four years but she has finally realised I can be friends with a girl without going out with her.

As for your relationship good luck and remember the golden rules:
1. She is always right but you need to give some resistance or she will be unsatisfied with her victory
2. Always offer to pay for things if you can but don't be ashamed if you can't afford it.
3. Always make time for her and give a few surprises now and then
4. Be your self, your girlfriend will probably know better than you know yourself if you are going to be together for a few years.
5. If you need to discuss something important always do it in person.
It is different for each person and whether it not it is physical as in "it" not just kissing.

If it is non physical I would say anything from a mature 12 to a immature 15, this is because it is about been in tune with another person whom you can share anything with, if you are old enough to do and feel this then fair enough go ahead.
If it is a physical relationship I would say 17/18, this is because this is when most people start to seriously think about the future and have a clear(ish)and realistic view on life so they know exactly what they are entering into.

As for your mom saying it isn't appropriate she just isn't attune to the fact you are growing up and aren't her little boy any more. Trust me I know what it's like having a mother like this, she used to think I couldn't talk to a girl without sticking my tongue down her throat, it's taken four years but she has finally realised I can be friends with a girl without going out with her.

As for your relationship good luck and remember the golden rules:
1. She is always right but you need to give some resistance or she will be unsatisfied with her victory
2. Always offer to pay for things if you can but don't be ashamed if you can't afford it.
3. Always make time for her and give a few surprises now and then
4. Be your self, your girlfriend will probably know better than you know yourself if you are going to be together for a few years.
5. If you need to discuss something important always do it in person.
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I think that the proper age for a relationship is 28 years old.I think that in this age people are more mature and responsible.
I think that the proper age for a relationship is 28 years old.I think that in this age people are more mature and responsible.
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I know I'm not ready, NOT AT ALL.
I'm 13, and I must wait, First my thread needs reply's, then, second, If I'll follow my heart, I'll first need to finish the hardest thing in my life - 7 Months of work in 1 Month. -
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But, HA! 'If you need to discuss something important, always do it in person.'
Not even my Girlfriend but I still must tell her how much I regret that I followed after her. More like Runned After Her. 12 April, I'll try that, But I'll probably see her (MAYBE IF NOT THEN I DID NOT FOLLOW MY HEART. OR I WASN'T ALLOWED AND I WOULD BE VERY VERY SAD AT THAT DAY!) 21/22 April, but, that's not Privately. :p
I know I'm not ready, NOT AT ALL.
I'm 13, and I must wait, First my thread needs reply's, then, second, If I'll follow my heart, I'll first need to finish the hardest thing in my life - 7 Months of work in 1 Month. -
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Fail Summon because edit...
But, HA! 'If you need to discuss something important, always do it in person.'
Not even my Girlfriend but I still must tell her how much I regret that I followed after her. More like Runned After Her. 12 April, I'll try that, But I'll probably see her (MAYBE IF NOT THEN I DID NOT FOLLOW MY HEART. OR I WASN'T ALLOWED AND I WOULD BE VERY VERY SAD AT THAT DAY!) 21/22 April, but, that's not Privately. :p
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Alright, I'm going to be as honest as I can. and this is how I feel.

So in America (not sure about other countries) There is a specific age limit to dating. And that is 4 years difference. 
So you can legally be 18 years old and date a 14 year old, Legally. 

However, the age limit for sexual activity is 16.

Example; 18 year old dates a 14 year old. This is legal however you must wait until he/she is 16 to have sex. 

Now how do I feel about an 18 year old legally dating a 14 year old? Kinda grossed out to be honest, I believe if you are over 18 you can only date 16+. But that's not the law. And if you are over 21, you should be able to only date 18+. Again that's not the law.

I also believe if you are 12 or 13 you can date, it might not be true love, but you should be able to date if you are happy with that girl/boy. Just remember the 4 year age difference, and don't try to date a 17 year old if you're 12. That's straight up illegal, and gross. 

My first girlfriend was in 6th grade, I was 12 and she was 11. LOL. it's kinda funny but it's true. Anyways, that's how I personally feel. 

If you are under 18, and your parents disagree with who you date, just listen to them to make your life easier. Don't rebel against them, because something can happen. And life is short just wait till you're 18 to date that specific person.
Alright, I'm going to be as honest as I can. and this is how I feel.

So in America (not sure about other countries) There is a specific age limit to dating. And that is 4 years difference. 
So you can legally be 18 years old and date a 14 year old, Legally. 

However, the age limit for sexual activity is 16.

Example; 18 year old dates a 14 year old. This is legal however you must wait until he/she is 16 to have sex. 

Now how do I feel about an 18 year old legally dating a 14 year old? Kinda grossed out to be honest, I believe if you are over 18 you can only date 16+. But that's not the law. And if you are over 21, you should be able to only date 18+. Again that's not the law.

I also believe if you are 12 or 13 you can date, it might not be true love, but you should be able to date if you are happy with that girl/boy. Just remember the 4 year age difference, and don't try to date a 17 year old if you're 12. That's straight up illegal, and gross. 

My first girlfriend was in 6th grade, I was 12 and she was 11. LOL. it's kinda funny but it's true. Anyways, that's how I personally feel. 

If you are under 18, and your parents disagree with who you date, just listen to them to make your life easier. Don't rebel against them, because something can happen. And life is short just wait till you're 18 to date that specific person.
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I know it's asking a lot since this is a long post, but please read the entire thing. If not, then at least read the middle and end.


I don't think there is a certain age at which it becomes acceptable or proper to date. In fact, I think there are too many age restrictions on things like this.

For example, just a few generations ago it was okay for a fourteen year old to get married. Married! lol And now a lot of people think that's too young to even start dating. Why? There was nothing wrong with people back then, and they were making the life altering decision of marriage at that very age. If anything people are worse now than they were then, and I think that's because of a few reasons. By the time you're in your twenties, you're set in your ways, and two people that are past the point of changing, struggle to get along in the same house (since they come from two different ways of thinking most often).

I'll say this: the only thing that has changed since those days is our perception of things. If we heard of a fourteen year old getting married today, we would fuss about how they weren't capable at that age of caring for a family. NEWSFLASH: a fourteen year old human is no less developed now than they were seventy years ago when they were fully capable of raising families. Society has simply determined that those days should no longer exist. And it's getting worse! Now they're saying you shouldn't have a serious relationship until your mid to late twenties, because your brain still isn't fully developed! WHAT?? lol In fifty years they'll probably say you need to be thirty-five! I would also like to add that back in the old days, it was fine for a thirty year old and a fifteen year old to be together. Again, nothing has changed except for opinions, but I won't go there...

But I digress.

Basically, I couldn't disagree with your mom more if she'd said I was good looking, or that pigs had wings.

HOWEVER she IS your mom, and as such I fully respect her opinions concerning your relationships, as well as her authority on the matter, and you should as well.
I know it's asking a lot since this is a long post, but please read the entire thing. If not, then at least read the middle and end.


I don't think there is a certain age at which it becomes acceptable or proper to date. In fact, I think there are too many age restrictions on things like this.

For example, just a few generations ago it was okay for a fourteen year old to get married. Married! lol And now a lot of people think that's too young to even start dating. Why? There was nothing wrong with people back then, and they were making the life altering decision of marriage at that very age. If anything people are worse now than they were then, and I think that's because of a few reasons. By the time you're in your twenties, you're set in your ways, and two people that are past the point of changing, struggle to get along in the same house (since they come from two different ways of thinking most often).

I'll say this: the only thing that has changed since those days is our perception of things. If we heard of a fourteen year old getting married today, we would fuss about how they weren't capable at that age of caring for a family. NEWSFLASH: a fourteen year old human is no less developed now than they were seventy years ago when they were fully capable of raising families. Society has simply determined that those days should no longer exist. And it's getting worse! Now they're saying you shouldn't have a serious relationship until your mid to late twenties, because your brain still isn't fully developed! WHAT?? lol In fifty years they'll probably say you need to be thirty-five! I would also like to add that back in the old days, it was fine for a thirty year old and a fifteen year old to be together. Again, nothing has changed except for opinions, but I won't go there...

But I digress.

Basically, I couldn't disagree with your mom more if she'd said I was good looking, or that pigs had wings.

HOWEVER she IS your mom, and as such I fully respect her opinions concerning your relationships, as well as her authority on the matter, and you should as well.
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I would like to troll Eirinn on this one. Good argument and facts. Just would like to add that in my opinion,  its not a date till you pay for the date yourself with the money you earn yourself. Or you could always opt out and go to a skate park ...or better yet stay home and hang on vizzed.
I would like to troll Eirinn on this one. Good argument and facts. Just would like to add that in my opinion,  its not a date till you pay for the date yourself with the money you earn yourself. Or you could always opt out and go to a skate park ...or better yet stay home and hang on vizzed.
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I'd have to say that around 15-16. Just due to the fact that teenagers have had a chance to mature and the relationship will become more "real" and meaningful. 

Of course like many others have said, there isn't really a proper age for a relationship, after all love and attraction aren't that easy to define. Regardless of the answer though, the relationship should still follow the laws about age of consent and other legal stuff that exists for a reason. 

After all love works in mysterious ways, as they say!
I'd have to say that around 15-16. Just due to the fact that teenagers have had a chance to mature and the relationship will become more "real" and meaningful. 

Of course like many others have said, there isn't really a proper age for a relationship, after all love and attraction aren't that easy to define. Regardless of the answer though, the relationship should still follow the laws about age of consent and other legal stuff that exists for a reason. 

After all love works in mysterious ways, as they say!
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Depends on what you mean by relationship. There's a few different kinds: plain friendship, platonic dating, and sexual are the main three off the top of my head.

A plain friendship (yes, that is okay with someone of the other sex) can happen at any age. Everyone should agree with that

A dating relationship that does
not involve sex (or even groping or so-called "lesser" things like that) can start around 16-17 years old, but you have to keep a couple of things in mind as well:
   1) Dating is a way of testing how "marriageable" someone is for you.
   2) Dating for dating's sake should not happen. Period. It leads to some pretty stupid decisions in the future. Date only if you think you might marry the person (I'd say around a 75% chance or higher).
   3) As dating is a precursor to marriage, you shouldn't start dating someone too early, as even though you may end up marrying, having too long of a period between when you start dating and when you get married can be harmful to your relationship. 2-3 years is a good amount of time to get to know someone before marrying, so if you'll get married at 18, starting at 16 is fine. If you're getting married at 20-21, start dating at 18, or be very careful if you start earlier.

Any sort of sexual relationship should only be with your spouse. If you are not married, don't have sex. This rule can make or break your marriage.

If you find someone you are attracted to before then, become friends with them. Just friends. If you have a chance of something real with them, you'll quickly become something more like best friends. Yes, people say this leads to being "friendzoned" but the best relationships are founded on a strong friendship.

To sum things up, the proper age for a relationship isn't necessarily how old you are (Mid teens at the youngest though, IMO), but how long until you will marry the person - about 3 years.
Depends on what you mean by relationship. There's a few different kinds: plain friendship, platonic dating, and sexual are the main three off the top of my head.

A plain friendship (yes, that is okay with someone of the other sex) can happen at any age. Everyone should agree with that

A dating relationship that does
not involve sex (or even groping or so-called "lesser" things like that) can start around 16-17 years old, but you have to keep a couple of things in mind as well:
   1) Dating is a way of testing how "marriageable" someone is for you.
   2) Dating for dating's sake should not happen. Period. It leads to some pretty stupid decisions in the future. Date only if you think you might marry the person (I'd say around a 75% chance or higher).
   3) As dating is a precursor to marriage, you shouldn't start dating someone too early, as even though you may end up marrying, having too long of a period between when you start dating and when you get married can be harmful to your relationship. 2-3 years is a good amount of time to get to know someone before marrying, so if you'll get married at 18, starting at 16 is fine. If you're getting married at 20-21, start dating at 18, or be very careful if you start earlier.

Any sort of sexual relationship should only be with your spouse. If you are not married, don't have sex. This rule can make or break your marriage.

If you find someone you are attracted to before then, become friends with them. Just friends. If you have a chance of something real with them, you'll quickly become something more like best friends. Yes, people say this leads to being "friendzoned" but the best relationships are founded on a strong friendship.

To sum things up, the proper age for a relationship isn't necessarily how old you are (Mid teens at the youngest though, IMO), but how long until you will marry the person - about 3 years.
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