I'm asking this question because literally 85 to 95% of the guys I know enjoy pornography. Its very sick as well as sad because I have fought that battle before. Not an immense secret because 80% of teens are. The only way I was ever able to stop was because I hated it and I had people to hold me accountable for it, plus it just wasn't really that heavy of an addiction. But these guys don't have a problem with it. I was wondering how you break a heavy addiction like that.

If it's internet pornography, They can put up a block for sites like that, like BSafeOnline.com. or X3Watch.com for example.

There are also other resources like these books:
Every Man's Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Purity One Victory at a Time by Stephen Arterburn, Pure Freedom: Breaking the Addiction to Pornography by Mike Cleveland, and The Game Plan by Joe Dallas.

Porn is definitely a tough addiction. I'd say unless you know Christ as your saviour, the addiction is going to be tougher to overcome.

Get a girlfriend.

^ Agreed a bit.

Either way it is not going to be easy to beat. It is just like any other addiction you are filling a void in your life with this addiction. You can take many steps to block it and when would be block the damn sites. Then you might want to find a good girl friend.

billythekidmonster : That's interesting. I agree that it is because of emptiness, but how do you deal with the temptation to look for porn?





Annette : getting a girlfriend to help with an addiction is a good way to stay single in the 1st place.

I know that if I look that kind of stuff up I probably will not be able to stop. I also keep myself around people a lot of the time and find that kind of "orgasmic" joy in other places. It is all about trying to find something else that gives you the same experience but is less destructive.

This is probably going to surprise a lot of people, but I don't enjoy porn at all. I've seen very little and that's only from clicking links friends have shown. I've never taken the initiative on it and I find porn boring really.

Best way to break it is to punish yourself for looking at it. Same for alcohol and etc. Eventually your mind will get it's not good for you because porn=pain.

I actually don't watch porn at all, but if I started to get addicted to this, I would probably use blocking techniques, that would probably help better, but Annette's very very brief point can help too, getting a girlfriend can distract the habit.

Porn is fake. Nothing like real intimacy with your significant other, your partner. You can't learn the truth about sex from pornography. It doesn't deal in truth. Pornography is not an accurate portrayal of women or men. I would seek help from a pastor, counselor, or even psychologist depending how deeply rooted or chronic the persons addiction may have gotten.

The best advise as said previously is find a partner.

I heard an interesting statistic recently....

Something like 90+% of men getting divorced admitted to regularly viewing pornography before their divorce was decided on.

Food for thought

Well, am not really towards watching it....or really going to buy a CD..or whatsoever...I find it a bit like a master(man)- slave(woman) relation mostly but maybe there are exceptions....I find it disgusting....I watched few times..but I don't really enjoy that kind of attitude....So what I want to say...But I do agree that it's not real intimacy like said by "usermike" .....It really is a bad addiction....but people should learn to control their desire, maybe with experience....but if people is really addicted to that...they can't real aim at a goal in life...they won't be concentrated like a way..in something....that's really bad...and many thing would go bad..like "education, family life, marital life,own status,not to enjoy life independency, being a modern slave to pronography..."..In sum people should be free minded.....and pornography is in fact a set up...of a model..people who do that..like business or professional career , it is never good to lose yourself...in that...and after all what would you get nothing, just a time lost gone....and benefited to nothing....Mentalities need to changed....these are things like a labyrinth, once your in your totally lost...and beauty has a large range.....admire it but don't be a slave to it....i.e "love the sea you see around you but don't try to know it's depth....or.....enjoy the space around you don't try to know the infinite space....as the search would be infinite and one's life definitely finite"

for all of you guys that think porn is harmless you should read this:

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/cupids-poisoned-arrow/201107/porn-induced-sexual-dysfunction-is-growing-problem

Using porn will make real sexual relationships problematic. Something to think about

Wow. That is pretty crazy. I never imagined that this kind of self fulfillment could cause a man to no longer be turned on by the real thing. It is interesting what you can do to your own mind.

In my opinion, pornography is like anything else that makes a person feel good. I don't think it's more inherently dangerous than anything else; it's just high-profile, because more people are interested in sexuality than any other particular recreational pursuit; its universal appeal makes it a larger market than most other entertainment.

But anything can be addicting. I seem to have the personality type really, really vulnerable to addictions. I feel an addiction is a problem when and only when you start to make decisions that interfere with other parts of your life in service to this addiction. I tend to go through waves, where various things do that to me; pornography was one of them, for a time. But I simply got bored, and instead of going into that spiral of seeking out more extreme things, I simply looked to something else. It seems I always have a few obsessions; one is always computer programming, but I'm satisfying that at work now. For my off-hours, I'm playing video games again- but video games, unlike the Internet, end, and honestly become repetitive faster. In the past, video gaming did me a lot of harm; now, I've gotten sort of accustomed to it and it's safer to go back to than a lot of other addictions.

I guess I don't see porn as anything different. I think addictions are commonplace. Porn just has a much larger fan base, and by simple base rates will be highly-represented in the community of addictions. But, relative to the number of people interested in a thing at all, is pornography really more addicting than other things?

I have never met a person that claimed to be addicted to porn who actually was. They just like the hormones that being aroused let loose in their system. A true addict to porn would take it over real sex, and I've yet to hear of that happening.

But how to break it... same way you break any "addiction", find a new hobby that you enjoy just as much.

Elara : Then wouldn't you just be replacing the old addiction for a new one?

Sometimes educating oneself with a certain subject is all it takes. If you look deeper into the problem and ask questions like: "who are these women?" or "what are their lives like?" and "is this really what sex is supposed to be?"  then I'm certain that you will really ask yourself questions about why you do this. It probably won't get you to quit cold turkey, but it's a start. From there you can:

- get into a relationship - When/if I get a girlfriend, there will be a sense of accomplishment and fulfillment. I can't imagine someone returning to porn so soon after that. The long-term may be more complicated, but this is a good step.

- watch anime/read manga - Some of the manga I read is well not for all ages. But it's not really dirty either. Sometimes just a change of sources or a good story or book can kick the porn out the window (literally and/or figuratively).

- discipline - if one really wants to kick a porn habit - or any habit for that matter - one must take the initiative to change. I'd suggest telling someone about the problem. It'll be a lifted burden, plus, if it's a friend then they'll likely send some understanding and care your way. 

I feel that younger people turn to pornography as a means of answering the urges that they begin to feel at that age. I'd just give them time to get off it. I can't speak for older viewers, however, I'm sure it has to do with a sense of satisfying a sexual want that for whatever reason isn't being fulfilled. Maybe their relationship isn't doing well, maybe they can't someone to start a relationship with, and so on. There are usually greater troubles at work in those cases. Address them, and the porn problem will likely get solved. For every other case, perhaps see a psychologist? 

get out more and talk to some hot chicks

NotJon : Not necessarily. If you drink a lot, and take up painting to fill the time you'd normally be at a bar... are you therefore addicted to painting? No, you're not. If you read instead of watching porn, or take up a sport, you are not addicted. Now, if you take up smoking or drinking instead of porn... or any habit that produces a chemical dependency, then yes, that is replacing it with another addiction.

Elara : I was trying to imply with the that I was kidding...I FAILED.

NotJon : If  it makes you feel better, I didn't even see the

I think porn is just nasty. Seriously, find something better to do. Someting constructive.

To be honest, I used to really be into porn and I'd view it a few times a day. But now I'm off of that habit, and I view it much, much less than I used to.

My suggestion? Ease off of it gradually. Going cold turkey doesn't work for most addictions and it won't work here too. Try to get yourself down to about one viewing a day, and then make it less and less explicit porn. It works like a charm, for me at least.

JazzCoon : Quite frankly porn is a massive problem with young guys and it has been known to end marriages and relationships.

JazzCoon : I think I missed the part where the forums of this site had to be only about the big massive problems with the world. I thought that forums here were open to discuss pretty much any topic that we want. Just because people posted here doesn't mean they don't think the issues your brought up are not important. Also, if that is what you want to talk about, then why don't you make a thread about it and talk about it. Don't talk down to everyone here for posting in a thread about the topic that it was made for. 

JazzCoon : Stupid to complain about!?! How about you fight that battle before you come here again. Yeah ruined lives are stupid to complain about!!(sarcasm)Pornography stems from the same root that pedophilia and rape.

I'm going to ask you guys not get at each others throats over this.

As I've said before, I've seen a bit of it, and I don't care for it. Not because it's immoral or sleazy or bad for me, but because I'm not attracted to a girl that everyone else can and probably will look at.

I'd rather have an exclusive girlfriend than masturbate over the same pixels everyone else does.

As far as Jazz's argument goes, I agree it's not a major issue, but I won't go as far to say it isn't an issue at all. Some people get addicted to it, like people get addicted to sex or caffeine or anything else. That doesn't mean it shouldn't be talked about, but it also doesn't mean it should be made a bigger deal than it really is.

In general, yes, porn is immoral, but that doesn't mean one should simply condemn others for looking at it. Many things make one watch porn. Loneliness, lust, whatever it is. The best cure is to find the root, why are you looking at porn? Once you find the root, eliminate it.

If you are doing it because you are lonely, go get a girlfriend or meet people.
If you are doing it because you are lusting, go to a bar and hookup with someone.
It's not open and shut simple as that, but there are many small steps on the road to recovery. You can't leap over all of them at the same time.

Look at me, posting for once in my life, isn't it a miracle? I have to say I sort of agree with Jazz, but there are many good points throughout the entire thread. But think about it, The smut industry probably runs a good portion of the economy, so the cons of completely demolishing it are also quite bad.

JazzCoon : At times like this, you make me smile.

I don't think porn is a waste of time. It's just another way of spending time when you're bored, or doing something to please & entertain yourself. I'd compare porn to chocolate cake. It's fine to eat chocolate cake and enjoy it, but don't spend all day eating chocolate cake, and don't ONLY eat chocolate cake. xD
Pretty much anyone saying that porn is "A complete unconstructive waste of time and therefore people should stop!" while posting on a videogame chatroom (both technically "pointless" things with no tangible end goal) is being a hypocrite anyways, LOL.

JazzCoon : I assure you there is nothing personal. Obviously you guys have your view on how much it is a problem compared to others. But I disagree with people who don't think it is not a problem at all. I think for anyone to think that(not saying you guys), especially since lots of people including myself have dealt with the problem, shows they don't understand it. But that's just my viewpoint.

Annette : lol I agree with youXD 

Go out and have real sex with a girl that you've fallen in love with....>.>?

I remember there was a psychology study to see the differences in relationships between genders of people that watch porn and that don't and on trying to find men that didn't watch porn they couldn't find one person, ill have to look back into my psychology books and find the study to link it and edit this later but its true the porn industry is humongous.

As for addiction I didn't realise it was so serious i don't think i know one person that doesn't watch porn whos a guy and i have many friends that are girls who watch it. Also I know for a fact that some couples actually watch porn together not because they need to, to get aroused as in over an addiction but out of pleasure, they can function adequately without it anyway but occasionally prefer to watch it together.
I think it takes a lot for a person to get a heavy addiction to porn and some statistics may not be reliable but it is true that some bad events have transpired with blame being laid on porn. Lets not forget Ted Bundy blamed his psychosis on violent porn. This however is very rare and although I'm not trying to advertise porn (i don't need to) I will say I don't think it's as bad as a few people make it out to be like, a lot of the time it's just something to do out of boredom. 

Yeah people these days watch porn about 60-90% of the time. I really think that is a waste of time, but to some people it's entertaining.

I used to pretty much be addicted to it. Then I just sort of stopped using it pretty much all at once.

Probably, because of what Annette said. haha.

I do think this thread has a pretty good bias in it... Porn is not "evil" or "bad," it is one or more consenting adults engaging in sex. Sex is not bad. and masturbation is not bad.
Really the only time I watch porn is when I feel the need to take care of myself. I feel it is better to masturbate than have sex with random women because that leads to pregnancy and/or diseases.
If a person is "addicted" to it, then they need to go to see someone. Any sort of addiction is bad.

NameEntry : My impression is Hoochman views it as an addiction that he does not want to have...therefore, how is the thread biased?

Just that porn is "evil" and "bad." It's just a thing, like a gun or a video game.

By watching gay porn.

Why do you need to break the addiction though? It's not like it matters. Okay, once it starts interfering with the way you see the gender of your choice than I supposed you have to stop. I guess I have nothing to really say except do what they say ^

They are more hot with their clothes on.

I don't really have that addiction. All you need is a hobby, a job, and a girlfriend / boyfriend to keep from making it worse. Porn is just an escape sometimes.

I'd have to agree with Rodzilla. Never been addicted to porn. However, any other addictions I've had to break, cold turkey seemed to work best.

Annette : well, that kinda summed it up in 3 words.

I would say like give your computer away, or have someone else set up a block for you. Make it either impossible or very hard to access a porn site.

Rodzilla : Incidentally, Rodzilla would be a great name for a porn actor...

Well I'm going to agree with Rodzilla on this one because this sounds so true.

Annette : I laughed sooooooooooooo hard at this because I was thinking the exact same thing they just need to get a girlfriend but even for some guys all they want is more and for them it's just hopeless

I'm not addicted to porn, but sometimes I use it. People who say "porn is dirty and disgusting" but have a huge stash are hypocrites. And I know a few people who are like that.

So watching porn makes you an addict? Me and my wife watch it sometimes, so we are addicts? C'mon now.  you need to watch that crappy Mtv show called true life: I'm addicted to porn. You'll see your error.

Wow, I never thought that kids your age would already be addicted to porn.  I know there's a lot of it out there, especially on the web.  I struggle with this issue and I'm 56.  One thing I know, pornography is a dead-end street.  Using porn isolates a person and brings a lot of shame and embarrassment along with it.  As for a way to avoid it -- I can tell you that staying busy helps.  Also being honest with other people and holding yourself accountable to them in regards to your use of porn.

Sadly, even network TV bombards us with soft porn.  There's no way to avoid this unless one wants to become a cloistered monk or nun!  I would say that, if you are involved in a church, talk to them about your addiction.  If not, look for someone to talk to about how you feel when you want to look at it.  Above all, do not isolate yourself.  Be a people person and take up hobbies that keep you busy and away from the source of porn. 

While I agree that putting blockers on computers can help, there are always ways around that.  It's like putting a screen door on a submarine.  I know how hard it is to break this addiction!

May I ask why you believe it is an addiction and something that needs to be broken?

Every guy watches porn. Yes, you. And yes, your guy/boyfriend/husband/dad/brother/priest. To be adicted to it means there is no time for anything else basically.

I thought this was a family site. And, I don't know about you guys, but my family doesn't talk about this stuff. I'm all about breaking bad addictions, but I don't think subjects like this should be fodder for vizzed. And no to that one guy who said it, not every guy watches porn. That's kind of one of those things that I think sets me aside from most guys.

Local Mods : feel free to close it if you see fit. You have my vote.

I don't think this needs to be closed personally.. 

Whilst pornography is a touchy subject for some people, merely talking about trying to solve an addiction won't bring any harm.. 

Also  it's already under an "adults" sub forum...


and let's face it who openly talks about porn with their family......

I am all for this being a family friendly site, but I am very sorry if my answer to a question posted here or my answer to it (which I will stay behind of) has offended you. I would only like to remind you that no bad words have been used and if here is the more adult side of the site where we are allowed to discuss more adult issues, we should be free to do so. I am sorry on my part if I have caused any ill will, but I only thought we can all do this here and the kids and people who are more sensitive would not venture here, on this part of the site.

I guess I was wrong and for that, I am sorry if that was the case.

Not trying to be a downer here, but getting a girl shouldn't become a solution. It almost seems like you're dating her for sex... idk that's just what I got out of it  

If its on the Internet block it, if its videos take them away.