I'm asking this question because literally 85 to 95% of the guys I know enjoy pornography. Its very sick as well as sad because I have fought that battle before. Not an immense secret because 80% of teens are. The only way I was ever able to stop was because I hated it and I had people to hold me accountable for it, plus it just wasn't really that heavy of an addiction. But these guys don't have a problem with it. I was wondering how you break a heavy addiction like that.
If it's internet pornography, They can put up a block for sites like that, like BSafeOnline.com. or X3Watch.com for example.
There are also other resources like these books:
Every Man's Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Purity One Victory at a Time by Stephen Arterburn, Pure Freedom: Breaking the Addiction to Pornography by Mike Cleveland, and The Game Plan by Joe Dallas.
Porn is definitely a tough addiction. I'd say unless you know Christ as your saviour, the addiction is going to be tougher to overcome.
Either way it is not going to be easy to beat. It is just like any other addiction you are filling a void in your life with this addiction. You can take many steps to block it and when would be block the damn sites. Then you might want to find a good girl friend.
I know that if I look that kind of stuff up I probably will not be able to stop. I also keep myself around people a lot of the time and find that kind of "orgasmic" joy in other places. It is all about trying to find something else that gives you the same experience but is less destructive.
This is probably going to surprise a lot of people, but I don't enjoy porn at all. I've seen very little and that's only from clicking links friends have shown. I've never taken the initiative on it and I find porn boring really.
Best way to break it is to punish yourself for looking at it. Same for alcohol and etc. Eventually your mind will get it's not good for you because porn=pain.
I actually don't watch porn at all, but if I started to get addicted to this, I would probably use blocking techniques, that would probably help better, but Annette's very very brief point can help too, getting a girlfriend can distract the habit.
Porn is fake. Nothing like real intimacy with your significant other, your partner. You can't learn the truth about sex from pornography. It doesn't deal in truth. Pornography is not an accurate portrayal of women or men. I would seek help from a pastor, counselor, or even psychologist depending how deeply rooted or chronic the persons addiction may have gotten.
The best advise as said previously is find a partner.
Well, am not really towards watching it....or really going to buy a CD..or whatsoever...I find it a bit like a master(man)- slave(woman) relation mostly but maybe there are exceptions....I find it disgusting....I watched few times..but I don't really enjoy that kind of attitude....So what I want to say...But I do agree that it's not real intimacy like said by "usermike" .....It really is a bad addiction....but people should learn to control their desire, maybe with experience....but if people is really addicted to that...they can't real aim at a goal in life...they won't be concentrated like a way..in something....that's really bad...and many thing would go bad..like "education, family life, marital life,own status,not to enjoy life independency, being a modern slave to pronography..."..In sum people should be free minded.....and pornography is in fact a set up...of a model..people who do that..like business or professional career , it is never good to lose yourself...in that...and after all what would you get nothing, just a time lost gone....and benefited to nothing....Mentalities need to changed....these are things like a labyrinth, once your in your totally lost...and beauty has a large range.....admire it but don't be a slave to it....i.e "love the sea you see around you but don't try to know it's depth....or.....enjoy the space around you don't try to know the infinite space....as the search would be infinite and one's life definitely finite"
In my opinion, pornography is like anything else that makes a person feel good. I don't think it's more inherently dangerous than anything else; it's just high-profile, because more people are interested in sexuality than any other particular recreational pursuit; its universal appeal makes it a larger market than most other entertainment.
But anything can be addicting. I seem to have the personality type really, really vulnerable to addictions. I feel an addiction is a problem when and only when you start to make decisions that interfere with other parts of your life in service to this addiction. I tend to go through waves, where various things do that to me; pornography was one of them, for a time. But I simply got bored, and instead of going into that spiral of seeking out more extreme things, I simply looked to something else. It seems I always have a few obsessions; one is always computer programming, but I'm satisfying that at work now. For my off-hours, I'm playing video games again- but video games, unlike the Internet, end, and honestly become repetitive faster. In the past, video gaming did me a lot of harm; now, I've gotten sort of accustomed to it and it's safer to go back to than a lot of other addictions.
I guess I don't see porn as anything different. I think addictions are commonplace. Porn just has a much larger fan base, and by simple base rates will be highly-represented in the community of addictions. But, relative to the number of people interested in a thing at all, is pornography really more addicting than other things?
I have never met a person that claimed to be addicted to porn who actually was. They just like the hormones that being aroused let loose in their system. A true addict to porn would take it over real sex, and I've yet to hear of that happening.
But how to break it... same way you break any "addiction", find a new hobby that you enjoy just as much.
Elara : Then wouldn't you just be replacing the old addiction for a new one?
Sometimes educating oneself with a certain subject is all it takes. If you look deeper into the problem and ask questions like: "who are these women?" or "what are their lives like?" and "is this really what sex is supposed to be?" then I'm certain that you will really ask yourself questions about why you do this. It probably won't get you to quit cold turkey, but it's a start. From there you can:
- get into a relationship - When/if I get a girlfriend, there will be a sense of accomplishment and fulfillment. I can't imagine someone returning to porn so soon after that. The long-term may be more complicated, but this is a good step.
- watch anime/read manga - Some of the manga I read is well not for all ages. But it's not really dirty either. Sometimes just a change of sources or a good story or book can kick the porn out the window (literally and/or figuratively).
- discipline - if one really wants to kick a porn habit - or any habit for that matter - one must take the initiative to change. I'd suggest telling someone about the problem. It'll be a lifted burden, plus, if it's a friend then they'll likely send some understanding and care your way.
I feel that younger people turn to pornography as a means of answering the urges that they begin to feel at that age. I'd just give them time to get off it. I can't speak for older viewers, however, I'm sure it has to do with a sense of satisfying a sexual want that for whatever reason isn't being fulfilled. Maybe their relationship isn't doing well, maybe they can't someone to start a relationship with, and so on. There are usually greater troubles at work in those cases. Address them, and the porn problem will likely get solved. For every other case, perhaps see a psychologist?
NotJon : Not necessarily. If you drink a lot, and take up painting to fill the time you'd normally be at a bar... are you therefore addicted to painting? No, you're not. If you read instead of watching porn, or take up a sport, you are not addicted. Now, if you take up smoking or drinking instead of porn... or any habit that produces a chemical dependency, then yes, that is replacing it with another addiction.