I have had this appearance many times in my life. I have been dumped because the girl doesn't love me anymore. But what I found out was that she turned homosexual. This was a horrible shocking news for me. How does it feel being dumped and what's the reason for it?

Well my story wasn't like that. I was so into this girl before as she was into me. We both loved each other, but my parents thought it was just puppy love, but no. Not with her parents. It was far worse. That day when we was in her room. Just hanging out and having a good time. Her father came in and saw me there and blew a gasket. He could not stand me what so ever. Well that day when we was at school and we was all heading home for the day. I came across her father and confronted him why he didn't like me. He told me and I quote (You are not chinse. I don't like American white boys) I snapped and told him if he didn't like America, then get the hell out. I ignored the white boy comment and that was the last time I saw her.

I have been dumped twice.. The second time I was only with her for 5 hours so i didn't care XD... Well anyway the first time I thought I was in deep love, I had even told her that 1 year into dating. The day I told her I loved her she started acting weird around me, i didn't really notice , the the day after I had told her my feelings to her she passed me a note ran away. I read it, it was a break up letter, and i started crying for days.. I thought the world was over, but later I noticed I felt A LOT better than ever because I realized she stopped coming into my mind too often, I used to think about her all the time 24/7. This was a PERFECT lesson for me not to be so pushy and clingy.

-Sorry if this reply has spelling mistakes and had bad grammar I didn't double check this time XD

Yes and it really sucks. He told me he loved me and that he would never leave me and I loved him very much and... we had really great conversations all the time and everything and one day he left me for his first love he said.. so as another girl.... It was my first heartbreak I cried for over 2 weeks every day and I never could stop thinking about it.. but I feel alot better now these days.

Natas : Wow, he was so racist. I would not care what he says as long as that girl loved you, you both would have been together for a long time.

Being dumped by my BF was not really the funniest thing in the whole world. He thought that being with me was a more of a hassle then anything. It made me feel like I was really worth anything at all. 

Being dumped after having a long-term and serious relationship was probably one of the worst things I have experienced.

It was almost like grieving the loss of a close friend. I will never have that friendship again, or experience closeness with that person, and I might not ever see him again either. Obviously, the difference is my ex is not actually dead.

But, thankfully I am not in pain over this any more.

Annette : Awe, poor you.  I hope things will turn out good for you.

Marcmoney : Thanks, but I am feeling fine now. In the end it was for the better - If someone has changed and the feelings are not there any more, both people need to move on. It was not so devastating that I couldn't pick myself up and just be happy being single for a while.

I have never been in to many relationships in my life and usually I would be doing the dumping and it has hurt a lot.  I can explain why if it peaks peoples interests however I have been dumped once... I was dating a 19 year old lady when I had just turned 18. Just graduated High school and we've been together for almost two years before she dumped me. In all honesty it hurt to be dumped(When you get to know someone on that level)  but after a week I got over it pretty fast because of the reasons behind it.


Just before I had turn 21 I had been really busy with school because finals were around the corner and I was working a full time job as well to get on by. She fell into a bad crowd that I didn't pay much attention to because when I asked her she would make something up about them which was not true. I'll keep this post clean but after a few months of her hanging out with these friends. I started noticing the signs of a drug addict (She was always out of money and had the look of exhaustion on her face, very twitchy)... I had just finished my AA degree and took a year off of school. When I found out what was happening I was completely shocked. I pleaded with her to stop, to check into rehab. I would be with her every step of the way. It turned into massive fights and a few weeks after she broke up with me because she said she doesn't need a man who wants to change her when she is "loving her life".

It broke my heart. I fell in love with this woman and she just wasn't having it... After about a week or so of having time to myself and thinking about what had happen over the past few months. I realized that I am better off. If she chose to do that then that is her choice and I have no right to force her to change but I will never submit myself to be around someone who chooses to abuse drugs.

I have actually had one girlfriend that I broke up with (not her breaking up with me) and found out from my circle of friends a few years later that she turned lesbian. In the best words possible, I was shocked.

Anyways, the last relationship I had that ended, I almost killed myself (literally [long story]).

It was recently actually, and I'm over her now; it just took time. Btw we were off and on in dating for about 12 years. I have dated since so I think time does heal and it is possible to move on.

With my first girlfriend, it was like someone punched me in the gut and then spit on me. She dropped me for ultimately petty reasons and claimed the reason we didn't get to do much together was because I didn't want her or something stupid. I was very hurt and rather mad.

When my current girlfriend dumped me (yeah we're back together again) it was like someone punched me while I was numb. The only thing I could feel for hours was a dull pain that drained me of all my energy. Eventually it was just sadness: I was upset that she dumped me, but even moreso when I found out it was only because she was depressed and trying to convince herself she didn't need anyone. It was the worst two weeks of my life; she was constantly upset, only turning to me because I wouldn't let her try and be alone, which only made the pain from the break-up last longer. There was a constant hollow in the pit of my stomach. It was constant torture.

cameraguy256 : For the record, saying "I love you" for the first time after dating for a year is in no way "pushy or clingy". Saying it after a hour or so, yes. A year, no way. It just means that she was too immature for an actual relationship.

tRIUNE : Generally they don't "turn" unless they are not serious and just experimenting.

My experiences have run the gamut from ultimate depression to "ok, that's cool". I've also had one mutual break-up that had me laughing... I said that I was tired him ignoring me all the time, and that I wanted out. He then said, via voicemail a day later, "Well, I'm breaking up with you since I don't think you are mature enough for a relationship." It turned out well though, and we both laugh about it now.

There were two really bad breakups that I have gone through. The first was with my first fiance, who left me for another woman. I went days without eating, I could barely sleep, I didn't care about anything. I felt nothing, literally, nothing... and then such acute flashes of anger or sadness that I felt like dying. The guy who I ended up dating next really pulled me out of it by getting me to eat and to laugh, and despite the crap that happened when we broke up (that is the next story), I am still grateful for what he did for me there.

So the next relationship... yeah, we had a few break ups, but the last one was the bad one. He gave me the "it's not you, it's me" line and left, but I had different versions from other friends as to why... and in a nutshell, he left me to chase after his ex-girlfriend that had strung him along previously,, since I had made it clear that "open relationships" would not be an option with me. I chased after him for seven months, basically doing things as if we were still dating... I hung out all the time, paid for things, drove him places, and made a general fool of myself... and he reciprocated, in private. It blew up when I found out that the entire time that I was chasing after him, he was also sleeping with two other women, both of whom were my friends, and swore them to silence. He was lucky that he was out of the state when I found out. It is hard to describe the feeling of rage and betrayal that I felt at that moment, though I will say that several of my friends were very impressed with my level of self control. But yeah... have you ever seen someone get so angry that they stop yelling and just get really quiet and cold? That is where I was.

Elara :
Yeah I guess that makes sense. I heard that she started seeing girls, that's all I know; I didn't care to find out too much about it.

I've only been dumped once. And it was by my current girlfriend.

I don't want to go into detail since it was the worst experience of my life.

Let's just say I wanted to f***ing kill myself all of the next day.

Luckily we made up and got back together. Apparently she was very upset about it too.

Being dumped always hurts. Can you survive it? Yes! It takes time, but eventually you move on and will find someone who deserves you. I won't lie, it hurts like hell to be dumped. But it's not the end of the world. Life can go on.

For me it felt like your heart broke into thousands of parts to be coughed out, then leaving an empty void for a long time until you find another person. When your like that it fells like your a ghost and not seen.